Hi Ladies,
Some history,
My old boy, 3/4IDxTB will be 26 in the new year, (with TB brain) and my mum gave/bought him for me when I was 15, he's seen me compete at BSJA, but mainly hunted, and boy we've had some cracking seasons, and he's still going.
obviously, he's been there through exams, uni and marriage, and now children, he owes me nothing and my husband and I want to do right by him.
My husband and I were out at the weekend on our two horses and we had a big heart to heart, since having the children now aged 4 and 2.5 our weekend commitments are increasing, and the enjoyment of the horses is decreasing as we're spending less time with them.
This would be fine if it we could go out trail laying during the week and leave the weekends for family time, but we don't and the only day my husband can ride is at the weekend, usually on a saturday.
As we don't want to dump the kids with friends and family on so that we can go out on a saturday enjoying ourselves or dragging the kids foot following. My husband already feels that he doesn't see the kids enough as a result of his work hours and riding on a saturday, and feels his relationship with them is suffering (he also resents his parents dragging him around the golf courses and tennis circuits, and doesn't want history to repeat itself)
So we've decided to sell his horse, a wonderful giant 18hh.
Our dilemma is my old man as i said will be 26 next year.
We are not prepared for him to sit in a field and rot, that would break my heart. my plan is to get him an MOT from the vet so we know exactly what state he's in, he is still hunting fit, but is beginning to struggle so timing wise this works as we plan to retire him from hunting after this season anyway.
so i suppose my question is, if he is fit to carry on being ridden, a small amount of dressage (he had 19dressage points once upon a time) and a bit of jumping, would i be unreasonable to find him a home or a rider who would ride him from my parents house - although that too would break my heart, although my other worry would be moving him to a new yard would also Finnish him off - my mums yard has been his home for the last 16years. He's the type of horse that won't do retirement, he'll brake fences etc! Obviously if he's found to be unfit I won't hesitate to do the right thing by him.
PLEASE PLEASE don't judge me, I'm really struggling with this decision but there just aren't enough days at the weekend for this to work, and we don't want the kids growing up saying they never saw us that the weekend because mummy and daddy where doing horses. they're not showing any interest in the animals. Selling the other hunter I have no issues with, we've had him for 4 years and he's got people lining up offering us money if we ever decided to sell him (he's not even on the market officially yet - got to get my old boy sorted first.)
if you've got this far, thank you.
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Monty123 · 01/12/2015 19:39
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