Help! Kitten crying every time we leave the room!

(49 Posts)
Catmint Fri 13-Sep-13 22:20:42

Is this normal?

What can I do to alleviate?

Do I need to sleep down here?

Kitten born 9/7. Today is first day here. Kitten seeking lots of cuddles. Which is lovely but....can I actually go to bed?

This is why we always home kittens in pairs. They get very upset alone. Can he sleep with you?

cozietoesie Fri 13-Sep-13 22:32:49

Missing Mum and the litter mates - today is the biggest change of its whole life after all.

Sort of depends on how soft a touch you are. I have mine sleeping with me but other posters adamantly refuse to allow such liberties and go for the tough love approach. Has s/he got a nice cosy fleece or blanket to sleep on ? If so, s/he'll likely settle once the light goes out and it's quieter. (More than you will, I suspect.)

Oh - and has there been any use of tray?

Catmint Fri 13-Sep-13 22:35:22

Two wees, no poos.

Loads of cuddles, but now racing around like a good 'un!

DP doesn't want her in bed until we are confident about use of tray....I could sleep down here tonight but then what about tomorrow?

Catmint Fri 13-Sep-13 22:36:43

Yes has blanket, furry beanbag, basket ( wasn't hers but she has claimed already ).

cozietoesie Fri 13-Sep-13 22:39:44

Your call, Catmint. grin If you want to leave her downstairs, make sure there's nothing lying around that's fragile and/or breakable spread her blanket somewhere in a safe looking spot (edge or corner or under something), close the door and head for the hills. I suspect you'll be lying awake listening but there you go.

Good on the tray use! She knows her duty.

Catmint Fri 13-Sep-13 22:43:56

DP is working early. Kitten has flopped

She will def be allowed to sleep with us once she is confident with tray. Tonight I think I may be up and down. Takes me back to when dd was tiny! grin

Catmint Fri 13-Sep-13 22:47:25

House is kitten proofed and we have installed draught excluders as "cat baffles" in vulnerable areas. She is absolutely marvellous and is now fast asleep by my head.

cozietoesie Fri 13-Sep-13 22:50:20

If she's already chosen the basket as her own, then I'd try her out downstairs. (You'd likely need another tray for upstairs if she slept up there, little bladders being what they are and her being in a strange place.)

I think it's worth the attempt.

cozietoesie Fri 13-Sep-13 22:51:24

Hah! .... fast asleep by my head......

I sense someone under the paw already.


timtam23 Fri 13-Sep-13 22:52:44

We let this one sleep with us (7 weeks when we took him in) and he was fine at using the litter tray

When my old cat was a tiny kitten I used to wrap a heated wheatbag in a blanket or flannelette sheet & put it into a box for her to snuggle up to

Scarletohello Fri 13-Sep-13 22:53:06

This is such a cute thread! I look forward to hearing the adventures of kitty. What are you going to call her..( and post pics, she adds hopefully..?)

timtam23 Fri 13-Sep-13 22:53:53

Should have said we currently have 3 litter trays - 1 up, 1 down and one in the hallway (small house so nowhere else to put the extra one!)

Catmint Fri 13-Sep-13 22:59:17

Thank you Cozie, I think I just need to know from a 3rd party that it is not cruel. It feels okay, obviously if crying is prolonged I will come down.

Tbh, I have visited this kitten several times and she appears to have speed-bonded to me....lots of cuddles, purrs and paddy-pawing on me.

Ps we chose 1 kitten because we can provide for her and give a safe, secure home. We would not be able to guarantee the same for 2.

We are not inexperienced cat owners, but is a very long time since we had a kitten.

crazynanna Fri 13-Sep-13 23:00:11

I took my girl to bed with me on night 1 with litter tray, food and water on the bedroom floor. She snuggled under the quilt by my thigh. Up and down all night crying for biscuits, having to put her down and lift her back up as she couldn't get back on.
Only now aged 2 has she decided yo sleep all over the house...after kisses and cuddles for 10 minutes of course

Catmint Fri 13-Sep-13 23:02:29

Scarlett, her name is Meg White, after the drummer in the band the White Stripes. Also, my dd has a bosom friend toy who is a cat called Mog, who is part of the family. So... Meg & Mog just fits.

Have totally outed myself here!

Pics on my profile for all to see, I will add more soon.

NationMcKinley Fri 13-Sep-13 23:03:13

envy I want a kitten <stamps foot>

Catmint Fri 13-Sep-13 23:03:17

Thank you all for your help. I need a wee so may try sneaking out now.....will update tomorrow.

Night night

kiriwawa Fri 13-Sep-13 23:03:44

I'm a meanie - I lock my kittens in a room downstairs but they have had the odd accident (despite 3 litter trays!) and it's all carpeted upstairs. Plus I know they'd wake us up at 5am grin

There's 2 of them though so they're quite happy curling up together

cozietoesie Fri 13-Sep-13 23:05:15

Keep checking that car engine, Nation !


AmberLeaf Fri 13-Sep-13 23:06:56

Oh she is very pretty!

Silverfoxballs Fri 13-Sep-13 23:06:58

If that was my kitten my DH would be in the cat box and the kitten would be in the bed with me.

Our cat sleeps on the end of DS bed.

Scarletohello Fri 13-Sep-13 23:08:37

Oh soooo cute! If it was mine I'd want it to sleep with me...

kiriwawa Fri 13-Sep-13 23:08:42

Oh she's adorable!

Purpleknickers Fri 13-Sep-13 23:14:28

What a cutie , the first night is always worrisome but so worth it

NationMcKinley Sat 14-Sep-13 00:08:49

cozie ha! grin

Catmint Sat 14-Sep-13 04:18:10

I have a cosy fleecy top that I like to wear in the evenings, so I took it off and put it in her chosen basket. A bit of miaowing as I went to bed but not too guilt inducing.

I was woken up about 3am by some loud people so decided to come down. I found a sleepy kitten curled up in bed, and a poo in the litter tray. Result!

I have had a cup of tea, kitten has snacked. She only eats tiny amounts at a time. Kitten has enjoyed a big furry cuddle, gentle playing and a mad 5 minutes. Kitten got confused, and was miaowing at the door even though I was in the room with her. smile

I will attempt to sneak back up shortly.

mathanxiety Sat 14-Sep-13 05:06:28

What a beauty!

nothruroad Sat 14-Sep-13 07:07:55

She's gorgeous!

sashh Sat 14-Sep-13 07:55:05

She is so cute, and could be related to mine - see pics on profile.

cozietoesie Sat 14-Sep-13 08:09:56

Oh Good Result all round, Catmint*.


Remind me - has she got to be vetted for worms and fleas etc?

Catmint Sat 14-Sep-13 08:41:19

She was wormed and fleaed by the Rescue. They also intended to do first vacc, but the person was poorly, so we are taking her on Tue. She is chipped.

She has has 2 x vet checks. All fine!

We are now reduced to putting the cat bed in places we don't want her to go! wink

cozietoesie Sat 14-Sep-13 08:50:05

You'll be an exhausted wreck by teatime!


Catmint Sat 14-Sep-13 08:53:06

Yours looks a beauty Sashh.

A friend of mine is adopting 2 of her sisters on Sunday, one of which is exceptionally beautiful. The other is a little black one who is very sweet indeed.

I love sharing this joyful time with you guys!

tabulahrasa Sat 14-Sep-13 08:53:18

One of mine literally wouldn't stay by herself ever when we got her, if she fell asleep on the couch and I got up to wash the dishes she'd wake up 5 minutes later crying for me.

She just stopped doing it after a few weeks, started going off exploring by herself (in the house obviously)...though the first time she disappeared to sleep in a washing pile it did result in a 2 hour search for her, lol.

I didn't sleep with her though, I just stuck her somewhere safe (I have other pets) and left her at night, she got used to that fairly quickly.

Catmint Sat 14-Sep-13 08:55:02

Exhausted but happy, Cozie.

I am really really looking forward to having cuddles in my bed...I am thinking we might all need 40 winks this afternoon.

Catmint Sat 14-Sep-13 08:58:59

That's good to know, Tabulah. We lost ours yesterday when nipped out for 10 mins to get DD from school. She had slithered into a basket of papercraft material that I had stashed under a sideboard. Needless to say, the basket has now been emptied into a cardboard box and hidden upstairs & the basket is now designated for kitten!

cozietoesie Sat 14-Sep-13 09:01:27

Nothing like an afternoon snooze with a kitten lying beside you, though. You'll be very tempted.

It's interesting watching different mothering styles on Critter Cam, tabulah. The last Mom was incredibly hands on and her kittens seemed to live in a kitten puddle or with her all the time. The current one (Hazel) is nowt but a kitten herself really and gets fed up with them a bit now, taking herself off for long periods. Her kittens are much more independent and will sleep by themselves quite happily.

Catmint Sat 14-Sep-13 09:19:52

Definitely a kitten snooze in my bed is in order this afternoon! I can't wait!

Congratulations Catmint!
Harlem kitten slept well downstairs, no crying.
She has wee'd on my sofa bed though!

Enjoy your day with her x

Catmint Sat 14-Sep-13 10:24:51

And you, morecrack.

Tbh the exhausting thing is teaching DD to interact safely and have fun without it sounding as if I am nagging, telling off.

Dd alone is fine. Kitten alone is fine. Both together is rather tiring!

Scarletohello Sun 15-Sep-13 23:58:52

Want ( need ) to know more about how you and Meg are doing. Kept checking back for more info but ... Nothing!sad

Catmint Mon 16-Sep-13 18:01:59

Aw Scarlett, sorry! I have been posting on Morecrack's thread, I thought no one was looking at this one!

We are doing pretty well.

Amount of time it takes Kitten to stop miaowing if left alone = average about 5 mins.

Number of times DP has nearly trodden on her = he says 32 today wink ( he has been home, I have been at work )

Number of times we have reminded DD that kitten is a live animal who will want to be friends more if not picked up or stroked at the wrong time = 100000000

She is lovely. smile

itsnothingoriginal Tue 17-Sep-13 22:50:50

We're mean and our kitten sleeps alone in the kitchen! After several nights of being woken up by her jumping around at 5 am shock DH was adamant we weren't going to have anything else waking us up (dd is hard enough work as it is!). I felt really guilty at first as she cried for us for ages sad

After a few nights we got into a routine and we now put her in the kitchen with her dinner and say night night!! She seems perfectly happy with this arrangement - no more crying anyway.

We still have to remind dd about not picking up the cat at every opportunity so I'm afraid you may be saying that a few more times too... smile

I'm mean too!
I have a room at the back of the house we call the snug. Has a sofa bed, rug, food, toys and litter tray. Plus a fleece radiator bed that Boo loves. She's in there from around 11pm.
No crying till dh gets up at 6.
She does seem a little wary of dh and his voice, though. Especially when he's wearing his great honking workboots!

Catmint Wed 18-Sep-13 17:50:59

I was away with work last night, very pleased to get home to my newly expanded family today. Kitten curled up on my lap now, following a harum scarum rampage up and down the stairs.

She is still a bit cry-y but I'm sure it will settle down over time.

Kittens rule!

Scarletohello Wed 18-Sep-13 19:18:06

Thanks for the update. Glad u have all settled into a nice routine with kitty! smile

Well, it's been a week and Boo is really part of our family now. We couldn't have hoped for a more loving, playful and characterful cat.

She is eating lots, having only been able to eat a few mouthfuls at a time when she first arrived. Her fur is glossy and flea free, and she is almost constantly purring.

She has mastered the litter tray, has a favourite toy and spends the day on her radiator bed whilst we are at work (I have taken to leaving the radiator on for her, much to dh's disgust!)

I am so happy I decided to keep her.

I am feeding according to the instructions on her food, but she is always so hungry! Can you overfeed a kitten? Or should I feed on demand? I suspect she is having a growth spurt.

We all love her so much. Even dh who was initially a reluctant cat owner!

Catmint Sun 22-Sep-13 16:54:03

Morecrack, what a lovely update!

We too have settle into a routine, kitten was very needy at first, is far more confident now. Fewer cuddles to be had, but I think she will grow back into them.

She eats very little at a time, still, so small amount of food is always available with water. We show her the food. Perfect litter tray manners so far, lots of lovely playing.

My DP has totally fallen for her!

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