So.....
We're getting married in May '13. It's a small wedding that we're organising and funding entirely ourselves so we've had to be brutal with the guest list.
Problem no 1. My mum came over all confused about why my brothers girlfriend (not together long and we've never met) wasn't on the invitation. I replied to my brother that 'I hope you understand that it's a very small wedding and there's lots of people we'd like to be there who sadly we couldn't fit onto the guest list so +1's who we've never actually met have had to be bumped off the list. Sorry, let her know it's nothing personal we're just on a very tight budget and capacity. Hope that's ok.' It was ok.
This morning DP's mum calls about why his sisters boyfriend (not together long and we've never met) wasn't on the invitation. He askes me if DSis's DP can come, i remind of what we had to tell my family and he say's the two things are totally irrelevent to each other and 'it's just one more person'. I reminded him of catering costs being per person and is this someone you wasnt to replace an aunt/friend on the list. Now apparently this partner is coming and i have to find a way to justify this with my family.
Problem no. 2. My mum (again) wanted to find her MOTB outfit for my wedding. Just to set the scene this is a woman who wore a full length gold sequin emblazened ball gown to my late grandparents small anniversary party. She wants to wear some thing bright (this means flourescent) despite the theme being cream, pale blue and vintage lacey. I found some dresses that she agreed were 'acceptable' i bought them at my own expense for her to try. she then decides 3 months later (returns date long expired) that they don't make her feel 'special enough'. The dress she has now bought and is trying to bill me for is metalic turquiose with massive ruffles round the neckline. I was less than enthusiastic and she has now told my whole family that i have uninvited her and them to my wedding. Que numerous confused calls from relatives, some of whom we hadn't invited in the first place.
She's going to complealty overshodow me at my own wedding. She didn't come dress shopping with me, and refuses to acknowledge the wedding dress photo i sent her, meaning she hates it.
I knew both these things were likely to happen but they're making me sad. Ever day i have a new email with a list of things she has a problem with. By the time we actually marry i'll be on problem no 1,376 for you all to fix for me.
Sorry for the long post.
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KateTheClumsyStripper · 04/11/2012 13:18
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