could I ask for teachers view point on this bullying

(6 Posts)
Labro Fri 20-Sep-13 23:35:48

Have posted in bullying before, but struggling to get through to teachers.
Basically ds, now 11 was bullied all of last yr. It was referred to the deputy head who.spent 99% of the time defending the bullies and telling my ds to stop making up stories. It ended at the end of last term with a horrible physical incident and the school promised that the other child would be kept away from mine.
This term, they haven't done anything they promised and all of the talk is of ds being given coping strategies, staying away from the other child, telling me ds is disorganised when other child steals his possessions and then returns them to the locker once ds has received penalty points for losing books etcand the other child is praised to the hilt for every tiny thing they do.
So, how do I get across to staff that its the other child who needs to be watched and given penalties?

BatmanLovesIckyBarry Tue 01-Oct-13 12:23:24

I would ask for a copy of their bullying policy, and read it through. That should tell you the steps the school should be taking, and it will give you the confidence to say "You should be doing x, y and z as per your policy, please do it or I will be speaking to the Chair of Govs"

foreverawake Tue 01-Oct-13 12:53:28

Your poor ds. I would go through the line managers, so headteacher, then governors. Make an appointment to see the head, with the deputy if possible, as soon as you can. Keep a record of every incident that occurs.

Please bear in mind though that the school will not tell you how they are dealing with the other child, yet it does seem very unfair that your child is dealing with this. I hope your ds school life improves soon.

noblegiraffe Wed 02-Oct-13 10:38:23

I agree that you need to get a copy of the bullying policy and make sure it is being followed.

However, you wanted a teacher's viewpoint and I have to say I would be a bit hmm at the suggestion that a bully had taken another child's books and then returned them to their locker once the child was in trouble, and I probably would think it more likely that said child was simply being disorganised instead. Bullies who take books tend to bin them or hide them in stupid places. Suggesting that the bully put them in the locker raises the question of how the bully had access to a presumably padlocked locker. Is the locker secure? How do you know that it is the bully doing it, rather than a disorganised child blaming the bully? If you want the teachers to believe you on that score, you need some evidence to convince them, I'm afraid.

uselessinformation Sat 05-Oct-13 18:18:07

Move your child to a different school. I know it's galling that the victim had to move but it's been the best thing we could ever have done with my son.

uselessinformation Sat 05-Oct-13 18:18:45

Forgot to say I am a teacher.

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