Am I the only one waiting!!?(38 Posts)
I have a group of mummy friends, and our babies are all around the same age (15-22 weeks). We've been going a playgroup for a couple months now and it's been fab to hear how each others babies are getting on. I've had my mind opened to different parenting styles and ideas.
This week conversation moved to weaning onto solids, and I was surprised to hear that I'm the only one of my 11 friends who hasn't made a start. I know the advice is 26 weeks so just assumed most people would be waiting.
My dd is 20 weeks, but kinda felt that people were thinking I was being a bit precious about it all and wanting to keep my baby a baby for too long(may have been imagined!)
Are there other people out there waiting or have waited until week 26? Or am I being a bit too regimented with the guidelines? I have a lot of pressure from family to wean, every week I get 'oh just get a little jar of purée to try' or 'just dip a dummy into something sweet' I'm fed up repeating myself WE ARE WAITING! She's not even showing any of the signs of being ready yet!
I'd also quite like to try baby led weaning as I think it'll be the only way for me to tell if she is ready or not by week 26. Are there any other BLW people out there? Seemed like a foreign concept amongst my friends!
I had a very similar situation when I met up with my NCT group when our babies were about 5 months old. DS was the only one who hadn't started solids then. I got various comments from the other mums along the lines of "You need to start soon or he'll not be open to different tastes." So I know how you feel.
I also remember feeling slightly sick at the sight and thought of the courgette, apple and blueberry puree one of the babies was being fed!
Anyway, I let their comments wash over me and we waited till 6 months when we did BLW which has been great. (And in case you're wondering, he was very easy to wean, loves his food and eats a good variety of things!)
I made a rare trip to the baby clinic with DS when he was 5 months old. The health visitor asked how weaning was going....
I waited until 6 months. Not many seem to.
I'm waiting, I waited with my 2nd too. Much easier, much less stressful.
I'm waiting too - waited til 6 months with DS1, did BLW, totally unstressful.
I waited too. You're not the only one. Eating solids early makes no difference to sleep, or at least rarely and its not an indication of an "advanced baby".
I waited with both mine. I cannot understand why people want to make work for themselves by feeding a baby under 6 months solids. Nobody other than me waited in my antenatal group. Bizarre!
One of mine was a total giant baby as well an still is a giant child years later.
I waited until 26 weeks and he got a tummy bug, so actually, we didn't really get going until about 28 weeks and no adverse effects at all!
I was the last one in my NCT group too!
I'm waiting. Not had any comments about it yet and my son is 22 weeks. My mum and MIL both queried when I'd start weaning and I said the guidelines are 6 months now which they accepted easily without comment other than to say what they were advised (apart from my mum thinking it would be funny to give my son a taste of pomegranate at 8 weeks but that's another story).
Hoping to try BLW too. Just seems less of a faff and I'm a lazy parent!
I waited until 6 months for both of mine and did BLW weaning (finger foods) with my first and a mixture of BLW and purees for my second.
I found they both didn't really start "eating" until they were about 7/8 months, before that it seemed like they were playing with it. My DCs are huge as well and one was a great sleeper the other one definitely not.
My friend started her DS at 5 months as he was starving and he literally gulped the food down. He isn't abnormally large. In the grand scheme of things now much DCs are a bit older I don't think it matters if they start at 5 months or 6 months. However, I did try and stick to the current guidelines as it suited me and my DCs.
I'm waiting too, you're not alone! One of my nct group started at 18ish weeks, 'because he's so big'! But all the evidence point to there being no benefit, and more than a few risks if you wean too early.
I started weaning last week, when DS2 was 6 months old. HV had been asking about it since about 20 weeks but I held off. DS2 has taken really well to it & eats most things so far!
I waited until the night before his 6 month birthday a few weeks ago, and we are doing BLW! Still finding our feet but it's definitely the right decision for us! I get the impression people thought I was being precious for waiting too but I didn't let it bother me! Stick to your guns!
Actually due to an operation ds1 didn't start until he was 7 months! No adverse effects.
We started at 24 weeks. I wanted to do BLW but my twins were 6 weeks premature and not able to sit in a Bumbo/highchair for very long and feed themselves so I had to start slowly with purees. Advice for a prem baby is to wean between 5-7months.
Thought you might like [[http://www.analyticalarmadillo.co.uk/2011/01/starting-solids-facts-behind-todays.html this] OP [bsmile]
Total link failure sorry
Well, if the youngest babies are 15 weeks and well into weaning then they are going against even the advice for early weaning, which is 16 weeks onwards.
BLW was great for us because we knew when they were ready. DD1 went to very close to six months (think it was about 25 weeks). DD2 had a lot more time sitting around during toddler meals and started grabbing stuff at about 5 months, so we let her help herself a bit from then on.
Good to hear I'm not alone! It would be so easy just to fold to the pressure.
I'm still unsure about BLW, can anyone direct me to a website or book that gives a suggested method, foods to try first etc?
Ds is just 5 months and has just begun to show an interest in food
He sits in a high chair at the table when we eat
Going to wait at least a few more weeks before letting him have anything, he'll probably be 24/25 weeks when we start
We are going to do blw (to lazy to arse about with purées)
Hold your head up - you are following q guidelines
With my first two DC I fed at 4 mo, starting with baby rice.
For DC3 I waited until 6mo, and then just gave him normal food. It is somuch handier and way less fuss to wait.
DC3 was nearly 11 lbs, all of mine were big. Weaning 'early' did notbmakebthem sleep better/longer, or make them more settled, or help them grow ,more. It just caused a load of faff with purreeing and mushing, making baby food etc.
DC3 has exactly what we eat, sandwiches, soup, pasta-even fish and chips from the take away!!! )
Do not bend to pressure!
Sleepy bunny there are threads in here (can't link on phone) there is a blw website that has post from parents on and ideas (I've had a little browse previously to get my head round it) google baby lead weaning I think it's the 1st result
There is also a book (think gill rapley) there is an info book and a cook book
Depending on how much info you want there is enough in the cook book tbh
I basically take it as give baby normal food (certain things to be avoided) baby will play/try/eat etc on their own
Hope you find some info
Aitch runs a baby led weaning website, or there is a book by a woman called Gail Rapley. It's all pretty straightforward, but it gives you confidence first time round!
Ds is nearly 19 weeks and we'll wait till 6 calendar months which is my gran's 92nd birthday! Last night he sat in his high chair with a spoon while i ate and waggled a toy at him, but that's quite enough for now thank you
completely fucking useless hv recommended 6 months, although there is a study going on at the moment into allergies and early weaning
This seems to be the main site and I think it is the one someone mentioned earlier.
I am waiting/have waited too. DD is 26 weeks and we're starting next week. I think she's an excellent candidate for blw because she grabs and gums everything. She also refuses things like calpol when they are forced into her mouth so I think she'd likely reject puree too.
The reason you're supposed to wait 26 weeks is because your baby's gut is not mature enough before that point to deal with food. It has nothing to do with size, appetite or interest in food. I don't understand why people don't understand that, but as most people alive today were probably weaned before 26 weeks it isn't completely catastrophic if you do get started earlier.
I think you did the right thing and I have no idea why people want to start real food earlier. I'm going to miss the golden poo and convenience of milk an awful lot.....!
Good link from JiltedJohn - definitely read this
As for support / info:
Purchase the book by Gill Rapley - Baby Led Weaning (or get from Library) Link here to ebay one or at Amazon
www.babyledweaning.com/ is a good site of info and support too.
Just come on here and perhaps start a new thread of 'new BLWers' when the time comes to start. There will be a few people on MN.
DD is 19 months, we waited until 6 months (well a couple of days before), she wasn't quite ready so we held off for a week, started again, sat her with us at dinner, she had what we had. Didn't cook anything different. She has a good relationship with food - good days and bad days of fussiness but to me the key to any kind of weaning, is reading and understanding what your child is telling you. If a baby is full, they will refuse food, you just don't force their hand at it. If a baby refuses a particular food, that's ok too. Offering it again next time you are having it - don't rule it out.
Whatever method of feeding you go down (traditional or BLW) the main goals are, 1) for your baby to have fun with food 2) to continue to get main nourishment from milk until 12 months old, 3) eat a varied and balanced diet similar to what you eat
I am of course a BLW advocate, best decision we made, I love watching her eat now, it amazes me
I was waiting until 6m but were 3 weeks of and the last few days DD has been showing lots of signs of being ready and has dropped a little weight so we've started with some baby rice and she's more interested then I thought she would be
Sorry to hear NotsoNervous has your HV advised to start weaning because of the small drop in weight?
The general theory is that milk, breast or formula, has far more calories and fat than any food that they can digest at that age. So in order to put on weight, they need to be offered more milk. The 'filling up' of other foods such as baby rice, will not be as calorific as milk. Something like avocado, banana would have far more nutrients than babyrice.
Also, have a read of this by the analytical armadillo with regards to not giving baby rice.
I'm another one who is waiting, and I'm the only one in my NCT group who has not given food yet. DS is just past the 5 month mark (and the second oldest in the group). Two of my friends in the group gave food before 17 weeks -I just don't understand what the rush is?
I'd be up for joining a 'new BLWers' thread as well! We're starting in about 3 weeks time...
Can't believe there seem to be health visitors who don't follow the guidelines. The ones on our area are quite good.
I am waiting till 6 1/2 months as we are away at 6 months. (Although I did let dd suck on some melon after she grabbed my slice. )
I haven't had anyone suggest I should feed her earlier.
probably a good thing as I don't react well to people telling me I'm wrong
DD is almost 20 weeks and EBF, we'll be waiting until 6 months so I'll be keeping an eye out for the 'new BLWers' thread!
DS was weaned at 10 weeks on baby rice on the advice of my HV in my defence it was 1996 and I didn't know any better. Looking back I don't know how I managed to shovel it into a ten week old baby!
Thanks fad. I love the way she explains it. Found that link when I was looking for her article on iron for another thread
Thanks fad ill have a look. Yeh her first drop in weight
I waited, because I had the impression that was what the NHS wanted me to do and that's how I roll.
I have a theory that by the time the baby is about four months old, the parent has mastered all the new gadgets and kit that they bought for the birth and is looking for a new challenge!
Thanks for the votes of confidence and advice guys! quak I also love this phase just now too, and I'd quite like to keep my little boob-fed milk monster for a while longer!
I think BLW will suit us too, just feels like a more natural and laid back approach. (Thanks for the links and book refs)
My mum is also tooting on about how well dd will sleep after weaning has begun. She started early with me and all my siblings (I think around 3-4 months) funnily enough we all have IBS and/or dairy intolerence, starting to wonder if there is a link there too! I can't say too much as I don't want to offend her, she is a brilliant mum. Just wish she would respect my parenting choices as I respect hers!
I'll def start a thread on BLW nearer the time, that's a great idea! Would be great to hear how everyone is doing and what is/isn't going down well!
I shall look out for your thread. We're starting next week.....
I'm up for the BLW thread! Not sitting up yet so may be a few weeks still!
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