Scared of over-horsing DD(34 Posts)
So the search for a new horse continues (the one eyed one having been ruled out, along with several others we have seen).
Today we saw a beautiful mare, bigger than our original search at 16H2 Originally looking at 15H-16H. A good age for us at 12, well schooled, could do everything we want (and more) and she was a lovely ride. I am quite a nervous rider and i wasn't scared at all despite being used to our 14H2 mare. But she is a cross between a norman cob and a French trotter (don't know what that is in English so she is a big girl. She would be ideal if it were just for me and DH, but we share with DD (12). She has been riding for 7 years and is much better than I am. But is this mare too big?
She didn't come with us today, but we are going back on Saturday for her to try it. Am I mad to even consider it? She really is lovely, very calm but not a plod at all. We still have our mare, she has gone into retirement, but even after 5 days in her new home she is much better, so DD can hopefully still hack out on her so she would only be riding the new one in class and in the carriere. We'll have to buy a horse box so we can get the 2 together for hacks.
Ohh I think it sounds fine, as long as you have support. Excited for you
The first horse I owned at age 13 was a 16.2 ex race mare so I'd say go for it .( mine wasn't well behaved at all )
For my 8th bday I was given an unbroken 15-2 Through bred, chestnut mare a gem
Temperament is more important than size, but make very sure she is good to handle from the ground, especially with things like rugs that your daughter might find difficult to reach. If your DD takes part in kids competitions or activities then be careful that there aren't any rules that prevent her taking a bigger horse.
Thanks everyone that really helps. She was a dream to handle on the ground, did feet with no problem at all. The owner hosed her down after we had worked as it was a hot day, she didn't even blink (DPony freaks out at the sight of a hose even before it is turn on).
I must remember to ask if she needs rugging, it is fairly normal here to be on full turn out with no rug, we only rug DPony during the very worst weather (and then only because of her health concerns).
I'll try and put up a photo.
Photo should be up now. I'm very excited, couldn't sleep last night thinking about her.
We took DD to try her out today. It was brilliant, she is perfect for all 3 of us. I've said we will take the weekend to decide, but we are all very excited. I took a video to show our instructor just to get a second opinion - but very happy to have any other opinions from you lot.
DD on DHorse
I am scared of making a mistake, but she seems so perfect for us.
Congrats very plsed for you
there are always going to be compromises when you are buying a horse for family members to share ,but she looks lovely .
I think your DD looks an ok size on that horse, she seems able to get her leg on ok, which would be my main size concern. The horse was not at all strong coming into the fence, so I don't think that is a concern. Does your DD feel comfortable on her? I think that is the most important thing.
Have you seen the horse ridden out at all? If not, you definately should before you buy, as some horses can get very strong outside the school.
We haven't seen her ridden out yet. If we buy we will have a weeks trial so we will definitely take her out, under as controlled conditions as is possible, but the owner assures us that she hacks out alone with no problems.
The other good news is that DPony is much better, we have just taken her out for a short hack with her new paddock companion and they were both brilliant. DPony has never liked hacking out alone so we have done very little with her, and the other pony is nomally very lazy, but the two together were brilliant.
It has been a great day horse wise, but I see whatever spare time I had disappearing into the horse world. I am not horsey at all, none of my family are, so it is all new territory. We've had DPony for 2 years so we have already changed, but having 2 horses one of which is living out is a whole new ball game.
Seemed to go well and suit your daughter. As others have said if good out hacking then looks ideal for you all going forward.
What does your DD want to do with her? She looks like a sweet, willing horse which is very important but she is more of a MW and quite long in the back so your DD (and anyone else riding her really, but more a slighter person) will struggle to collect her. If you see her way of going she is quite strung out in her frame which is fine for jumping small jumps and hacking, but your DD may struggle to get her engaged enough for flatwork and more decent jumps. Also in the video she is quite bent to the outside, was that the case all the time?
Sorry forgot to add, on the lorry: 3.5 tonne lorries are really popular around here (I am also in France) as they are much cheaper to insure and run, but they are woefully inadequate for carrying two horses. At best they have a payload of about 1.1 tonnes and that mare look sto be easily 650kgs, add to that two passengers, tack, fuel, hay, water, etc. and you may find that there isn't a lot left. While a lot of French people don't seem to care at all about being overweight it is extremely dangerous when you need to break and for the stability of the lorry.
Booboostoo I have to confess I don't understand half of what you said We know that the horse has already been out for club 2 which is fine for the level that DD is at. Owner is selling because he wants to go on to amateur which means bigger jumps, so she can do up to about 1m10 but no more.
What is a MW? What does strung out in her frame mean?
DD lost a lot of confidence jumping as DPony tends to charge towards the jumps, we think that a bigger horse that is more steady may give her back some confidence (it certainly did this morning). that is not why we are looking for bigger, that is because we all share, but it is perhaps a good side effect.
Van wise we are looking at a 2 horse box. Most of the time there will just be the new horse, but we may want to take DPony too if she continues in good health. I'll keep an eye on the weight limits (although most of the second hand ones don't state a limit)
Sorry about that!!!
OK MW is medium weight as opposed to light weight which would be a horse with a lighter frame. Often the issue is not so much the height of the horse but the width of their frame because the wider the horse the more difficult it is to move their shoulders and keep them straight (straightness is really crucial in working in a horse).
It's good that the horse has experience at the level your DD wants to jump at but that doesn't mean that you can just point her at the jumps and she will jump them. A horse has to be set up for a jump. Think of a horse as a spring, if the spring is really long and loose the horse can't take off, if the spring is coiled up it can take off nicely. The spring is the horse's back which needs to be rounded with the back end working under the horse and lifting the shoulders up. The longer the back of the horse the more difficult it is to round up the spring and create the bounce that leads to a good jump (if you think of a course of jumps the horse needs to be well balanced to make it round the whole course with no refusals or poles down). This horse is very long in her frame, her back legs are far out behind her and not under her, her back is hollow and not round, her head is out in front of her rather than following a round back and neck...all of which can be corrected by a good rider but it may be quite a tall order for your DD - what does your instructor think seeing them together?
The horse was also bending to the outside of the arena, i.e. towards the fence. The horse should be bent in the other direction, towards the inside, around the rider's inside leg, otherwise it is stiff and finds it very difficult to do thing like circles (not just flatwork, but a semi-circle to make it to the next jump in a course). Again this can be corrected but it all depends on the rider.
Many horseboxes are advertised as 2 or 3 or 4 horseboxes but this doesn't mean they can actually, legally and safely carry 2, 3 or 4 horses. Some are so small they can't even carry one horse height wise (which is something you want to check with a large horse as the horse needs good head clearance to be safe). All horseboxes have a stated gross weight and a stated payload which can be checked at any weightbridge (all poids lourdes garages have them). The values will probably be on the lorry's paperwork but let me check my carte grise on that tomorrow. Don't accept anyone telling you they do not know the payload because the lorry is second hand, they are lying!
Thanks booboo great explanation. I'm seeing the instructor today so we'll see.
OK so our instructor thinks that for me and DH the horse is worth its weight in gold, but for DD it won't challenge her enough and in a years time she will need something more.
So I guess that means we are not over horsing her, but where do we go from here? It is possible that in 12-18 months we will be in the fortunate position of being able to buy DD the horse she needs, which will leave me and DH with the horse we are now looking at.
Alternatively we keep looking for something that suits us all now, and will be good for all of us in 1/2/3 years time. HELP
It's hard isn't it, the thing is, you say your daughter has has a loss of confidence, so something that may "challenge" her in a year, may scare the be-Jesus out of her now......
What are your daughters riding goals?
Difficult one, but if this horse suits all of you now I would go for this horse. Who knows what might happen in 18 months? DD may be bored with horses, or she may find a share that challenges her more but without the whole cost of another horse, or this horse may develop with her in new ways.
TBH I don't really know what her riding goals are, and don't think she does either. Long term she would like to work with horses, preferably as a vet. She doesn't have any ambition to be a professional rider. Some days she says she would rather hack out and never jump again, other days she is desperate to go to a competition.
We are going with the instructor to visit a dealer today (the same dealer where we bought DPony) which will hopefully help to make our decision. After sleeping on it both DH and I are both still keen to buy her, mostly because she would be so good for us. DD gets about 5 hours a week in the saddle, of which perhaps 2 will be on the new horse.
I would go for this horse as well, if your dd is mostly happy pottering at the moment, who knows whether that will change. I think for the amount if time she will ride it, it will be fine.
I agree with mrslaughan, especially if your DD is having confidence problems. Her first priority now is to regain her confidence and you may find that with the right horse she will start wanting to do more and more. If and when she outgrows this mare you can rethink.
I've done it just left a message for the owner saying we will buy her. Oh my God
The dealer didn't really have anything suitable. There was one mare who would have been good for DD but was no good for novices like DH and would have been more for schooling and jumping than hacking. Our instructor was encouraging us to go back an try her, but she just did nothing for me.
We've had a long chat as a family about what DD really wants and she is adamant that for the moment competitions aren't important, she just wants to have fun riding something she isn't scared of.
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