My lo has been able to eat with loaded spoons since about 7 months honestly the first time he ever had food he grabbed it to do it himself he's now 13 mo and loads them himself and uses a fork.......though he is a human dustbin who can't get it down him quick enough
I think DD started grabbing the spoon from me around 10 months to have a go. At 15 months now she can spoon herself a bowl of cereal, pot of yoghurt etc and is beginning to get the hang of stabbing with a fork. I got her a spoon and fork with angled heads from Boots, which had helped massively with getting the food where it is going. At her age her bones are still not strong enough to bend her wrist properly by herself to direct the spoon into her mouth.
Just give them a spoon of their own and let them get on with it with dc1, it didn't occur to us so he had one from 15 months. It didn't take him too long master it though Dc2 wanted to be like her big brother from the start so has always had her own spoon and 'got it' at around 13 months or so.
Been successfully BLW my now 8 month old for 2 months and she's a star. Won't let me hold the spoon except to load, eats everything etc.
What I am wondering is how to transition to her independently loading the spoon. Does this just happen if I keep giving her the spoon or do I need to actively encourage? Would be interesting to hear from others at what ages that happened for their children?