Friend wants to bring man she's never met?

(33 Posts)
PlacedInAnAwkwardPosition Mon 11-Mar-13 06:10:53

Please help me compose a reply to my lovely friend because I really just don't know what to say. And I don't want to sound like a complete cow, but...

I'm getting married in a few weeks. My friend has just asked if she can bring a plus one. Okay, but... She hasn't met him yet and may not have met him by the time of the wedding. They recently "met" on online dating and have been emailing loads and she thinks she's fallen for him. He's not in the UK and is looking to see if he can get flights here for the week of the wedding as it is my friend's birthday that week too.

Now, I'm all for a grand love story and I'm happy she's happy, she is a great friend. But I'm just not comfortable with having a random bloke at our wedding. He could be anyone. I've been on enough online dates in my time to know it's 1 in 100 that end up going anywhere! I know this makes me a cow but what can I say? Prepared to be told IABU here too so please give me your worst!

PlacedInAnAwkwardPosition Mon 11-Mar-13 13:10:10

Update, I told her that I wasn't quite comfortable with saying yes to someone she hasn't met yet, but if she does meet him before the wedding and decides she would like to see him again/bring him as her date then that'll be fine. She completely understand and said she'd never want to bring someone who she wasn't completely into and hopefully they'll be meeting this weekend. So, I have my fingers crossed, as who doesn't want their friends to meet the man of their dreams? And if she does, then I definitely want to meet him!

Thanks everyone for your views smile

ThingummyBob Mon 11-Mar-13 13:17:53

I think YABVU in not allowing a friend a plus one at your wedding grin

Weddings are miserable events to be at without a date/friend whatever!

YANBU to not want an internet randomer around on your big day.

<<gets off fence and removes splinters from bum>>

GladbagsGold Mon 11-Mar-13 13:21:31

Your friend's response sounds fine to me - I have to say I think every wedding needs a random person at it!

HorribleMother Mon 11-Mar-13 13:41:37

I wouldn't have a problem with it, either. Even if she had been dating the guy for years that doesn't mean OP would know he's not a loon.

Bet someone OP knows well will be the worst trouble-maker on the night.

If the guy is coming that week anyway for her birthday then that will put your friend in a horrible position. She will either have to cancel on you or leave him on his own for the day. Will one more person really make a difference?

Still18atheart Mon 11-Mar-13 13:56:12

YABU unless you didn't state friend + 1 on the invite

I couldn't imagine going to a wedding dateless

You never watched the movie the Wedding Date.

KatAndKit Sun 17-Mar-13 09:41:45

Going to a wedding dateless is not so bad. I met my fiance at a wedding so quite glad i attended it on my own really.
I do get what you mean about not wanting a bunch of people you don't know at your wedding. I have had similar issues with my family and do regret not putting my foot down a little bit.

TheChaoGoesMu Sun 17-Mar-13 22:23:44

Sounds like a great compromise op.

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