Did MIL sneak dd her first solid food?? Probably paranoid but need reassurance!!

[GogoTheSmall]

OK, so MIL babysat dd (22 weeks) for the first time the other day. This is the first time she's babysat as I have PFB syndrome , also because we can't get dd to take a bottle.

MIL is desperate to feed dd so she can get me out of the picture for a bit and babysit without me around, which I do understand. Having tried and failed repeatedly to get her on a bottle, she is now going on about weaning.

I told her six months which she seemed to accept.

However.

The day after she babysat (and sorry if tmi) dd's poo was rather different to normal. For a start she went twice which she hasn't done since she was 8 weeks or so.

Also there were lumps in it! Not too many but they were sort of cottage cheesey (sorry!) Normally it's just like smooth mustard.

I accept these things can vary for no apparent reason. But I can't stop thinking that MIL has tried to ingratiate herself by feeding dd an ice cream or a biscuit or something.

Both her sons have Crohn's disease which is why I am so cautious about weaning properly. Also my side of the family have allergies. Also I want to do BLW.

So what do you think? Is the poo enough evidence?!! Or is this another PFB moment...

[LIZS]

Ours did that when they were teething .Did you also leave any milk , that can also trigger it as she may have had more than a feed from you and got wind. You're paranoid even if you may have grounds for suspicion.

[cornsilk]

Probably just the formula milk (if that's what you left for her!)

[GogoTheSmall]

Yes, I think she may be showing some signs of teething. Maybe that's it?

I haven't been very up front with MIL about the reasons why I want to be careful weaning. I don't want to sound as if I'm criticising what she did (she ff from day one as she was told it was just as good as bf. I know she weaned earlier than 6 months although I don't know how early).

If I said anything to make her think she might have caused her sons' illnesses or made them worse, she would be devastated and I would feel awful.

But if I did say something then at least I'd know she wouldn't go against my wished and feed dd anything...

[GogoTheSmall]

No she hasn't had any formula cornsilk, just bm.

[Guitargirl]

I wouldn't worry too much about the cottage cheesy effect, DD had that sometimes too and she was exclusively bf.

I do sympathise though, my MIL thought we were raving mad to wait till 26 weeks before weaning. I didn't leave her alone with DD then as I knew she was desperate to feed with her something. She tried to feed her her first solids at 16 weeks right in front of my nose so I did not trust her not to do it again when I wasn't there.

Now DD is 7.5 months and I do leave her alone with MIL but I prepare all her food and leave it with her - especially after MIL suggested feeding her with some melted chocolate and biscuits!!

[theUrbanDryad]

my MIL tried to give ds his first food at two weeks, posting a piece of strawberry cheesecake into his mouth! I told her that she'd better know how to do the heimlich manouevre on a baby and she sort of apologised. then last week she gave him chocolate ice cream when she looked after him while dh and i went surfing, saying, "But he really wanted it. I though that was the point of your weaning idea, they get what they want?"

i di sympathise with your pfb feelings, i have them too, but i wouldn't worry too much about your lo's poo. if you're that worried can you just ask her outright?

[GogoTheSmall]

quick update... I plucked up courage to ask her today, in my best feigning-nonchalance voice, and by her reaction I'm pretty sure she didn't give her anything. She didn't seem to take offence either. So yes I am paranoid but, given that just 5 minutes later FIL tried to feed dd a fingerful of synthetic cream, can you blame me?

Thanks for the reassurance all!

[JeremyVile]

Glad you got that sorted!
This reminds me of an incident with my mum a couple of months ago.
She was staying with us for a couple of days and took DS out for the morning on her own.
A little while after they got back DP went to change DSs nappy, a minute later he called me to come upstairs sounding really tense.
He said "You're not going to believe this, come and see"
He produced the dirty nappy, opened it up, thrust it at me and said "she's given him a bloody cheeseburger - look thats the meat and that there is deinitely cheese"
I tried to keep a straight face while explaining to him that even if she had given him a burger there was no way he would have eaten it, at best he would have eaten some bun, and to produce the 'evidence' he would have needed to have eaten a fair bit!!
He eventually conceded but it was priceless, he was simultaneously livid and very proud of his detective skills, I think inwardly, he was a bit disappointed he wasn't right!