Did anyone here NOT do BLW....(40 Posts)
...and if not, why not, and how did it go?
We are thinking of going the mash plus finger food for a variety of reasons, but can't find many threads on this.
Hi my son was born at 24 weeks and has just started purees at 7 months uncorrected under the guidance of a preemie nutritionist. Apple purée is the big hit so far, he hates everything else. My ds1 s favourite was sweet potato and blueberry!
Do whatever is right for you and works for your baby.
My dc's are older and I'd never heard of lbw when they were being weaned. I used to puree different stuff, starting with plain fruit and veg and gradually building up to full meals. As they get older, the food was left lumpier and lumpier until they had what we were eating.
We didn't, I suppose. We started off with purees, gradually added finger foods, then gradually did more and more normal food and phased out the purees. It worked very well for us, DS was happy and is a good eater.
I did try a couple times the whole, just give them what you're having and let them get on with it... the result was a DS who ate almost nothing and a kitchen that looked like a bomb went off! So didn't really see the point.
Also, DH is French and we live in France, they don't do BLW here
Agree just do whatever works for you and baby.
I didn;t do BLW. I had twins and was too scared of one choking while I was helping the other one. Although DTD skipped the pureer stage as she just would not eat anything for the first couple of months so went straight onto "lumpy" food at about 8 months.
I did lots of pureed veg and fruit, used the icecube trays etc. It was a real PITA to be honest - so much better when they could start having proper food just mashed up which they did relatively quickly. I used to also freeze portions of "ingredients" such as cheese sauce, tomato pasta sauce, cooked chicken, cooked pasta, cooked rice (cooled v.quickly) so I could juust take 3 or 4 pots out of the freezer and hey presto chicken risotto! I also had the "safe feeder" which are nets for putting fruit in, I know they are veiwed with derision by MN but when you have two babies to watch, it made it much less worrying!
At about 10 months DTD refused to be fed by spoon so she fed herself finger foo (anything on toast, strips of omelette, pasta twirls etc) then eventually with a spoon. DTS was a bit lazier and didn't try to feed himself until about 14 mo and from then on they both independently feed themselves with very little help.
We drifted into a bit of both really; DS mostly had purees etc and got on really well with them, but he also got really frustrated when seeing the other babies at groups eating carrot sticks and things. We started to give him some finger food after he'd been fed so he could get used to putting things in his mouth like the other kids but wasn't getting frustrated because he was hungry. Of course he didn't get his first tooth until 10mths so BLW would have been pretty difficult for him anyway
I didn't do BLW for DS1 as it wasn't really around then. Have you got an Annabel Karmel book? She is great for puree ideas.
I didn't do BLW. I did traditional weaning,pureeing and mashing food and offering lots of finger foods.
I did this way because as adults we eat some foods with cutlery and some with our fingers and I think it is being best for babies to learn to eat at the table with the family in the same way.
I didn't for DS1.I did Annabel Karmel homemade bloody purées and now he is 3 will he go near a butternut squash?
DS2 I started with BLW but he wasn't interested and had awful sleep so I did a mixture of purée/mashed food and finger food.
You don't have to be religious about either method,a bit of both is fine.
I didn't - we started with purées then mixed in finger foods like rice cakes and toast when we'd been doing it for a few weeks. We abandoned purées for a while at 8 months though, as he started to refuse the spoon. He's still wilful!
Thanks everyone - that's really helpful.
I think we will go for a mixed approach. The main reason for not wanting to go pure BLW is my DS really will need to get some food down him at 6 months (premature, ebf, iron stores likely running low by then) so the "food until one is just for fun" mantra of BLW unfortunately doesn't apply to him. My nephew was BLW and although it's worked out well (he is a great eater at 2 years), he barely got anything actually into his gob for the first couple of months IIRC Of course if DS turns out to be a spoon refuser I will have to reconsider.
At what stage can I just mash up what I'm eating and spoon-feed it to him, rather than purpose-made purees?
From six months you can mash up pretty much anything you are eating as long as you don't use salt when preparing. Just reduce the blitzing as time goes on. Yu might want to start by giving separate foods though to get used to tastes and textures and look out for allergies, especially with known allergy causers.
Where I live weaning starts at just over 4 months with just fruit and veg purees. From six months everything else is added, along with easy finger foods. Obviously no choking hazards.
I explained the concept of BLW to my paed and she pretty much laughed me out of her office.
DD1 eats pretty much anything now and DD2 is just 9months, but after a difficult start (maybe naturally fussier) she got the hang of it. She still eats lots of purees, bith homemade and ready bought, and also soft fruit, bread, some meat and pasta as finger foods. And lots of mashed banana or avocado smeared on toast.
You don't have to be either one or the other. I have a list of reasons as long as my arm why I wouldn't just do BLW without purees but won't go into them on here.
Thanks very much PetiteRaleuse! I have a mini chopper that seems ideal for blitzing up small quantities so will aim to move to doing that after a few weeks. We cook dinner from scratch every day so can easily leave out the salt.
I'm intrigued by the list of reasons now - you can always PM it to me, if you can be bothered
We did a bit of both.
Anytime I've tried finger food with mine at over 6 months they have properly choked.
So I just did mash and once I felt they were able, I gave more finger foods.
All of mine will eat pretty much whatever I put in front of them.
I did a mixture of purees and finger foods for both of mine. I found BLW so limiting, in terms of flavours, that it just didn't work for me and I found both my DC choked if they knawed off a big chunk of carrot or parsnip or whatever and it scared me witless. Do what you feel is best - which may be purees to start with and soft fruits/veggies/bread sticks later on. TBH I used a lot of Ella's and Plum pouches and fromage frais and things like that. They're so easy and introduce the baby to a variety of flavours without you having to faff around every meal and make your own salt-free stock. Not very MN-y of me!
Annabel Karmel has some pretty good recipes (though people on here seem to hate her). In the toddler sections the food is honestly suitable for everyone, and the flavour combinations she uses might give you an idea.
EK pouches are also good - a real hit with DD2 when we went to the UK. In fact the turning point with her fussiness was when she was eating them.
I'll PM you in a bit when I have time but my two main reasons are :
- most of us wouldn't have a clue what to do if a baby actually choked, which is a risk with any lumpy food.
- I don't think food should be baby led. They have to try lots of things several times in order to develop tastes. Letting them pick and choose, imo, could turn them into picky and choosy eaters. I wouldn't advocate forcing puree down them if they don't like it, at all. There is plenty of fun to be had with food - so much variety and new tastes and textures even with puree. I don't see the need to empower baby though. I'd rather keep a much closer eye and control on what and particularly how much they eat, and that is easier with puree. I've been flamed for saying that in the past, but nevermind.
- a minor reason is that I don't like mess
I bought and started reading the Gill Rapley BLW book but her preachy style made me really angry and I had to stop reading it. I also couldn't have done exclusive BLW as DS1 had a milk aversion so until we started solids every feed had been a battle and there was no way I could be relaxed about letting him dictate his meals!
I did homemade purees and mash and also finger food. I basically gradually moved from puree to slightly more textured food until it was just mash and then lumps. And around 10 months he refused to let us feed him so everything had to be finger food.
For purees & mash I used Annabel Karmel for inspiration until he could have our meals mashed up. Must admit I also kept a stash of Ella's Kitchen and Plum pouches for
lazy times emergencies.
DS1 definitely hasn't suffered as a result - he eats pretty much anything including most fruit and veg and is a dab hand with a fork at 2.7 yrs.
I also like Annabel Karmel baby recipes. I had her '100 Baby Purees' book and the recipes were great for both my kids (and some of them are extremely quick and easy). The 'My Favourite Oatmeal' was a favourite for the whole family - I forget how many pan-fuls of that I made.
I didn't do BLW. I just didn't feel that it was right for my DD so we started on simple veg purees and it worked fine for us. She took to it really well and we moved on really quickly. She's now 9m and has dinners really thick and lumpy and can eat whole foods but I find se doesn't eat enough of To fill her fr dinner so she has a lumpy dinner then and lots of finger food throughout the day.
Some people may not agree but it works for us
I didn't - I didn't like the single-track minded approach. Weaned DS at nearly 6 months quite conventionally. Now he has a mixture of mashed food and finger food at nearly 11 months. Don't be put off by BLW evangelists. It's about variety and fun and it's not as if you'll never let your child touch food with his hands is it?
I though about it but 3 weeks in, I don't think I could bear the waste of food involved. At least with purees and things you can whisk it away if they start pouring it over their head! DD loves waving chunks of food about but in terms of actual eating, would much rather nom her bib or the wipes packet
Thanks so much everyone. I'll get the Annabel Karmel book for ideas. I've also ordered the Rana Conway book which is a mixed approach, so hopefully between them I'll learn what to do!
Glad this thread hasn't turned into a fight, I got a bit worried about that after posting! I have nothing against BLW, it's just that I don't think the pure version will work for DS's particular circumstances.
We didn't. I couldn't bear the thought of either food waste, or that much mess and I just didn't think it was for us. I did single fruit/veg purees for a bit, and very quickly offered a few bits of fingerfood such as toast at the same time. We introduced lumps into her food as quick as possible.
She's 8 months now - she just eats mashed, lumpy versions of our dinner and is very happy to eat finger food - weaning has been a pretty easy experience for us by doing it this way. Good luck - everyone is different and just do what suits you and your baby!
We didn't. I vaguely toyed with the idea and gave it a go once or twice, but DD wasn't interested and as she was already over 6 months I bottled it a bit. I'd never found the idea that there must be some connection between when a baby is ready for solids and when they can feed with their hands convincing anyway. So I tried a few things. DD never cared for purees so, after a few days of baby rice as preparation until she went off it, we just did chunks of soft finger food. Fruit and veg really. Then moved onto stews, or what we're eating when suitable. It took a while as DD wasn't that arsed, and also didn't have many teeth until recently so wasn't an awesome chewer. I'm not wedded to any approach though, if we have another and blw seems most suitable, I'll do that. I suspect the majority of parents do a bit of mixing and matching, actually.
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