Is it normal for a groom to have a special dance with his mother?

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I'm just wondering if this is something my MIL to be has come up with or if it's normal for a son and his mum to have a special dance that's just for the two of them at a wedding.

It sounds like a shit idea to me but perhaps I'm biased!

cornyderpy Mon 29-Apr-13 19:40:37

I went to a wedding once where the bride's father actually walked down the aisle with his daughter whilst the organist played them their own special song.

I couldn't believe it when he actually stood up during the speeches and made a speech - how attention seeking. He'd clearly rehearsed it - he kept looking at cue cards.

The icing on the cake was when he danced with his daughter.
So creepy and attention seeking.

EverybodysStressyEyed Mon 29-Apr-13 20:01:35

Good point corny - when I have been to weddings where a mother does a speech I have heard comments about her being attention seeking or a show off (except for the one where the father had died)

Tbh, every one I know who thinks their mil is difficult is also extremely difficult themselves!!

The thing is corny none of that will be happening at my wedding as my dad isn't going.

everybodysstressy you could be onto something there. I'm sure she's disappointed by me as her daughter-in-law. I don't do her son's washing, I won't be taking his surname, I expect him to pull his weight with housework. And my latest crime is that I'm planning to breast feed. Bearing in mind I'm not even pregnant I had to sit through a lecture the other day about how breast feeding is selfish and unfair on her son. DP pulled this face hmm when I told him.

TobyLerone Mon 29-Apr-13 21:32:19

None of that happened at my wedding either. DH still danced with his mum.

I fully expect them to dance with each other, just not to have a special dance just for them with very different music from what we are having played for the rest of the night.

Theironfistofarkus Mon 29-Apr-13 22:30:38

I'm sorry but while it is lovely for a son to dance with his Mum, it is plain weird for the music to change especially and for everyone to stop and watch the dance. I can see why she may want a few private words with her son. But a full on dance of her own with everyone watching is narcissism. This is her son and his wife's day, not hers.

nkf Tue 30-Apr-13 18:36:56

The bride and groom dance is weird too. They sort of sway there while people stand around watching. Bizarre.

Theironfistofarkus Tue 30-Apr-13 20:47:23

I agree nfk. I skipped it at my wedding. Might not have if I wasn't a crap dancer tho!

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