Well we gave them a year to help dd, but she had been there along time. we moved her to an indi school and the change in her is amazing. We are now having the same difficulties with dd2, but she has just started reception.
I'm sorry you feel this way. However, you have the opportunity for an alternative. That doesn't mean you don't appreciate what individuals have done for you. It's a numbers game... The private school can afford to work with smaller classes, and can remove children if it wants to. The state school can't. This doesn't mean that your child will be in private education for ever. Perhaps at secondary level, the local state school will seem like a beacon of opportunity and you will take up that choice. Be polite and positive, and you could go from January (I'd let your DC finish this term first...)
Give the staff a nice present to show your appreciation - lovely gift for the staff room, and perhaps a book token for the library. If you were bitter with the school, you wouldn't do this. The message will be clear.
no other good options sadly.. very tiny alternatives, no cultural mix ( I have blended children) one of the schools is in a downward spiral of children leaving because it is so small, so they are loosing critical mass and loosing teachers because the numbers don't support it... and so on.
I so wish she had been able to pull it out of the bag but we had a stagnant year last year, this year is a work in progress we can't afford another one..
I have a lovely teacher at school, she is honest and trying her best with the circumstances. She has a very challenging year group. We have some issues that need dealing with for our child. Plan of action agreed with Head, and teacher. Interventions in place. No time to implement them. Too much fire fighting to do with the rest of the class It looks increasingly like we are going to take up PiL offer of paying for local private school.
So after the back ground now the question. How do we make sure the school know that the teacher is not the reason we are going. Nor is it the head. It is the opportunity for DC to be in much smaller classes, where extremely disruptive behavior can be handled in a clearer way.
(eg one child in the disruptive class uses the f word in almost every sentence, school are "managing" her behavior but thi is not working)