Thanks for the suggestion Julie and for the links, great ideas. I have suggested to DH that they go out together at the weekend and he looked like a frightened boy! He remains very nervous about going out without me and I think that can't be helping. We gave DS a breakfast of toast and fruit that he could feed himself this morning and DH put it all on his tray and offered him his water. He still cried at the water offering, but ate the rest of the food without too much trouble. Babies are hard work!!!
Can DH and DS be left for sometime each week, say Saturday afternoon? This would give them sone bonding time and a chance for you not to be around at mealtimes. Maybe he could take him out for lunch? It really doesn't matter if he only eats finger foods when you aren't there. He'll soon understand that he has to eat it or go hungry and perhaps going out with daddy will make it more exciting, especially if they do an activity that will make him hungry, like swimming, first. Check out your local children's centre too as some have activities for dads/grandads and DC. They usually get something like toast and a drink so peer pressure might work.
Thought you might like this, this and this on separation anxiety
10 and a half mo DS has been great at eating up until now, when he has decided that no one but me can feed him. We have tantrums of epic proportions if DH so much as picks up a spoon! It is not the biggest problem now as I'm still on maternity leave, but it is quite draining as I have to be present at every meal. We do some finger food meals, but I still prefer to spoon feed him as much as possible to ensure the food goes in! I go back to work soon and I'm panicking a bit that he will still be like this.
Any tips on how to convince him to take food from Daddy?
We are having general separation anxiety issues too, but I remain right by him when DH tries to feed him.