Can I please ask you for some advice about something?

(11 Posts)
lilackaty Wed 29-May-13 14:40:47

I think it was very badly handled but you should definitely ask what the reasons were. I am sorry that you found out like that and it isn't surprising that you are feeling upset.
Just realised that this was a while ago - how did the Parent's Evening go?

Chottie Sun 26-May-13 17:22:31

I am not a teacher, but I am parent. I do not think this was well handled.

FanjoForTheMammaries Sat 11-May-13 21:36:20

Thanks lougle.

I surprised myself..I thought I had accepted DD's issues and was feeling better but this really really gutted me for some reason.

I do wonder how it was decided. DD has more physical issues than the others and is still learning how to dress herself more than them so maybe that's it.

Even wondered if it's because she is gentle and so more suitable to be with the new 5 year olds than some of the others.

Should probably ask!

Would help if she would perform at school like she does here, she speaks lots here and has never uttered a sound at school!

These answers are really appreciated, I was very upset but feel a bit better thanks

lougle Sat 11-May-13 21:29:12

Aww Fanjo, I feel for you. I found out which class DD1 was in because a new Mum had been told 'lougle's DD is in the class your DS will be in' and she helpfully came to me and said 'oh yes, your DD is in x class, isn't she..'

It did floor me a bit.

Tell them, they probably didn't even realise, but they should know, especially as you are so raw about your DD's needs.

On the subject of classes - try not to stress which classroom she's in. SS are completely different to MS and very little about what they are taught is determined on which 'room' they are in.

DD1's current class ranges from around P3-P8/1c on the scales. A huge range. But they all get what they need and when they need it.

FanjoForTheMammaries Sat 11-May-13 21:21:39

Thanks. Is parent consultation on Monday, actually.

Hopefully we will be officially enlightened then

ilikesweetpeas Sat 11-May-13 21:10:14

No, I'm a teacher in a special school and you are not over reacting. Just a polite note will make your point and hopefully the school will re-think how they let parents know such important information. At my school we are not yet totally decided on classes for Sept and even our support staff don't know the lists yet so no-one can let details slip! We send details of which class a child will be in, together with photos of staff the week before parents evening.

FanjoForTheMammaries Sat 11-May-13 20:59:18

Thanks..I will maybe write a note to head teacher.

Just didn't know if I was over reacting smile

ilikesweetpeas Sat 11-May-13 20:57:53

Ahh, that's not how you should have found out. I would speak to the school about this and say that you felt let down to be informed in this way. You should have been told by letter, or face to face personally. This is not a professional way for the school to operate. Hope you feel better tomorrow x

FanjoForTheMammaries Sat 11-May-13 20:53:15

Sorry..phone also mangled first para.

I meant opinions would be welcomed as not sure if I would be over reacting to complain to head teacher.

Typical of phone to embarrass me in front of teachers. blush

FanjoForTheMammaries Sat 11-May-13 20:51:37

Sorry..phone playing up.

Professional opinions most gratefully welcomed.

FanjoForTheMammaries Sat 11-May-13 20:50:55

I'd be so grateful for honest opiopinioms something which happened today, as I don't know whether I would be NT said r reacting or silly to complain to HT about it.

DD is at special school. They have 3 classes for primary.
She has been in class 1 for 2 years..she is 6.5 (we are in Scotland).

We haven't heard what class she will be in next year yet.

Was reallly hoping she would now progress to class 2 as I have been working with her lots.

Was at school fair today and another mum told me that class 2 teacher had told her 3 of DD's 5 classmates are going up to class 2 and one girl is leaving to school for MLD. So DD and one boy are left behind (other boy is younger and only started last year).

Then DD and I were in classroom getting her face painted and Class 2 teacher's daughter was there (older and NT) and said "ah so Fanjos DD will be in your class next year"..teacher said "no..she is not going up to class 2").

This was a real.blow to me and have been teary all day.

Am I right that teacher shouldn't have been blabbing to everyone about DD and the other children, especially before we were informed?

I would like to complain but wonder if it is worth it as hopefully eventually DD will have this teacher.

Am I over reacting because of what it means for DD?

Sorry this is long..professional opinions

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