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argghhh......im stressed out now and i havent even booked it yet!!

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biglips · 13/01/2011 19:13

its about the number of family and friends to come to the wedding do (night time)....

Me and Dp's family on both sides (our mums and dads) got massive families. Then we are inviting close friends which ive got a handful of close friends, plus their husbands and kids but dp got alot of close friends, ie pool team, his business partner, mates that he still in touch and see them, and others that hes see now and again!! wtf!!! and im stressed!!! So top of our heads there will be about a million 200 people at the wedding do!! WE are having a very basic small wedding inviting just our auntys and uncles, nans and grandads.

We are gonna get married next year but on a very tight budget and find a hall that will accept our buffet.

i think i better start writing the names down to see how many there is on my side as my head gone all blurred!...

i do wish i come from a very small family!!

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raspberrytipple · 13/01/2011 19:57

I know the feeling, my mum has 3 brothers all with children who have their own children, ooodles of people on the other side and my step father has two sisters blah blah blah then double that again on DP's side of the family, crazy crazy numbers. That said, none of us are particularly close so we've just taken the gamble that they will get peeved that they weren't invited but we don't have enough to do with them to be worried.

It's your wedding, you need to have the people there that you want there. I went to an evening do once and got talking to the bride (I'd never met bride or groom - the groom was DPs mate from work) and she said she didnt know over 50% of people at the actual wedding let alone at the evening bit, she just looked so sad, i instantly felt horrific for being there but I felt really sorry for her.

I am determined that will not happen at our wedding, I want to know everyone there and for them to be people I speak to on a regular basis. plus depending on where you go or how you do food and booze each person will probably add at least another £10.00. :( I know how you feel though

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CarmenSales · 14/01/2011 10:11

Difficult 2 control number of guests Smile
Mine went bu the day Grin

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biglips · 14/01/2011 12:25

it is out of my control a little bit but just hope there be enough foods for everyone!!

ive wrote the family names out already (there is 40 and that is just the uncles, auntys, grandad and nans) and now gotta go onto the friends list....

argghhh!!

Grin

thanks for listening anyway

x

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melodyangel · 14/01/2011 16:57

Nice that you have lots of peeps that love you though! Big weddings are expensive but must be lots of fun - all that dancing!

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biglips · 14/01/2011 20:14

yes i know but you know!....

the buffet alone is gonna cost us a bomb...Shock Shock....cant i ask them to bring their own packed lunch!! Grin

BUT

we arent gonna be doing this every year as it just once in a life time (for me that is!! lol) so be it!.

but any ideas are welcome though (regarding the buffet) Grin

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melodyangel · 14/01/2011 20:35

Ah yes the packed lunch thing tee he! Grin

I wish I knew where to start with a buffet. Might have a go at a few dishes and see what ?I can make in advance/ freeze. If I can make most of it myself all the better though have a number of veggie and vegan guests so will need help there! Actually the only thing I have sorted so far is the cake! Know exactly what I'll be making and can't wait should be yummy - I hope!!!

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biglips · 14/01/2011 20:49

weve done a buffet before for our engagement and Dp did it all but weve got a very small kitchen...but the prob this time is that we havent got enough room to make it double and dp may fall asleep on our wedding day! Grin (this is his own words btw)

ive thought about freezing some stuff and family help out, ie they make whatever at their home..or we make half and then we will hire someone else to make the other half but who will carry all the stuff to the hall on our wedding day?? or we will leave the party a week after the wedding....

ideas are rattling around my head but the buffet is the biggest chunk out of our small simple wedding (as we are having 40 at the wedding - daytime)

total is now 250...we say about 150 - 180 will def turn up

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melodyangel · 14/01/2011 20:56

Wow that so many people. I think the biggest concern I would have is that you will be running around sorting it all out for weeks before wedding and then super busy on the day when really you should be relaxing and having a wonderful time!

Mid-wedding nap sounds like a fab idea BTW!!!

Although I'm not sure my DP would want to sleep! Grin

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biglips · 14/01/2011 23:34

so whens your wedding? as was thinking of a registery office in April next year. ive been with my fiance for 10 years now.

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dyzzidi · 14/01/2011 23:40

Right think long and hard about a group of friend who youare not inviting to the small day do and ask them instead of buying a wedding gift would they mind preparing a buffet for your evening party if you buy all the groceries.

Buy all the things you can in advance then arrange an Asda delivery on the morning of the wedding to one of said friends houses and leave them a cash float for anything you have forgotten or doesn't get delivered. a buffet for 200 people is really not that bad is four or five of you get together and do it.

I for one would gladly give my time to do it for a friend

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biglips · 26/01/2011 17:15

thanks dyzzidi. Sounds advice.

we are looking into doing that, hes willing to let some people to do the foods and take it over to the venue.

my mum said stuff the party and go have a mini-honeymoon and she'll look after the girls Grin Grin but dp wants a party to celebrate Grin

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melodyangel · 26/01/2011 23:29

Aw bless your Mum!

We seem to have decided on the beginning of June, I think, and it looks like I have an awful lot of cooking to do as I think I'm catering the whole thing although we only have about 50 guests. I have asked a couple of friends to help set up the tables etc. hopefully they will say yes! Then as we all have to walk past our house to get to the reception venue I shall get everyone to help carry the food over, should be jolly.

I just hope it doesn't rain too much!

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