Why do parents think it's ok to talk to teachers like shit?

(58 Posts)
StuffezLaBouche Mon 18-Mar-13 19:39:20

Horrible parent today. Why aren't I entering her child for a certain test? You can't be bothered with the hassle, you don't like him, it's ok for you - you get in at nine and get to go at three, etc. etc.

If someone was so rude in my private life they'd get a firm and strongly worded mouthful. I just felt shaken after, as it was quite an outpour. Now I just feel really, really angry. I work my bloody arse off for my class and am so pissed off by the attitude that teachers can be talked to like that. I know all teachers will feel like this at some point... Today just got to me. (Not helped by the fifteen mile round trip to pick up a Gumtree item and the woman deciding not to sell after all.)

Sorry for this rant, just over stressed and a bit upset.

nkf Tue 26-Mar-13 21:50:17

Some people are rude. I bet any profession that meets the public face to face gets rudeness. Imagine being a policeman. And the stuff I've seen in a&e.

Some people have legitimate complaints about schools but lack the social skills to raise them properly and so they scream and shout.

nkf Tue 26-Mar-13 22:04:04

I'm not sure that letting teachers feel your wrath will get the best result for your child.

nkf Tue 26-Mar-13 22:05:23

And Betty, why are they frightened of you? If I was getting that response from several people, I would do some self reflection.

BettyBlues Tue 26-Mar-13 22:26:09

Nkf - I'm not getting that response from several people. It's just the SENCO that's scared of me. And I think that she's scared I'll complain to the HT about her because she's not doing a good job.

The HT hates me because I'm not satisfied with the quality of the SEN provision. But he hated me from the day I joined because he didn't want to have to accept a 'challenging child'

The class teachers start of OK but once they realise I actually expect them to teach a dyslexic child and not just babysit them then they start to avoid me.

The whole reason they hate me / avoid me / are scared of me is because I expect them to teach my DC and they don't know how to.

However there has been progress made this week. The HT is now talking about getting a specialist SpLD teacher in so maybe things will be resolved.

nkf Tue 26-Mar-13 22:27:14

That is several people you think don't like you.

ProphetOfDoom Tue 26-Mar-13 23:25:14

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Stinkypoos Mon 15-Apr-13 23:09:48

I am involved, via work, with the school which my daughter goes to.

I know both the staff and some of the parents from my daughter's class.

Recently one mother had a massive rant to me about my daughter's lovely teacher - who is also fantastic to work with. I don't think I'm being biased here.

According to the mother, the teacher was very rude to her. This is really unlike the person I know. I asked for more information and the parent seems to be totally out of order. The teacher has a class of 30 and it is not possible to comply with the mother's request.

I tried to explain to the mother how busy the teacher is during the day, how much extra work she does at the school (additional responsibilities etc) and the response was a rant about being professional. The teacher said no to an unreasonable request - that's all.

I know the mother socially and she is fine. She is a perfectly reasonable, good and pleasant company, she is well educated, has a good job and perfectly normal. I don't understand why she is acting in such a damaging way towards her child's teacher.

squeezedatbothends Fri 19-Apr-13 13:34:53

I think it comes from government - teachers are lazy and worthless, passed down through the media, into the mouths of parents and then their children. Hey ho, poor behaviour in the classroom. Last week it was in the news that 2000 teachers signed a petition about his language and behaving like a child - there are about 2700 on there now (www.thinking-about-education.co.uk ) and there's one up for parents as well called 'Our Children Are Not Political Footballs' www.thinking-about-education.co.uk/parents-petition .

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