Proposals ... how to stop obsessing

[tardisjumper]

Right, DP and I live together and have been together for just over 3 years. We are in our mid-20s.

I quite want to get married but I am not in any real rush. He knows my feelings on this. We talk quite frequently about having babies etc but know that is a while away in the future. He knows I have some money in the bank set aside for a wedding from an inheritance and have just started a savings account for maternity leave as I have just started a fairly well paid job which offers no maternity pay. I don't envisage having enough to use this for about 4/5 years.

The past few weeks I have been feeling like I would really really like to get married. For legal reasons, romantic reasons and having a big fat party reasons. However, I don't want to pressure him and have joked about it but not really talked about it more than normal.

He is pro-marriage but occassionally jokes that we could just have children and leave it at that. He also 'jokes' that we are happy as we are living together.

Then, out of the blue when we are looking at holiday destinations and he starts going on about how romantic a particular destination would be to propose. He also keeps going on about how romantic a weekend away we are having in a few weeks will be. He also keeps on asking his male friends who are in relationships if they are going to propose/why they haven't got married yet?

I keep on thinking maybe he is considering proposing but don't want to obsess as up until now I thought that was a couple of years of. He is also obsessing about this day he has off mid-week and what he is going to do with it as he is 'on his own'.

I keep on wondering if this means he is considering proposing.

Am I being an obsessive freak?

[melodyangel]

I had to wait 18 years for mine.

Sounds like your DP is rather more proactive. I would say it seems like he's building up to something.

But try to put it out of your mind and just enjoy it as and when it happens.

I take it you want to get married to him?

Oh and do come back and give us an update we are very nosy you know.