Hi,
Quick background - started a new job in September (Primary teacher). Some things didn't seem 'quite right' with head teacher - laughing, happy chatty sometimes - very passive aggressive at other times (angry messages on staffroom board but not said to people's faces, teachers being 'told off' in assembly by what she was saying to the children -if that makes any sense, teachers singled out in staff meetings 'yr 1 are falling behind and I'm very concerned' - only one yr1 teacher). There was always a general grumbling from staff 'it's what she's always like'.
She left me to it for first half term, but after October holidays nothing was good enough. Work load was ridiculous and I was struggling. She would come in and ask about 5 things - if one wasn't done then there would be huffing and 'I am really not impressed' followed by storming out. If I admitted being behind in anything, it was used against me. e.g. Admitted I was behind in marking - was given some time out of class to catch up (great - on paper she is doing the right thing) but then she will ask why I can't get my work done, that I must not be working efficiently and in future staff meetings she has referred to lazy teachers who can't keep up with marking (I know aimed at me).
I get into work at 7:15. I take 15mins lunch and work through all other breaks. I leave work at 6. I have work to do EVERY night (sometimes I do a couple of hours, sometimes I just can't face it). I work every Sunday. I am ALWAYS behind, and I don't mean in the usual way of there's always something else to do in teaching. I just can't do it.
Last half term I often came home crying (wonderfully supportive boyfriend at home who has met me crying at the door many evenings, had dinner ready, etc). Over Christmas I thought that I will give it my very best this term, get on top of all planning/ marking/ etc and see how it goes, make it through this year and leave in July. After first day back I knew I couldn't do it. Looked at finances and decided I would leave at Easter (earliest I can with notice). Cried every day for first four days in school (just about holding it together in school with small 'leakages' when others asked if I was OK, then broke down at home). Did not sleep for two nights solid with constant worry.
Had arranged to meet headteacher on Friday to discuss some issues - Between Monday and Thursday I had numerous emails and passings in the corridor that added to the list of things that needed to be discussed in the meeting 'I also want to see.... ... this hasn't been done correctly.... please show me how you intend to do...'. I know she will be going for capabilities. I think I am doing a pretty crap job at the moment because I just can not keep up with the work load.
I broke. I couldn't do it. I phoned in sick Friday morning. Saw GP and just cried.
GP was great and suggested I take the week off - self certificate.
So here's the thing - I DO NOT want to go back, ever. Right now I do not care how it impacts my career. I spent half a term working, crying, lost half stone, no time for my partner or friends, and I can't do it any longer. I've contacted my union who say my options are to try to get out of contract early or resign and stay off sick until Easter.
The thing is - I feel like a fraud being off sick - once work is taken away I feel fine. I need to go back to doctors tomorrow (even that fills me with dread) to be signed of sick. This is completely new to me, I've never felt like this before. All I can say is that the thought of going back fills me with absolute fear. I still feel on the verge of tears all the time when I think about school. Even the thought of having to speak to the head on the phone makes me feel sick. But I'm fine and sitting round the house finding jobs to do.
I just know I can't go back. I don't know what I'll do if doctor doesn't sign me off. I don't think I could physically make myself drive to work on Friday - I think I'd just keep driving!
Sorry this is so long - I just want out. I don't care about being paid - we are going to have to move (rented, so not too difficult) without my wage and probably use all of our savings. I guess I'm just wondering if anyone has been in or knows anyone in similar situation. I feel like I am going to end up supply teaching (fine by me), with a crap reference and everything I've worked so hard for over ten years is for nothing.
Final bit of context - been teaching for ten years. Had 4 days sick in ten years.At my previous school: always had good or better obs by a wide range of observers (Head, coordinators, SIP, OFSTED). My classes have always made great progress. Have got promotions. Have had two payrises that I've not asked for based on my performance.At this school: a previous teacher walked out in similar circumstances a year ago, staff are always complaining about workload, 80% of staff have told me they want to leave and are applying for other jobs, on paper head looks great - has given support - and I look like I can't cope with planning, teaching, assessing (pretty key to being a teacher and nothing that shouldn't be expected)
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cantdoit · 14/01/2014 12:04
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