New job,...and pregnant

(9 Posts)
BieneMaja15 Fri 21-Aug-15 18:30:05

I've recently found out that I'm pregnant (about 5 weeks at the moment). I'm also going to start at a new school in September (different authority). I was really excited about it (Year 6, which I have been teaching for a few years already...but also my first year as SLT), but now I'm a bit confused as to what to do. The school's having problems and I'll be walking straight into an Ofsted inspection, but I wasn't terribly worried about that...I've done this before and they've employed me for good reason. Now, if this baby makes it through, I'd be there for the inspection,...but only up to the end of term 4, so I'd be leaving just before SATs. hmm blush

We've been ttc for ages (3+ years) and I had a mc with the previous pregnancy, two years ago. I can't say it's been an "accident", but we're undergoing assessment for "unexplained infertility", so it's quite a surprise. We had already started to look into adoption. confused
I feel rather confused at the moment. Happy and terrified at the same time. grin

I'd tell my new head, but I don't want to do it before at least 14 weeks, because I'm constantly worried that I'll mc again. My old one would have been over the moon for me, having seen me through the last mc, but I doubt that my new one will be happy in the slightest. sad

Would it be ok to stay quiet for a little while? I know it's not the greatest start ever, but I can't change it anyway. blush

Scarydinosaurs Fri 21-Aug-15 18:41:05

It's fine to stay quiet, especially as it's your first and you probably won't show/people won't know you so won't be able to tell if you're pregnant.

I think telling them at 14 weeks will be fine. You cannot control the head's reaction, so I wouldn't worry. There is every possibility that he or she will be really happy for you.

Massive congratulations!

Juniper404 Sat 22-Aug-15 00:14:32

Big congratulations!

Sod the Head. Enjoy your pregnancy and fingers crossed everything goes smoothly flowers

WanderingLily Sat 22-Aug-15 14:49:31

Stick to your plan. Don't tell anyone until you're 14 weeks. You can't plan every stage of your life to coincide with the convenience of Ofsted and SATs, and nor should you be expected to.
They'll get a supply in, life will go on and you will have a lovely little baby!
Congratulations!

LockedOutOfMN Sun 23-Aug-15 15:26:40

Congratulations!

Agree with the sound advice from previous posters. Hope everything goes well, take care of yourself.

Buttercup27 Sun 23-Aug-15 15:31:41

Personally I would tell the head as if you do mc you'll need time off anyway, but I know it's a very personal choice.
Congratulations!

MrsHerculePoirot Sun 23-Aug-15 15:35:04

I was in nearly exactly the same position two years ago - found out I was pregnant day I started in a challenging school. I did tell my head immediately and he couldn't have been more supportive even though I imagine it was a pita for them! Am back now after mat
leave and all good

BieneMaja15 Sun 23-Aug-15 21:13:57

Thanks all for the congratulations. I'm just hoping this one will cling on for the entire pregnancy. smile Let's hope it actually makes it through to 14 weeks..

Personally I would tell the head as if you do mc you'll need time off anyway, but I know it's a very personal choice.
That's probably right, but I'd rather cross that bridge when I get to it. Besides, I was only off for one day last time. It was really early and slightly untypical compared to what the internet tells you.

Buttercup27 Sun 23-Aug-15 21:29:46

Like I said it's a really personal choice. In my first pregnancy I told parents and boss and mc at 11+5 (2 days before 12 week scan after an early scan). I told my close friends that I had mc.
Due to this when I found out I was expecting again I was terrified of something going wrong so told everyone at 5 weeks as
1 I needed the support
2 I would have told them if I had mc again so they might as well know the good news as well as the bad.

This was before I found mn. It might have been different if I had online support.

Fingers crossed everything goes well flowers

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