I think this is more of a whinge but any advice appreciated.
I started DS on solids (BLW) at six months. He started OK, seemed interested in food , was happy to put it in his mouth and ate a tiny little bit (I saw bits of it in his nappies so know he was swallowing a little). All very relaxed, lots of playing, offered a (very) wide variety of food three times a day. Not eating a great deal but so far so good.
After a week of this he stopped being interested in food. Would put everything in his mouth except for food. Was now eating nothing but breastmilk and started to get cross each time I put him in his highchair. After a week of this I decided to scale it back a bit to take the pressure off - only offered 1-2 meals a day and made a point of always eating a little of what he was eating myself. Still nothing.
Today I decided to try some spoon-feeding. He happily ate a small amount of mashed banana off a spoon for breakfast so I decided to try holding the finger food to his mouth at lunch. Bingo! If I held something near his mouth he went for it and happily chomped on whatever I was holding so long as I held it in position. If I let go he would just let it fall out of his mouth and showed no interest in picking anything else up. If I handed him something he just waved it around before losing interest.
My DS liked to be fed and was also extremely lazy about self feeding. TBH it was easy too, he ate quickly and there was little mess. I think I fed him until he was about 2, then realised the little fellow was managing perfectly well on his own at nursery so I bought big boy plates and cutlery for him, announced he was now soooo enormous he could do it himself, and he did! Most the time anyway. I still fed him occasionally.
Dd on the other hand wanted to do it all by herself and she did, from about 8 months.
I think it's up to you what you do, either feed him ( which seems to be out of favour currently, at least on mumsnet where blw rules ) or let him be and wait til he decides to feed himself, which could be a while away. My DS loved being fed and I enjoyed it too, but with weaning I was lucky, both my kids love their food. Either way keep it fun and relaxed!
If he wants feeding I'd just do it. Bike weaned one with purees and one spoon refusing blw, for me blw was much easier because they just get on with it but if he wants to eat but is just lazy you only have 2 options. Let him get on with it knowing he is self regulating his calorie intake or do a bit of feeding for him