Help! Worried I've done weaning all wrong with bf 15 month old and not sure where to go from here

[NakedFamilyFightClub]

My DS is 15 months and I'm getting totally confused and slightly worried about weaning. From everything my friend with 2 DC and my HV is saying he should be practically eating full meals now 3 times a day plus snacks and he's nowhere near that.

He's still feeding up to 3 times overnight, not massive feeds but if he's only woke once at night he'll take a big milk feed in the morning.

He will normally refuse breakfast if it's in one his own bowls but will be interested in anything I'm eating. So I put some cereals for him in my bowl and he'll eat a few shreddies or rice crispie shapes but that's all. He isn't interested if I try to give him pancakes etc.

He generally takes lunch ok from a spoon if I distract him with TV. He tends to eat better for my DM on the days she has him when I'm working. He used to eat Ella's kitchen sachets but he's refused them recently so will eat homemade soup, stew, shepherds pie or similar.

If he's with my mum he'll have toast with peanut butter or an Ella's kitchen smoothie or milk in a cup for snacks. If I'm at home he'll want a feed though I'm trying to give him alternatives before he gets too hungry now to wean him off them a bit.

He usually has a milk feed as soon as I arrive home from work at about 4.20 but he's becoming less interested in it for the milk recently as he's only having a quick feed then he's off to play with his toys again.

He's totally lost interest in being spoonfed at dinner. I've started to give him the spoon so he can feed himself but he's as likely to tip the bowl over the side or put it on his head as to try to eat it. He has no interest in picking up pasta and eating it so although I wouldn't mind the mess if he would eat it, he doesn't. He just throws anything he doesn't like the look of off the side of the highchair. If I give him bread and shredded chicken/pork/beef he eats that but it's not exactly a healthy diet and I'm worried he's not eating enough and not getting enough vegetables.

I was going to start doing finger food for him, like very delayed blw. Does this sound like a good plan or should I persevere with letting him have the spoon and bowl? Does anyone have any suggestions?

Sorry for the massive essay, thanks for reading it if you got though it!

[WhyNotSmile]

Sounds like finger food is worth a try. Worst that can happen is he won't eat it. Maybe a variety of things is the way forward - let him show you what he likes!

[GotToBeInItToWinIt]

Sounds quite similar to my DD (15 months too) although we started with BLW. She generally just isn't all that interested in food. This morning she decided she would eat scrambled egg but only off an adult plate with an adult fork, and she had to do it herself. Tomorrow that probably won't be acceptable to her! I've gone through massive periods of stressing over this but have eventually just figured she'll eat when she's hungry, and she won't be loving off milk when she's 18 (although I'm sure she'd like to!). We also do the distracting with TV thing which I feel awful about and really want to stop, but then even less gets eaten.
I feel your pain!

[NakedFamilyFightClub]

Thanks for the replies, it's helpful to realise it isn't just him!

I'm trying to do more finger foods and seeing how we get on. On the plus side, he's decided he loves soup so if all else fails, I can give him that!

[Morelikeguidelines]

My 12 month old will not spoon feed. Almost never unless it is something he really loves, i.e. something sweet. Then he forgets that he meant to refuse all spoons - it's actually quite funny.

I put stuff on his tray. It is nowhere near what DD was eating at 12 months, but then again she weaned early due to heart defect and reflux.

I worry he doesn't get enough vegetables in that way because the only one he will really eat is broccoli (for some reason). He likes meat and potatoes. And not very much of those! Oh, and strawberries.

It does seem like he is consciously deciding that he wants to be in charge of what goes in his mouth. But that might be reading too much into things.

He does drink more milk than recommended (sometimes formula, sometimes cow's ).