Hi there.
I just waged other teachers opinions on this if you don't mind.
Dds is yr 9 and a pretty average student academically and no trouble. Gets good reports and has never had a punishment apart from two lunchtime detentions for homework.
Her head of house Is a man around 6ft 5 with a very deep voice.
When my ds was at the school around fifteen years ago he teased him during PE about being unable to kick a ball and his general lack of co ordination. He has cp and dyspraxia so I complained and it was taken seriously but before it went to the next level I was stupidly persuaded to settle for it being dealt with in school.
So now he is HOH and when dd was ur 7 had cause to speak to her as she had a very light tint in her hair which hadnt washed out after the hols.
He literally reduced her to a snivelling wreck. She described his shouting as terrifying and she was snotty and sobbing uncontrollably.
He continued despite her being in this state.
I e mailed him and told him I felt it disproportionate and unecessary.
He called me and we had a discussion during which he noted that she is quite timid and anxious so I again suggested he didn't need to be as shouty and frightening.
The next day he called her in and did it again for "telling your mum"
So yesterday he decided she was wearing too much make up (fair enough but not half as much as others) marched her to his office, screamed at her for ages during which she was again reduced to a sobbing mess. The other female teacher in the room looked uncomfortable and other teachers consoled her when she went to her next lesson a soggy mess. She was so upset and anxious that she couldn't work and the teacher didn't make her.
Now I'm right behind teachers. I'm a social worker specifically working with very challenging children and parent who are quick to complain.
I'm also a loud shouty person so dd is certainly not unused to loud adults.
After a nights sleep I am still pretty annoyed about this and wondered if anyone has any advice.
It's clear that simple discussion only makes it worse but I can't help feeling that this is inapropriate and bullying and also revenge for previous events.
I would be disciplined if I spoke to my clients in that way and I also don't need to as I feel you show a loss of control.
Any suggestions?
Thanks
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Ledkr · 09/03/2016 07:34
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