We are getting married in December, and planning to only have friends there. However we're not sure what to do about telling our families.
We have been together 11 years, have two small DCs and are in the process of moving house, so we don't have the time/energy/motivation to organise a big wedding. Instead we will be staying in a house with a group of 10 old friends (most of whom also have small DCs), and will have a register office ceremony in the morning followed by lunch, and then probably do something with the children in the afternoon before packing them off to bed so we can enjoy a few drinks.
We did consider just inviting our immediate families (parents, siblings and their partners/children), but that amounts to 14 people, which is a big increase on the size of the party. Also it would involve a fair bit of travelling for them, for an event that will be over in a couple of hours - although I suppose we shouldn't mind about this if they don't.
I don't particularly want to keep it secret from our families, but if we do tell them beforehand and get a bad reaction for not inviting them, obviously we'll feel under pressure to change our minds.
On the other hand, if we announce it after the event and get a similarly bad reaction, there's not much can do to redeem the situation.
What do other people think?
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Low-key wedding with friends, should we tell families beforehand?
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chillipickle · 29/10/2011 23:34
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