Will she EVER eat???(41 Posts)
Dd is 12m and is breastfed. Food is so hit and miss. We did blw with a tiny bit of spoon feeding. She doesn't entertain breakfast or lunch and sometimes will eat dinner. Generally shows no interest in food. She bfs around 4-5 a day and sleeps through the night. At the moment she is very poorly with an upper respiratory viral infenection and has not eaten a thing since Saturday and has upped her bfs. Whilst I completely understand that she doesn't want to eat right now, I can't help worry that she will ever eat again. It's bad enough trying to get her to eat when she is well, but now she is like this I can't see her ever eating again. Seriously I am so worried now and can't take anymore. I don't know where to go from here. Normally we all sit down to eat together and I put the food infront of her with cutlery and she explores and no pressure. Nothing goes in and if it does its a tiny amount. I've tried sitting her in my lap and letting her take from my plate but she just throws it everywhere and probably thinks its a game. I can't keep living like this. Please surely someone has some advice for me x
How are things now Gina?
Firstly ds was like this, hardly ate any solids at 12 mo but just started eating overnight at 15 mo. I tried lots of stuff to get him to but he just did it all by himself. What a relief it was!
The other thing I wanted to say is, I hope it doesn't sound too rude and presumptious, but the level of anxiety you have over her not eating again seems over the top. I also recognise that level of worry. It is upsetting when they are ill and totally understandable to feel so stressed with what you've been through with dd2. I had post traumatic stress and it means I often over react and presume the absolute worst is going to happen. It is not a nice thing to live with. Maybe talk to your gp or hv if they are any use?
That book is great too.
Yes, your anxiety is completely understandable. Have you considered CBT, it should help you come to terms what has happened and hopefully stop you going into anxiety overdrive if dd3 stops eating solids again.
I'm glad your dd is feeling better. It's completely understandable that you feel the way you do, it can make you feel so helpless when they're ill and you just want things to be back to normal. I think that jilted is right, they are resilient and do instinctively know what they need. It is so so hard when you''re in the midst of it though. I hope you get some improvement tomorrow.
No offense taken showtunesgirl. My anxiety stems from dd2 and her reflux. We were in and out of hospital for a year and it was very traumatic for the whole family. Dd2 not suffers with chronic constipation and is on movicol. When dd3 came along I failed to live each day and was always on edge waiting for something to go wrong. It subsided when dd3 was 4 months or so, as you probably realised I wasn't posting anymore! I'm not normally an anxious person it only appears when my dd's stop eating for whatever reason. I guess I don't want ds3 going in the same direction dd2 went in.
Gina, I hope you will take this in the right way but I do remember from your previous threads that you were quite anxious about quite a lot of things. As others have said, is there anyone that you could talk to?
26 lb for 12 months is a very good weight indeed.
I agree that you probably need to stop weighing her and get some support from the Health Visitor or someone in regard to you anxiety.
Very pleased that she's feeling better today.
It is such good news that she is feeling a bit better, and good for you too as it gives you a little break. You could always try her with a snack of raisins or a biscuit this afternoon and she how she gets on, it'll be less stressful for you both than trying her with a meal first.
I'd stop weighing her though as it seems to be making your anxiety worse. Lots of children lose weight when they are ill and recover. my ds used to go like a bag of bones everytime he had tonsilitis and soon put weight back on.
She seems a very bright and sensible little girl. She knows that BM is the best thing to make her better and you should too
I have a set of scales at home. Dd2 had reflux and her weight gain was very poor. I weighed her on Friday on the same scales I weighe her today!! She definitely seems better than she was yesterday! She wants to play and isn't so clingy. I give up going to the GP as they never have anytime for you anymore.
It is fine for her not to eat solids until she's feeling better, you'll know when she is because she will want to play. If you are really concerned about her weight and general state please go back to your GP today.
Her not eating solids really isn't an issue when she is this poorly, what you really need to address is te fact that she doesn't seem to be getting better and your feeling about her not eating solids. I don't mean that in a bad way either, just think you have got the refusal of solids a little out of proportion due to your previous experiences and would benefit from talking to someone about it.
When you weighed her, was it on the same scales she was weighed on previously?
As of Friday she was 27lbs 3oz. She now is 26lbs. So that's 1lb 3oz lost since she stopped eating on Saturday! She is still producing wet nappies, but very little mind you and there are still tears! How long is it ok for her to go without "food"? She has fed from me about 4 times so far all being quite small Feeds!
Thank you for the link to the book, I've just bought it
Gina if this bringing back the awful time you had before, I would speak to a BFC about how you are feeling and what is going on now. Try the national Breastfeeding helpline. If she is bfing less now could you take her back to the GP? Is she showing any signs of dehydration?
It' s by Carlos Gonzalez btw.
My Child Won' t Eat
Hi there's a link above, I tried to link to it up thread but don't think it worked, so hope this one does.
Gina, I would say that a pound is quite a bit of weight to lose. Is there any way you can see another doctor?
Thank you for all your support. I really appreciate it. Can someone post a link to the book please "help my child won't eat". I've looked it up and not too sure which one to buy. I had an awful time with my 2nd dd and all of this is bringing back the trauma. I don't mind nursing but I can very anxious when she then begins to show less interest in that too. She still hasn't eaten a thing. Dd is bf'ing less too. She has lost of a pound now. Stupid doctors don't care about her eating so I feel very alone on this
Gina, I think remember you from the BF forum. Sorry to hear that your DD is unwell. It's the season for it and my DD has been unwell too and I've just been offering her extra milk if she's not been feeling herself.
Please don't worry about her refusing solids, she is getting everything she needs from you including cuddles and white blood cells both of which she won't get from a piece of toast .
The milk will be enough to sustain her and it sounds like all she wants at the moment. Did you know that the milk changes as your baby grows and the milk will have a much higher fat content than it did when she was younger?
While she is poorly try to concentrate on bfing and nursing her back to health. Try to eat well yourself to and rest when you can. When she is well again start offering small portions of solids again and now she's past one you can start offering solids before the bfs.
If you want to cut down on the number of bfs when she is better a BFC will be able to advise you on how to do this, try the National Breastfeeding Helpline.
There is a book that will probably help, it's called Help My Child Won't Eat. Why not read it now and it may help when you do reintroduce solids.
But please don't stress too much. I've nursed both of mine through illnesses and reintroduced solids successfully, even with dd who has always been a fussy eater.
She obviously very poorly, I'm sure she needs to start feeling a bit better before she will feel like eating anything, as nickelbaby says once the medication starts to help perhaps her appetite will come back.
Agree with yellowsubmarine53 though that you sound like you could do with some support with this generally.
Try not to panic about her not eating solids for a few days or a week. Honestly, she'll be find on bm for this time. When the antibiotics kick in, she'll hopefully feel better and start eating again gradually.
It sounds as though your concern about you dd's eating isn't just about her being ill. I would call the HV and see if you can get an appointment for support re solid food intake.
i think it's okay for you to stop offering her food if she won't take it. just keep Bfing and she'll come back to real food when she feels better.
it must be really stressful for you
She has turned her nose up at everything. When I say she hasn't eaten a thing she has literally not eaten a thing.
I have offered her watermelon, bananas, cucumber etc but nothing tempts her. Doc said that appetite should pick up 48-72hrs after starting antibiotics, if that's the case then I should notice her appetite to return maybe tomorrow or Friday!! I am at my wits end now.
yes, that's a good point, maybe something sweet would work too.
You must be very stressed. What did the doc say with regard to food intake? Can you get any reassurance there or perhaps from your HV? I know they are usually more concerned about hydration, it might help though if they gave you an indication of when lack of solids would become a problem. Milk is still a major source of nutrients, so she is taking in some 'food'.
When my ds had bronchiolitis at 9 months he didn't eat solids for about 6 days, and he went off milk for one of those days so I know how worrying it can be.
When he had chesty things he did seem to not really want stodgy foods but he would eat fresh juicy things like sliced grapes, so maybe they go down more easily. Sweet as well, so just another idea.
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