Some bastard has hit my cat.

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Zepherial Wed 01-May-13 12:57:59

Some fucking shit ran over my cat!

My neighbour called me and said someone was speeding down our road ( which drives me mad as we have a school and nursery near us and it is 20 mph, but that's another thread....) and our cat ran across the road and they hit it. Get this they slowed then fucking drove off, did not even get out to see if he was okay.

So I had to take all three of my children home to see if he was dead bloody traumatic for them ( he was not dead) he is now at the vets with god knows what wrong with him, when I picked Him up and put him in my car he collapsed.

So to the Aibu can I watch out for the car as i have the reg and a good description and stick hundreds of post it notes thanking them for not getting out of the car the bastards? angry

NinaHeart Wed 01-May-13 12:59:26

I am so sorry to hear this. Nasty nasty people. In my book YANBU to do almost anything to them.
How is your cat?

No doubt I'll get flamed for this but the driver has no legal obligation to stop/ report an incident involving a cat. I'm sorry that your cat was hurt.


A decent person would have stopped. I am so sorry Zepherial and I really hope your cat is going to be ok. x

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie Wed 01-May-13 13:03:18

Ah Zepherial sad I am SO sorry that heartless piece of shit ran off like that. sad

Please let us know how he's doing when you're updated. brew flowers

skyblue11 Wed 01-May-13 13:04:44

I'm so sorry, that would make me soooo angry. If you know whose car it is I would definitely be having words with them, bastards.

MansView Wed 01-May-13 13:05:16

that's so sad... sad

Scrabbleyurt Wed 01-May-13 13:06:14

Obviously you're angry but you don't know that the driver was aware he or she hit your cat. They may have heard a noise, slowed then thought it was nothing or couldn't see anything so drove on. The cat might have run into the side of the car?

It must be upsetting but don't assume the worst automatically.

I hope your cat makes a full recovery.

Zepherial Wed 01-May-13 13:06:49

I know there is no legal obligation but for fuck sake is there no compassion anymore, I would stop and see if I could do anything.

I really don't know I have a horrible feeling he will have to be put down, I know it means nothing but he is the most beautiful pedigree Burmese and my children adore him.

I am so fucking frustrated and am going to put notes up outside my house.

What did the vet say Zepherial?

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie Wed 01-May-13 13:08:51

Scrabble don't be saying things like that to the OP when she's distrssed. It's pointless. She's upset. I would be beside myself if this happened to my cat. KNOW if you've hit something.

Zepherial Wed 01-May-13 13:09:00

Sorry the person knew they hit something even my neighbour heard, he said it was very loud. When I say slowed my neighbour said slowed to see out the window my cat dragging itself towards him then sped off.

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie Wed 01-May-13 13:09:23

It DOES mean something...Zeph he might be ok yet...don't look on the black side. When will you know?

You do know if you have hit something. sad

Zepherial Wed 01-May-13 13:11:57

Vet says his insides are okay have to wait for bladder though, he has had dental work for his jaw and teeth extracted.

His front leg is sore not sure if broken but I am most worried that his back legs keep collapsing.

wibblyjelly Wed 01-May-13 13:12:05

Hope he is OK thanks

I'm sorry to hear about your cat Zepherial. Similar happened to my cat last year. He now has 3 legs, but gets about surprisingly well. (The bill was eye watering though, so hope he's insured)

Heartless bastards.


elfycat Wed 01-May-13 13:13:59

Hoping for the best for your cat. At least he's at the vet and they won't let him be in pain while they check him over.

Tailtwister Wed 01-May-13 13:14:10

That's awful OP, of course he should stop (legal obligation or not). Maybe he knew he was speeding and was scared he would be caught if he stopped?

In any case, I will keep my fingers crossed your cat is ok. The initial news from the vet seems positive, so hopefully the rest will be too.

Poor cat. I really hope he pulls though. And big hugs to your DC too.

Fillyjonk75 Wed 01-May-13 13:15:33

Hope the cat is ok. Poor puss.

One thing you could do is if you have the reg, make and model is look it up on the DVLA site to see if it's taxed and insured.

Zepherial Wed 01-May-13 13:15:59

Thank you all for your kind words, my poor dog is looking for him in his bed. I just want to cry.

Now I will get shot down, he is not insured we cancelled after my other cat was killed. (Before you say anything the dog is)

I don't care about the money we will pay for it, just angry at the lack of compassion.

MadameOvary Wed 01-May-13 13:17:09

Fuckers. The decent thing to do is stop and see what you can do to help. I'd be fucking mortified and very upset if that had been me.
Hope karma gets the bastards angry

Fillyjonk75 Wed 01-May-13 13:17:25

Insurance isn't always worth it, Zeph. You shouldn't be shot down.

SamuelWestsMistress Wed 01-May-13 13:17:49

What a terrible shame. Your poor cat sad I do hope he makes a recovery. We lost my most beautiful and favourite cat about three years ago on a very busy main road. I don't even know why he ventured that far. He hadn't even been missing, but it just so happened as I was on my way home I saw a council worker who was clearing the verges picking him up so I managed to bring him home and bury him. Other wise I'd never have known what had happened to him.

I actually hit a cat not long after passing my driving test. I was completely hysterical and DH had to go and try and find it (it ran off after we hit it into a fair ground on the other side of the road) I went to the police station to report it but they pretty much laughed at me or being so traumatised about it, the bastards!

Zepherial Wed 01-May-13 13:20:06

When on a school run myself I witnessed someone hitting a cat. They got out got a blanket out the car and sat with the cat whilst he died whilst me and some other mums knocked on doors. We did find the owner and she was so thankful he was not alone when he died.

Callisto Wed 01-May-13 13:20:35

DH worked out a while ago that insurance wasn't worth it for us and the occasional huge vets bill is actually cheaper than shelling out ££ every month, especially as they get older.

I feel for you, I've had cats run over before and it's awful, in fact it's one reason I won't have another.

Latara Wed 01-May-13 13:22:25

Hoping your cat will pull through, x

YoniConnect Wed 01-May-13 13:23:01

So sorry OP - this happened to my cat last year. Unfortunately the outcome was not good, and she was PTS.

Hope your kitty is ok flowers

I have twice had to stop and pick up one injured and one dead cat. I now keep a box and blankets in the car specifically. sad

In the case of the injured cat the car two in front of me hit it. people were driving round it as it somersaulted. Then got all tutty when I stopped the traffic to pick it up. sad

DublinMammy Wed 01-May-13 13:25:36

Heartless bastards, so sorry, hope your cat pulls through...

Zepherial Wed 01-May-13 13:26:00

Not sure how to link names but Samuel that is just mean it is a traumatic thing to hit an animal.

Callisto that was our opinion as well although I take a different view for the dog not sure if that is logical though?

At the last count for the emergency treatment it was £700 so god knows what the bill will be. But no news is good news right?

NiniLegsInTheAir Wed 01-May-13 13:28:02

This happened to one of my Mum's cats a few years back - first they knew was when he appeared at the cat flap, trying to drag himself and a mangled leg through it. sad He recovered though and is still a bouncy happy lad, even with only 3 legs.

Fingers tightly crossed your little puss is ok.

And massively insensitive to use the 'driver didn't have to stop' card as a first response there justforlaughs. hmm

Zepherial Wed 01-May-13 13:28:11

See that's what makes me so mad maybe I am too soft but I can't even dispatch the creatures the cat brings in let alone leave an injured one in the road.

Fecklessdizzy Wed 01-May-13 13:28:21

Scumbag driver. Hope your cat's OK.

Zepherial So sorry - poor cat, and poor you. Really hope all will be well. flowers

Oh that's just so awful sad Ffs legal or not he shoulda stopped!!! I hope your poor cats ok xx


iiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii Wed 01-May-13 13:30:33

Sorry about your cat.

I ran a cat over once, there was nothing I could do, it shot out on on country road. I did get out to check but it was dead. The worse bit was I couldn't find anyone to tell and he didn't have a collar. sad

I hope your moggie feels better soon.

Doyouthinktheysaurus Wed 01-May-13 13:30:49

Your poor cat, I hope he's okaysad

The driver should have stopped, it is just basic humanity.

I had a cat run out of me on the way to work the other week, dark cat on a dark night, not speeding, just shot out. I didn't hit it but I was very shaken, it's an awful feeling.

skyblue11 Wed 01-May-13 13:33:33

If it's any help my cat was run over too, she had teeth removed and couldn't walk due to her hips being 'shunted' she spent 6 weeks in a cage and so she couldn't jump and cause further damage and she went on to live another 7 years!

I hope you're insured, I hope your cat is going to be OK, fingers crossed..

Zepherial Wed 01-May-13 13:34:27

Thanks to all of you for our nice words.

Out of interest what do I have to do to try and get speed bumps put in our road?

I realise you make think that excessive for a cat but a young boy sped down our road and crashed into a parked car not long ago. As I said we have a nursery and school accessed by our road and opposite me are some old people's flats. We always have speeding cars on our road and ironically it seems to be late parents collecting who are speeding most of the time.

Autumn12 Wed 01-May-13 13:37:03

I hope your Cat is Ok!

I live in fear of something happening to one of my Cats. They have only recently started going outside at 3 years old, and I ahte it if they don't come back after 10 minutes or so.

piprabbit Wed 01-May-13 13:37:09

Get in touch with your local councillor about speed bumps. They should be able to point you in the right direction.

Zepherial Wed 01-May-13 13:37:10

Sky blue that sounds like my cat, maybe his legs will be okay?

My husband seems to think he will be okay as that would have rung by now with x ray results.... Here's hoping x

cozietoesie Wed 01-May-13 13:38:06

I'd probably speak, in the first instance, or write, to your local councillor listing all the points you've made.

So sorry about your cat, Zepherial.

Zepherial Wed 01-May-13 13:38:06

Thanks pip will look not that.

oranotherstickybun Wed 01-May-13 13:38:47

So sorry for you and your family and poor cat. We have a three legged cat who is faster than our four legged one! Really hope he recovers .xxx

Zepherial Wed 01-May-13 13:39:08

Stoopid iPad I meant look into that.

cozietoesie Wed 01-May-13 13:39:12

You'll likely find that your councillor has an email address you can contact - check out the Council website.

I think it's every cat owners dread. We live in a quiet cul de sac but some people speed up and down and there's no need for it.

Mama1980 Wed 01-May-13 13:40:33

Any news? I hope he is ok. I genuinely have no idea how anyone could to stop! Makes me so angry
My cat came to me after he was hit by a car he was a stray and had crawled into my garden with broken legs and goodness knows what. I raced him to the vet and he recovered- now he rules my house! Vets can work miracles even on seemingly awful injuries so I have everything crossed for your cat x

Zepherial Wed 01-May-13 13:41:54

I need some wine lunch will update when the vet calls.

Plus I have to stalk the nursery collectors cars, or would that be mean?

skyblue11 Wed 01-May-13 13:42:47

Zeph, fingers crossed, it's common, I have heard a few cats end up like this, they do make a recovery, it's usually their claws are also damaged as well they put they out to try and stop themselves bless em. I used to work for Cats Protection ans they don't let anyone have a cat near or on a main road, I now have a housecat.

I would love speedbumps but they won't put them on our lane (no money in budget and you have to have a really strong case now) they wouldn't put them there because of cats, only children. So my cat remains indoors...

cozietoesie Wed 01-May-13 13:42:48

We had chicanes put in a nearby street, Sparkling. Meant to be as a traffic calming measure. Instead, all the local hot rod boys saw it as a personal challenge/car slalom course and the road became even more unsafe - particularly at night.

Zepherial Wed 01-May-13 13:43:38

Oh dear I meant to cross wine, although some how bold seems apt.

Let us know later Zepherial. Fingers crossed. x

Zepherial Wed 01-May-13 13:45:38

I wonder if the fact that the nursery and school entrances are on are road will have any impact?

I did not mean speed bumps for the cats, they would howl at that one, nutty cat lady.

Wylye Wed 01-May-13 13:46:04

Zeph - so sorry about your cat, just to add, my sis's cat had a double spiral fracture & awful infection in one leg after beng hit - eight weeks cage rest, a frankly eyewatering bill and four years later, he's completely mobile happy and healthy, with the damaged leg just a little bit stiffer and skinnier than his others.
I'll be keeping my fingers crossed that your cat has a similar happy outcome, it's definitely possible - vets seem to work miracles.

ErrorError Wed 01-May-13 13:46:35

Unfortunately it's not the law to stop if you hit a cat as they are 'free-roamers' but I think it should be. I'm a cat lover and would be mortified and really upset if I hit one. It terrifies me that one day that could happen. I'm still trying to get over the anger about the bastard who shot and killed one of my cats. So much rage and no justice! angry

Hope your cat is okay Zepherial flowers and wine

SofaKing Wed 01-May-13 13:47:38

I'm so sorry to hear about your cat, I hope everything will be OK.

Our dog was run over as a puppy, he slipped his leash and came home two hours later covered in blood and limping, he had broken his hip and vet said his injuries were consistent with being hit by a car. He recovered and lived to be 17 so it is amazing how animals can recover. I will never to this day understand how the person who ran him over didn't stop.

Please contact the school and local council about speed bumps, I live in a road leading into school too and I think anyone who speeds outside a school is a complete idiot, and idiots only stop if they are made to.

Zepherial Wed 01-May-13 13:48:27

Wylye thanks, lots of positive stories so will keep my fingers crossed.

On a lighter note my cats name, named by my daughter is Mr Mieaw.

Tress embarrassing in the vets " Mr Meaw please"

cozietoesie Wed 01-May-13 13:49:41

Use the nursery and school entrances as your main point, yes, and if possible cite examples of speeding. They'll likely want to know, from the police, say, of any accidents and maybe send an observer before committing to any traffic calming measures, those being so expensive.

Sadly, it's never going to stop people who might be driving at 'safe' speeds being uncaring about animals they run over and wound badly. Some people are just rotters.

Zepherial Wed 01-May-13 13:49:49

Oh god Error that is horrible, why, why, why would someone do that?

ItsYoniYappy Wed 01-May-13 13:51:12

I hope he is okay OP. One of mine was ran over and he needed something put in his hip, he was fine but he had to be kept to a small are so he didn't walk on it a lot, do you have dog or cat crate at home, somewhere safe and peaceful he can lie when he comes home?

No-one stopped after they hit mine either.

Idocrazythings Wed 01-May-13 13:51:41

Sorry to hear about your cat, hope he's ok. maybe approach the school and see if they can put something in the school newsletter regarding being careful in the area- next time it could be a small child?. Something a bit PA but non identifying? Worth a try

Zepherial Wed 01-May-13 13:51:51

Cozie thanks I will defiantly look into it as I have lots of examples unfortunately.

Zepherial Wed 01-May-13 13:53:24

ItsYoniYappy I have a dog crate, maybe if I prepare it good ibex will go out.

Zepherial Wed 01-May-13 13:54:04

Good vibes will go out...

MadameOvary Wed 01-May-13 13:54:21

Fingers crossed for you OP

ErrorError Wed 01-May-13 13:56:42

Some stupid morons pot-shotting innocent pets for a laugh probably. Really sickens me. The driver that slowed down but didn't stop for your cat has just as much gall imo. Really horrible that people can get away with that sort of stuff. I knew someone (a former friend's dad) who openly admitted to hating cats and said if he saw them in the street he would run them over! I don't mind people who don't like cats, but to say that to a cat owner is pretty twisted!

On a lighter note, I love your cat's name. I think David Baddiel has a cat called Chairman Meow!

PickledLiver Wed 01-May-13 14:15:39

Fingers crossed for the pussycat - this post has had me in tears. I can't even blame Aunt Flo - I'm just insane flowers

Samu2 Wed 01-May-13 14:53:15

Fingers crossed for your cat xx

When I was young a man ran over our cat and he got out of the car and picked it up. Poor cat had died so he ended up helping my mum bury him and he came round for a few days later just to see if we were all ok and apologise.

I will never forget his kindness and I will never understand people who don't stop when they know they have hit something.

Samu2 Wed 01-May-13 14:55:26

I should have added that he knew it was our cat because we were there when he got run over.

AKAK81 Wed 01-May-13 15:42:22

How do you know the driver was speeding? I would never deliberately run anything over but would never stop unless it was a dog or other reportable animal. It's the risk you take owning a cat I'm afraid, if you don't like the risk then it should be house cats only for you. At least it wasn't a dog though otherwise you'd be liable for any damage to the car.

Hafen Wed 01-May-13 15:45:58

You don't have to stop for a cat, only a dog, YABU

Floralnomad Wed 01-May-13 15:46:38

akak the neighbour said the car was speeding and TBH if you wouldn't stop if you hit somebody's cat to at least see if you could do something is pretty disgusting . I think you're on the wrong thread with that opinion .

Thanks for that supportive post AKAK. Nice to know you wouldn't stop for a cat too. sad

Tomorrowslookingfine Wed 01-May-13 15:56:51

Why wouldn't you stop for a cat AKA?

Devilforasideboard Wed 01-May-13 16:04:50

No, you don't have to stop but it's the decent thing to do. One of my cats was hit by a car and without the poor lady who hit him coming to tell us we wouldn't have known for hours as he dragged himself off to hide under a shed. I will be forever grateful to that lady for saving us the heartache of looking for the cat and possibly losing him to his injuries. He survived with a dislocated hip and 6 weeks cage rest and you honestly wouldn't know there had ever been anything wrong with him. I really hope your wee chap is ok Zepherial

Thinking of you and your cat, OP.

I can't understand how people can run off. I had the shakes for a good half an hour when a wild rabbit ran under my car. I'm still not sure how I didn't hit it.

AKAK81 Wed 01-May-13 16:07:06

Exactly my point - the neighbour does not know the car was speeding unless she had a speed gun. How do you know that the cat didn't run out leaving the driver with no choice? For what it's worth you should never take avoiding action for a small animal, the safest choice for you and other road users is to hit it. I'd put a cat in the same category as rabbits - are you saying I should stop if I hit a rabbit?

ZebraOwl Wed 01-May-13 16:08:38

Just because you don't have to stop for a cat doesn't mean you shouldn't. You don't have to stop & help someone who's been hit by a car if it's not you that did it, but you'd expect people to help if they were in the vicinity. I think you should have to stop for cats just as you do for dogs.

Am so sorry about your cat & do hope that he's ok.

hiddenhome Wed 01-May-13 16:09:35

Sorry to hear about your poor kitty OP. Hope he's going to be okay. I've had a couple of cats run over and it's horrible sad

FanjoForTheMammaries Wed 01-May-13 16:14:20

AKAK and hafen, what delightful supportive posts hmm

Samu2 Wed 01-May-13 16:14:43

People like AKA are one of the reasons I don't let mine outside.

Purpleknickers Wed 01-May-13 16:14:51

Fingers crossed for you cat and I'm so sorry to hear this happened. I lost one of my boys last year on the road outside my home and its heartbreaking.

Prior to that a few years ago another of mine got badly knocked and had to have metal plates put in to hold his pelvis together and spend 6 weeks in a large cage to recover. He lived a further happy 5 years after that.

Jelly15 Wed 01-May-13 16:15:54

Only this morning my DS2 Aged 17 was walking to catch his school bus when a an upset lady said she had hit a cat and it was now in the back of her car and did he know who it belonged to. He said his heart was thumping in case it was our cat. he said it looked like our neighbours. She then went to the vet (DS text me to tell me the story) she then came back to speak to our neighbour.

Our previous cat was hit but not killed by a car. A kind gentleman saw it happen and took it to the vet, they rang me as he was chipped. Sadly he was too poorly to save.

I am senting positive vibes for your cat's quick recovery.

yonithebrave Wed 01-May-13 16:20:11

Actually, an experienced driver would have a decent idea if another driver was speeding.

Tailtwister Wed 01-May-13 16:20:55

I had a cat literally jump out of a hedge (country road) into the path of my car. It went up over the top of my car and was hit again by the car behind. I stopped as soon as it was safe and walked back, but it was nowhere to be seen. I called the police, but they weren't interested.

If I hit a cat on a residential street I would certainly stop. They do tend to run off and hide if injured, but I'd at least want to try and find it and alert the residents in case it was theirs.

missrlr Wed 01-May-13 16:21:53

Morally stopping to recover cat (and take to vets) is necessary.

I did after witnessing a cat+car accident (resulting in death) and the bloody awful woman who answered the door to me accused me of hitting the animal and not having the balls to own up despite another lady who had also stopped trying to point out to the contrary. Wasn't even her cat she just hoiked out the soap box clambered up and started.

Would do it all again, worst memory of my life was being driven to school and seeing my cat's body on the road with a truck bearing down on the small body.

missrlr Wed 01-May-13 16:22:30

Sorry meant to say hope cat is OK and pulls through. Do contact local council and get other residents involved too - power in many voices!

AKAK81 Wed 01-May-13 16:26:12

If you reclassified cats then fair enough but the flip side would be that you'd then be liable for any damage to the car.

TooExtraImmatureCheddar Wed 01-May-13 16:27:10

I would stop for a cat because it is probably someone's pet, and that person will be upset. I have only hit squirrels, but I once saw someone hit a dog. They were in front of us, national speed limit straight road, so probably going at least 50, and a black Lab ran straight out in front of them. sad DH got out to help, and our dog went absolutely mental howling and trying to leap out and I had to stay in the car to look after him. The dog was dead and the front bumper of the car was torn off. DH walked up to the farm it had come from and had to tell the farmer that the dog had been run over. It was horrible.

Hope your cat is OK, OP.

KellyElly Wed 01-May-13 16:28:44

So sorry about your cat. Hope cat is ok and makes a full recovery.

AKAK81 Are you heartless/provocative/just a twat? Feel free to delete as appropriate.

toffeelolly Wed 01-May-13 16:31:53

The decent thing to do would be to stop and get out, zep hope your cat is ok. And hope you get the bastards that done this. Poor cat.

Zepherial Wed 01-May-13 16:33:43

Just came back to update you but first:

Even I know what 20 mph looks like so I think my neighbour was right about the speeding and second I asked about compassion, this was a post about my anger at not stopping when you know you have hit a domestic pet not about if you should. I know about the risks of having a cat but if I hit something I would try to help it.

Anyway vet has called our cat looks like he will loose his front leg but they won't amputate yet because of the risk of GA with a head injury. He needs to toilet then they will let us bring him home and see if he recovers. They think he may have brain damage due to unequal pupils and he keeps falling to the left and won't stand but it could be concussion so it is a waiting game now.

As it's been already said, the law is not on the side of cats, but AFAIK it's an animal cruelty issue to hit a cat and drive off, so if you have the Reg of the car, could the RSPCA help?

I rescued a little black&white cat many years ago, I thought it was having a fit but someone said a motorbike hit it and drove off.
I took it to a nearby vet, I couldn't leave it in the road dying. It died on the way and unfortunately had no collar.
But if someone contacted the vet they'd have been told a black & white was handed in.

sad for Mr Miaow

Wolfiefan Wed 01-May-13 16:38:36

Hafen that's awful.
Animal could be left slowly dying by the roadside. Surely the moral thing is to try and help. Yes my cat was killed by a car. Driver didn't stop.

toffeelolly Wed 01-May-13 16:39:23

Zep he might be ok, hopefully, here's praying.

Zepherial Wed 01-May-13 16:39:24

My cat's twin died a few months back and we only knew about it because someone took him to a vets and they scanned him and contacted us.

It is not about blame but compassion for someone's pet.

Wolfiefan Wed 01-May-13 16:39:34

PS. A vet can check for microchips and inform owners.

Healing thoughts for poor cat.

Zepherial Wed 01-May-13 16:41:28

Exactly Wolfiefan, it is the not knowing if you hit a cat at least take it to the bloody vets so they can scan it.

AKAK81 Wed 01-May-13 16:41:38

KellyElly I guess I'd fall into heartless out of those three. I really see no difference between a cat or any other small animal. It's unfortunate and not something I'd do deliberately but I'd not lose any sleep over it. And yes I have had a pet hit by a car, my dog was injured but fortunately survived. I didn't feel any anger to the driver though, my dog shouldn't have been in the bloody road!

Zepherial Wed 01-May-13 16:43:00

I have the reg and my sister said I should report to RSPCA was not sure if they would do anything though.

TooExtraImmatureCheddar Wed 01-May-13 16:43:06

Oh I knew there was something else I wanted to say! OP, re speed bumps, the louder you are the more likely it is that you will get them. Write to your local councillor. Write to your MP/MSP. Write to the Chief Exec of your council, and the Head of Transport as well. Keep writing until they give in. Petition them on their FB/Twitter if they have accounts. I work for a local authority and it is a sad fact that we give in to shut people up. People higher up the tree are particularly bad for giving in to the loudest shouters.

If you have a school nearby, you may have a fairly decent case anyway. Our Transport section has an initiative called Safer Routes To Schools and have put speed bumps into many of the approaches to schools, and have reduced the speed limit to 20 as well, with the slogan 20's Plenty.

Good luck!

toffeelolly Wed 01-May-13 16:43:12

Yes if they stopped and got help. But scumbags just drove on. How could you?

VeganCow Wed 01-May-13 16:43:33

Just read this. Disgusted with driver, hope karma hits him good and hard some day.

Really hope your cat will be ok.

YY Zepherial compassion is the key here. How are your Dc doing?

toffeelolly Wed 01-May-13 16:45:44

Would report to rspca anyway you have not to lose. Could be a child next time . God forbid.

Zepherial Wed 01-May-13 16:46:51

Re speed bumps we have a nursery and school off our street so maybe I can shout extra loud.

If you can't be bothered to stop for a pet you have hit then what does that say about you?

Fluffycloudland77 Wed 01-May-13 16:46:58

Op, there's a 3 legged cat near us. He/she gets about ok. I've always imagined that its a RTA that caused the amputation.

Poor cat. They are survivors though, can you visit him later?

Zepherial Wed 01-May-13 16:48:51

Children seem to be positive although we have been honest and said if he has a brain injury he might go to Heaven. I don't want him PTS but I have to think of his quality of life too.

Zepherial Wed 01-May-13 16:49:40

Girls keep asking when visiting hours are smile

Yes, I think you will need some guidance from the Vet as to the way forward.

BerylStreep Wed 01-May-13 16:51:15

Sorry to hear about your cat. I hope he is ok.

BerylStreep Wed 01-May-13 17:01:13

We have campaigned for years to get speed humps, although unfortunately we haven't had any success. We have a school, a nursery and a church on the road. The council put sped detection equipment, and the highest recorded speed was 76 mph!

The council drew up plans, but when it went for consultation, there were a number of long standing residents who put in multiple objections per household (7 houses, out of a road with about 150 houses). There were also loads of random objections from people who perhaps drove along the road once a week, and didn't want uneven wear on their tyres hmm. The proposal was turned down because of 'overwhelming community objection' which is bollocks, but there you go. Lots of people we know said they thought the traffic calming was a good idea, but when it came to it, they didn't bother writing in support of the proposal.

So my advice to you would be to canvass as much support as possible from other residents, and get every adult in every house to write in support of it. When I asked for copies of all the responses, there were lots of spurious objections like lives would be lost if ambulances had to slow down for speed bumps, people not wanting damage to their tyres or suspension, people finding going over speed bumps uncomfortable on their backs, and people worrying that it would cause cracking in their houses.

PS we have Burmese cats, and they are such good natured cats - I hope he pulls through.

Zepherial Wed 01-May-13 17:05:23

Thanks beryl, ironically the street we live on is where the entrances are and yet the surrounding streets have speed bumps but not ours. Does not make sense really.

FloresCircumdati Wed 01-May-13 17:08:02

Zepherial, so sorry to hear this terrible news.

Words fail me over someone looking back, seeing they've injured a cat and then driving off!

Hope your cat fully recovers. If the worse does come to the worse and you have to be strong and the vet advises he is PTS, then yes, that is a responsibility we all have to be prepared to face as pet owners. Here's hoping that it won't come to that and being sent home could be a good sign. Wishing your cat a complete recovery. Furry feline vibes from our 2 cats too.

JerseySpud Wed 01-May-13 17:09:16

Oh honey i am so sorry to hear about your cat. Im terrified to let our cat outside because we live next to a college and the little bastards students speed up and down the road all the time sad I hope he is ok

chansondumatin Wed 01-May-13 17:09:40

So sorry to read this. Fingers and toes all crossed for your cat's recovery.

People like AKA are one of the reasons I don't let mine outside.

People like AKA are one of the reasons I despair of the human race.

Zepherial Wed 01-May-13 17:16:11

Well thanks to (most of) all you kind strangers there is some hope.

You can always post in The Litter Tray if you need any poorly feline help. Compassion galore over there. smile

I think the thing is even if you are "heartless" where animals are concerned, and can't see the importance of stopping to see if an animal is okay, injured or suffering horribly (in which case surely you would try to help in any way possible?) a cat usually belongs to someone else who cares for it, loves it. A real person with feelings - another adult, a child. Even if you don't see the importance yourself, how can you carry on knowing that your actions (or lack thereof) are going to cause distress to another person?

McNewPants2013 Wed 01-May-13 17:28:25

Your poor cat, what a cruel thing to do. Leaving an animal that is hurt and in pain in barbaric.

hope your cat is ok.

AKA i think you are heartless, how could you leave an animal to die like that sad

Zepherial Wed 01-May-13 17:31:50

Thanks will check out the litter tray for hand holding.

Procrastinating Wed 01-May-13 17:34:43

This happened to me yesterday. A car hit our cat in front of my 6yr old and 3yr old children. Then the car just drove off.
There was no way the driver didn't notice, the brakes were slammed on and there was a horrible loud noise as the cat hit the car. I was in so much shock that I didn't even look to see the driver. The shit.
I am still fucking furious that the car didn't stop, my son was and is traumatised.
Amazingly the cat seems Ok so far. Hope your cat pulls through OP.

kilmuir Wed 01-May-13 17:35:16

bloody hell, what about a bit of compassion for an injured animal? could be in agony, caused by 'your' reckless driving. bastards

Mashedupbanana Wed 01-May-13 17:37:35

Sorry to hear about your cat. If they were speeding, surely you can report it to the local police if you have the reg - it could be a child next time...
Whoever hit it should pick up the vets bill too.

Zepherial Wed 01-May-13 17:43:02

Unfortunately I accept the vet bill is my responsibility, just a sorry I hit your cat, or sorry I hit your cat he is at xyz vet would have been nice.

I agree Zepherial. An acknowledgment of what happened would have been something.

Cantbelieveitsnotbutter Wed 01-May-13 17:47:34

I'm so sorry to hear this, one of my neighbours was speeding and hit my cat. I was livid, cat was screaming dragging her back end, took her to the vets and thankfully a stressful 48 hrs wait for a poo and wee, then an expensive op, 6 weeks in a room on her own so she couldn't jump and she was ok.
I never did anything, as the vet said the chances are they didn't know they'd hit her. I'd be at least writing a letter (get the address from the dvla) to explain the full extent of your cats injuries, & also a bit about your cat. I'd also point out to them legally as its a cat you can't chase for vets bills. But if it were (heaven forbid) a child, imagine the consequences, prison etc.
I hope your cats ok xxxxx

limitedperiodonly Wed 01-May-13 17:53:04

I hope your cat is okay.

I know you can't be sure yet but if you want positive stories mine had a ruptured bladder after coming off worst in a stand-off with a car but they saved him and he lived another 10 years. He was very careful about crossing the road afterwards so I hope yours is clever too.

I also knew a three-legged cat and he was fine.

The people who hit my friend's cat took him to a vet and paid and offered to adopt him if no one claimed him. He's alive too and well, albeit with a rakish-looking one eye. Same thing happened to another friend's cat with a smashed jaw - she lived too.

Someone driving in front of me hit a cat and killed him outright. It was dark and he wasn't going fast. It was an accident and I don't think he knew.

I'd have taken him to a vet if he'd been alive but he wasn't so I knocked on a few doors then laid the cat on the pavement instead so his owner might find him intact. That's the least people would do because most people are lovely.

Ignore the few on this thread who aren't.

ItsYoniYappy Wed 01-May-13 18:05:40

Zeph my vet let me pay my bill up in 3 installments most Vets are quite good if it's £££(£). Keep everything crossed he is okay.

nellyjelly Wed 01-May-13 18:07:19

Bad karma on it's way to those people in the car.

Helenagrace Wed 01-May-13 18:36:31

I'm sorry about your cat.

Maybe the driver is a bastard. Maybe they aren't and they just panicked?

I wouldn't have a clue what to do. I don't think I'd take any animal to a vet - who knows what kind of bill you could end up liable for?

chocoluvva Wed 01-May-13 18:42:36

What a horrible day for you.

My (childhood) cat was run over and killed - the driver picked it up, asked at a neighbour's door then took it round to ours. Deeply apologetic and upset.

"Panicked" nothing. What a coward.

Hope Mr Meow recovers.

lottieandmia Wed 01-May-13 18:42:41

Poor cat sad I hope he gets better.

Catmint Wed 01-May-13 18:43:25

Very sorry to hear this. Hope cat gets better soon.

BookFairy Wed 01-May-13 18:54:45

Poor Mr Meow sad I hope he pulls through.

God some people really are bastards.

portraitoftheartist Wed 01-May-13 19:11:57

Someone hit my kitten and immediately picked him up and dashed off to nearest vet. He was dead but driver came back to knock on doors and find his owners. He was crying as he told us that he'd only been going slowly and kitty just ran in front of him.
Not all bastards.

Scheherezade Wed 01-May-13 19:51:25

Can't people just not let their animals run loose in the street? Surely animal running loose + roads = dead cats.

I don't let my toddler or dog out to roam free.

AhsataN Wed 01-May-13 19:54:25

so sorry to hear about your kitty. a few years ago a man hit my cat, the first i knew about it was when he knocked on my front door and asked if i had a black and white cat. when i said yes he said not anymore ive just run it over sad
it turned out he was speeding down our road past a school and my cat spooked at the wind and ran into the road. a school mum saw it all happen and so did her child. she picked my kitty up and cuddled her inside her jacket while she died. sad

TidyDancer Wed 01-May-13 20:06:58

I'm really sorry to hear what's happened, and I hoe your little cat is okay.

Some heartless people in the world, aren't there?

TidyDancer Wed 01-May-13 20:07:10

Hoe?! Hope, I meant.

Fluffycloudland77 Wed 01-May-13 20:17:30

AhsataN What a prize cunt saying that to you.

AhsataN Wed 01-May-13 20:33:50

yep and i was 12 at the time.

cornyderpy Wed 01-May-13 20:36:04

sorry about your cat - hope he's okay sad
this happened to us as well.

msrisotto Wed 01-May-13 20:39:43

So sorry to hear this. Horrible. I do hope so much it is just concussion, best wishes.

manticlimactic Wed 01-May-13 21:30:04

Poor cat. Some people don't care about cats.

Someone poisoned my cat with antifreeze the other week. Total renal shut down. Has to have him put to sleep.How some people can leave animals to suffer, whether by accident or not, is beyond me.

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shock hafen I hope your not serious

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flippinada Wed 01-May-13 21:43:16

So sorry to hear this, I hope your cat is ok.

I've lost two cats this way so I know how upsetting it is, someone upthread said it's something every cat owner dreads happening and that's true.

A decent person would have stopped, but unfortunately not everyone is.

ParadiseChick Wed 01-May-13 21:43:54

I must be a heartless bitch but I'm a bit meh to be honest. I can't imagine getting dragged into the drama of do it knocking and scraping cat off the road just because some stupid cat chose to run in front if me. The mess and potential damage to my car I'd have to sort out would be my first concern.

ParadiseChick Wed 01-May-13 21:46:03

Drama of door knocking that was meant to say

flippinada Wed 01-May-13 21:48:07

Yes, you must ParadiseChick

Really, when someone sees a thread like this...even if you couldn't care less, why would you come on and say so, unless you want to upset the OP?


OliviaMMumsnet (MNHQ) Wed 01-May-13 21:49:25

Evening all
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LEMisdisappointed Wed 01-May-13 21:51:08

Hafen and Paradise - are you both a bit, um, how shall i put this? Fucking stupid??? I am quite frankly meh about your needless comments hmm

Someone ran over my cat, many moons ago, poor chap was mortified and came and knocked on my door, we looked for the cat as she was hit and run off and her back leg was minced. Luckily I was a vet nurse at the time and called my boss out to fix her up, she had to have her leg off but she lived a good few years after that - had that person not stopped and knocked my cat would have died in agony. He came back the next day to find out that she was OK, he didn't know where to put himself when she came hopping out grin i almost felt sorry for him!

paradise you don't have to like cats, or care about animals at all. What is a good thing to remember though I'd that, that "stupid cat" is someone's beloved pet. A few mins of inconvenience is nothing when someone's family member died. I find it very sad that you would rather a distraught owner spent weeks wondering where her cat was after it dragged itself off to die, than knock on a couple of doors.sad

Sirzy Wed 01-May-13 21:52:35

I am no cat lover (infact the local ones drive me mad) but I couldn't just leave one if I had hit it. I couldn't leave any animal to suffer.

Fluffycloudland77 Wed 01-May-13 21:52:39

Re-post in the litter tray in the future op, we're all lovely over there.

msrisotto Wed 01-May-13 21:53:33

But smiley faces make everything ok don't they Olivia? smile

ParadiseChick Wed 01-May-13 21:54:30

I've had cats that have been ran over before, it's not nice but a risk you take I guess. Cats roam for miles.

Nobhead Wed 01-May-13 21:54:34

Paradise chick that's not very helpful is it? Did you mean to come across like such an insensitive twat?

ParadiseChick Wed 01-May-13 21:57:24

Did I? Probably not my aim, but a consequence of my attitude on the matter I guess.

LEMisdisappointed Wed 01-May-13 22:00:21

Blimey Paradise - do you actually want people to think you are a twat?

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie Wed 01-May-13 22:01:33 you? Why come on a thread to be mean???

ParadiseChick Wed 01-May-13 22:02:21

What kind of question is that?

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie Wed 01-May-13 22:02:48

What kind of question is that?

BeyonceCastle Wed 01-May-13 22:03:02

What was your aim?

ParadiseChick Wed 01-May-13 22:04:06

Mean? Sorry I'm just sharing my thoughts on the topic.

I hope the cat is ok.

ParadiseChick Wed 01-May-13 22:05:16

Aim? I don't have one, I don't often do when posting on forums

Fluffycloudland77 Wed 01-May-13 22:05:24

Given that ops not come back I don't think he is ok.

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie Wed 01-May-13 22:05:29

You're "sharing your thoughts" in a similar way to the way a dog shits on someone's path.

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie Wed 01-May-13 22:05:48

That last post of mine was to Paradise.

usualsuspect Wed 01-May-13 22:06:59

I hope your cat is ok,op

ParadiseChick Wed 01-May-13 22:08:03

You're "sharing your thoughts" in a similar way to the way a dog shits on someone's path

Yeah, because that makes sense

Scheherezade Wed 01-May-13 22:11:20

This is AIBU.

stella1w Wed 01-May-13 22:11:22

I hate cats but if i hit one i would do my best to help.

babybarrister Wed 01-May-13 22:13:30

I once represented a flaunt who ran over a 15 stone man- he did not realise and there was not a scratch on his car...
I think it is a criminal offence not to atomic you think you may have committed criminal damage which is what it would be if you have injured someone else's cat

ParadiseChick Wed 01-May-13 22:15:52

Cats aren't 'owned' so aren't anyone's property.

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flippinada Wed 01-May-13 22:22:13

"it's AIBU"

So what? That's not a free pass to come and sneer at someone's distress.

Hopefully the shit stirring, goady posts will have gone before the OP sees them.

RollerCola Wed 01-May-13 22:26:12

Good grief Paradisechick, have a bit of compassion. I take it you don't have any pets? The op is facing the possibility that her cat may die. Yes you're entitled to post your thoughts on the subject but have a think about how helpful they are to the op before you post them.

babybarrister Wed 01-May-13 22:27:56

It is clearly an offence not to stop and give name or if there is no-one to give name to then to report to the police

McNewPants2013 Wed 01-May-13 22:28:08

it may be aibu, but when a poster is upset then it not fair to kick them down even more

lottieandmia Wed 01-May-13 22:28:24

'Cats aren't 'owned' so aren't anyone's property.'

It's a pedigree cat, so I expect the OP has papers etc.

usualsuspect Wed 01-May-13 22:28:35

Olivia can you move this out of AIBU? So the AIBU idiots can bog off.

lottieandmia Wed 01-May-13 22:31:01

Pets often become a part of the family so it is very upsetting if anything bad happens to them. You can't easily keep cats in the house - they like to go out.

Good to see compassion is alive and well on mumsnet tonight for some hmm

I hope you and your cat are ok.

ParadiseChick Wed 01-May-13 22:32:02

I have one cat, one dog, a hamster and 3 stick insects grin

Fyi - an opinion that differs from your own is not equal to shit stirring or goady-ness.

CSIJanner Wed 01-May-13 22:37:11

Selfish, inconsiderate and heartless driver for driving off - and some heartless comments on here as well hmm I rally do hope your cat is on the mend soon. As some people say, you can't own cats (despite the microchip) but they're members of your family who you and the children love, which is all that matters here.

As for AIBU to cover the car with post it notes? As long as it doesn't damage the paint work so they have o repercussion to come back to you, I don't see why not. Visibly shame the barstool. And make the post it notes pink with waterproof ink. Bright glow in the dark pink.

OliviaMMumsnet (MNHQ) Wed 01-May-13 22:37:17

Hello OP
Sorry about your cat
If you'd like us to move this to the litter tray, please let us know.
I am sure that I don't need to post ANOTHER link to the guidelines

Peace and love

crazynanna Wed 01-May-13 22:38:06

A while ago, on a thread about a neighbour stealing a cat, someone posted a link to,I think it was, CatsOrg, where it qouted the legislation which made it clear cats are owned by the person who acquired(legally), feeds and cares for it. So yes, cats are owned. I too think it is really twattish to come on a thread like this and post twatty drivel about cars being damaged.

ParadiseChick Wed 01-May-13 22:41:07

That's not what your link says baby!

crazynanna Wed 01-May-13 22:43:58
ParadiseChick Wed 01-May-13 22:47:03

The term animal in the road traffic act does not apply to cats. Keep googling, I'm sure you'll find it.

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie Wed 01-May-13 22:49:25

Paradise I was comparing your thoughts to a dogs shit. Nasty, unwanted and polluting. Does that explain my comment to you or is it all a bit much for your addled little brain?

cozietoesie Wed 01-May-13 22:51:31

Let it go, Neo. All this is really going to hit the OP if/when she comes back to read it.

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ParadiseChick Wed 01-May-13 22:54:19

hmm fail grin

flippinada Wed 01-May-13 22:55:46

As trolling, goading and misleading (well, certainly at least one of those) is all over this thread like a rash, no doubt MN will do something about it.

Hopefully before the OP sees any of it.

ParadiseChick Wed 01-May-13 22:55:57

Neo I understand, but don't you just hate the way your point loses it's impact when you're required to explain it?

Flojobunny Wed 01-May-13 22:56:30

I ran over a cat a few months back. The cat ran off. I stopped and tried to find it, I knocked on doors of all the houses near by to see if anyone had a cat but they didn't sad one older gentleman answered a door and said words to the effect of nevermind its just a cat, you have no legal obligation to stop so don't worry about it go home and make a brew.
I was shocked. I didn't care about my legal obligation to stop, I stopped because I cared about a poor cat and the poor owners wondering why their cat hadn't come home.
I still fret about what might have happened to it.

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LEMisdisappointed Wed 01-May-13 22:58:33

OP, i really hope your cat is ok, often trauma can be really awful at the start, even neurological impact can right itself once any inflammation goes down. Your cat is in the right place, poor thing, poor you - I hope he makes it xx

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NeoMaxiZoomDweebie Wed 01-May-13 23:00:41

Yes I agree LEM. My cat had a blow to the head and wouldn't leave the corner for a long time. When he did, his mouth drooped...the vet couldn't find any broken bones and let him home. He's fine...his mouth droops still and brain damage could have happened but it's been a year now and he acts normally.

ParadiseChick Wed 01-May-13 23:01:19

I did say up thread I hope that the cat is ok.

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GoshAnneGorilla Wed 01-May-13 23:05:18

"It's AIBU" with the implication that you then have the right to act like a complete arse is the thing I most detest on Mumsnet.

Very simply, it is so much nicer to be nice and thoughtful towards others. It just is.

O.P, I hope your cat is ok.

OliviaMMumsnet (MNHQ) Wed 01-May-13 23:10:16

I DO HAVE to post the Talk guidelines again

IN short "What we can all do with is some moral support"


ParadiseChick Wed 01-May-13 23:12:03

In reality, as unpalatable as some people may find my view it is not illegal. I would not get involved. The driver is under no obligation to get out, hunt down owners or knock doors etc.

They aren't shits, fuckers or twats.

And really I don't think stating the obvious warrants the personal attacks but that's more indicative of the attackers lack of dignity.

I think AIBU needs it's own talk guidelines OliviaMN. I'll start

1. Don't be an arse.

ParadiseChick Wed 01-May-13 23:13:57

Olivia rather than cryptic clues and smiles do feel free to pm me if there's an issue.

thecook Wed 01-May-13 23:20:31

ParadiseChick Lets hope your family pet never gets run over. Imagine your --rats- crying

ParadiseChick Wed 01-May-13 23:25:39

I don't have rats.

I have lost pets before, it is shit, I never said it was anything other than shit.

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IronOrchid Wed 01-May-13 23:42:35

Truly sorry about your cat, OP.

Not stopping after hitting a domestic animal is truly cuntish.

I hope your pet is okay.

QueenOfCats Wed 01-May-13 23:43:28

Oh goodness - I hope kitty pulls through sad

It's awful that someone hit the cats and didnt stop. It's happened to my cats before.

The first one, someone hit ginger cat and didnt stop. His hips and pelvis were fractured and he was on cage rest for 6 weeks.

The second one, someone hit tabby cat and left him unable to move on the side of the road. Some passer by wrapped him in a blanket and took him to the nearest vet. He died, but I was so grateful that someone bothered with him.

Please let us know how he is

PickledLiver Thu 02-May-13 01:32:01

If this was my thread I'd ask for it's removal and post an update on kitty's progress for those who care (because there are those who genuinely do) in the Litter Tray.

Why did this have to turn so sour? There really are some massive cunts about.

toffeelolly Thu 02-May-13 06:49:34

Yes there are decent people, and there are heartless fuckers. Why the fuck post on here when all you can do make nasty comments (nasty fuckers) Zep really hope your little cat is ok.

I think Pickled's idea is the best. Although if I were the OP I probably would have left MN reading this thread. sad

If you are still about Zepherial see you over on The Litter Tray, and i hope today brings some good news. x

MissMogwi Thu 02-May-13 07:11:18

Uh oh, my first deleted comment.

I still think there was some disgusting behaviour on this thread.

Hope your cat makes a good recovery OP.

Hoping for good news for your cat today. Sorry you had to read such unsympathetic nasty comments. Alot of us are still thinking about you and hoping kitty pulls through. Loosing my cat still upsets me to this day even three years later. They are family no matter what anyone days.

Very un-MN ((( hugs))) x sad

JakeBullet Thu 02-May-13 07:33:31

Typical of the success of MN is that it attracts arseholes as well as the supportive folk. Hope some of you are proud of your ability to be so "open and honest", I don't for one moment believe you would have the courage to say such things in real life. Says a great deal about you and what it says is not nice.

I just can't believe anyone would post on a thread where a loved pet has been injured and say stuff like that. Then keep coming back adding fuel to the fire. confused

ParadiseChick Thu 02-May-13 07:44:48

Oh come on. In a conversation about someone not stopping when hitting a cat I said I probably wouldn't. If the same conversation came up in real life I'd say the same thing. What I wouldn't expect in real life is to be called a slag, my children brats and some of the other names I've been called but I understand people are brave behind a computer.

I probably wouldn't have stopped. Call me on that all you will.

I've said I hope the cats ok, I've said I have lost cats in the same way.

Arsehole, disgusting, heartless fucker etc would all perfectly warranted (slag I'm not sure about) if I'd came in going lulz your cat got ran over - which I did not.

ParadiseChick Thu 02-May-13 07:46:04

Stuff like what sparkling? What exactly is so bad?

If you can't see it Paradise. sad

cozietoesie Thu 02-May-13 07:53:37

Best let it go, Sparkling. The OP doesn't need all this kicking off again.

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie Thu 02-May-13 08:03:53

Paradise are you REALLY still here??? It's as though your a masochist or something! Just leave it!

usualsuspect Thu 02-May-13 08:04:58

Poor op.

I hope you can come back and update this thread.

Just ignore all the argy bargy,

Dahlen Thu 02-May-13 08:15:59

I once spotted a cat that had been hit but was obviously still alive in the middle of the road. People just drove straight round it. hmm I stopped, took it home (I lived on the same road), and called the vet. It died before I got it there, but at least the owner was able to be informed and at least the cat had some comfort before dying.

While I agree that in many scenarios, hitting the animal is unavoidable and trying to avoid it could potentially be far more dangerous, that only excuses the accident; not what happened afterwards. It's not a legal requirement to do lots of things in life, but not doing them makes you morally repugnant IMO.

Dahlen Thu 02-May-13 08:16:20

Posted too soon. I hope your cat makes a full recovery.

RollerCola Thu 02-May-13 08:30:45

Paradise don't you dare start getting all offensive about this, there's only one person in the wrong on this thread and it's you. You'll get called a lot worse names if you don't shut the fuck up & let the op come back and update the rest of us who actually care about how her cat is.

This thread is NOT about you and how people are now calling you names. Idiot.

TerrysAllGold Thu 02-May-13 08:46:54

Paradise I won't tell you what I think of you as it would be viewed as a personal attack and deleted and I don't want that to happen. I want instead for you to see this.

I will tell you what I think of your comments. They seem to be coming from a seriously fucked up point of view and are selfish, heartless, cruel and disgusting - and yes, I would tell you that your comments are this and all the other things I think of you, to your face, make no mistake about that. Indicating posters are cowards hiding behind their keyboards to justify your own disgusting behaviour is a poor show and no-one's falling for it.

melika Thu 02-May-13 08:57:51

Any update on Kit?

Mama1980 Thu 02-May-13 09:03:19

Any update op? X

StuntGirl Thu 02-May-13 09:04:31

Paradise has done nothing wrong, and the way posters are piling in on her and levelling such personal abuse is uneccessary and disgusting.

puds11isNAUGHTYnotNAICE Thu 02-May-13 09:06:24

Its amazing what can turn into shit slinging on MN. I am perpetually amazed hmm

stuntgirl when someone's distraught cos their pet was hurt and the driver didn't have the decency to stop, you don't come on and say you would do the same thing and moan about the damage to a car. I don't care if you hate cats you just don't say that. It's not a kind thing to do.

thebody Thu 02-May-13 09:17:35

Op am so so sorry. Hope puss makes it.

Some people don't realise that a pet is a member of the family.

To drive off is simply vile. I winged a squirrel once and stopped. It ran off so it seemed ok but if it had been injured I wouldn't have thought twice about wrapping it up and driving straight to the vets.

People can be unbelievably vile to animals.

It's usually the same people who are vile in general I find.

flippinada Thu 02-May-13 09:18:51

Well, if you post on a thread where someone's pet has been run over and they're clearly distressed about it, making a comment saying a) you wouldn't stop if you ran over an animal and b) you'd be more bothered about the damage to your car then you will get a strong reaction.

thebody Thu 02-May-13 09:25:36

Any update op.

babybarrister Thu 02-May-13 09:28:06

well it does appear that as a matter of law you do not have to report an accident with a cat but you do if you hit a goat ....!

thebody Thu 02-May-13 09:33:09

What is mortally right as a decent human being and what is legally required as a citizen can be different.

picklepepper Thu 02-May-13 09:40:44

I hope you've had some good news by now Zep , thank goodness your neighbour saw what happened so you could get the cat to the vet quickly, you've given it the best chance, lets just hope kitty can pull through.

When I was 10 years old we lost a cat, it just disappeared. We put up posters, knocked on the doors of surrounding houses, but we never found her. That didn't stop insensitive idiots prank calling our house (using the number from the posters) and making stupid remarks about seeing our lovely little cat dead on this road, or squashed on another road. It was heartbreaking, and I still do wonder what happened to her. My preferred wondering is that a kind old lady took a shine to her and took her in. Needless to say if something had happened to her, we would have much preferred to know about it so we could deal with it, rather than the not knowing anything at all sad

Hope to see an update from you soon Zep , I'm rooting for you and kitty!

LEMisdisappointed Thu 02-May-13 09:41:46

flipping eck - I dislike paradise chicks point of view as much as anyone on here, I also feel that she was extremely insensitvie voicing her opinion on this thread. It is an opinion she is entitled to have, but this was not the place to voice it. I have an instinctive distrust of folk who have disregard for animals.

It really is a bit shit though to start calling people a slag and their children brats - just as uncalled for really.

AKAK81 Thu 02-May-13 09:57:05

Personally I'm with Paradise. Its pretty disgusting making personal attacks on someone just because they have a different (and completely legal btw) point of view.

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie Thu 02-May-13 10:00:47

She kept coming back AKA and while those who called her children names and her a slag are out of order, I completely relate to their anger. She had NO right to return repeatedly in order to make grin faces and say mean things.

She's a very nasty person if this is who she REALLY is.

StuntGirl Thu 02-May-13 10:01:33

AIBU is not generally the place for hand holding, although the OP was distressed people will hop on and give their opinion regardless. It may have lacked tact but it was not personal abuse, which is against the guidelines. The responses however...

FanjoForTheMammaries Thu 02-May-13 10:02:21

I think there may be hairy handed forces at work on this thread

StuntGirl Thu 02-May-13 10:03:30

Paradise is a regular poster is that's what you mean fanjo.

FanjoForTheMammaries Thu 02-May-13 10:03:44

I do hope Mr Meow is OK,which is the main point here.

Anyone calling someone a slag and their children brats is either a troll or just making themselves look stupid.

FanjoForTheMammaries Thu 02-May-13 10:04:25

No, I didn't mean Paradise

FanjoForTheMammaries Thu 02-May-13 10:06:29

I will prob be deleted, sorry MNHq. But it was clear to me summat funny was going on when people started arriving and making nasty comments about cats.

I would ignore the inflammatory posts.

I don't mean Paradise, who has just been a wee bit insensitive IMO

MrsWolowitz Thu 02-May-13 10:29:18

You legally only need to stop if you hit cattle, horse, ass, mule, pig, sheep, dog or goat.

Morally however is a con

MrsWolowitz Thu 02-May-13 10:31:14

Whoops pressed post too soon!

Mortally of course you should stop!

What sort of horrid arsewipe doesn't stop when they've hurt an animal especially someone's pet?

Paradise your posts were so unnecessary and unkind and totally inappropriate on this thread where someone is upset and worried about their pet. I hope you take that on board but I suspect you won't.

MrsWolowitz Thu 02-May-13 10:31:44

*mortally = morally FFS hmm

pigsDOfly Thu 02-May-13 11:02:14

There have been several nasty posts on here, not just Paradise. Why?

Yes it's a forum. So that give you free rein to come on here and be brutal and unkind to someone clearly in distress does it? Really?

The puerile need of some people to boast of their hard heartedness, and callous attitude towards other living thing and other peoples feelings beggars belief.

The inability to empathise or feel compassion for others is not something to be proud of.

I doubt the OP is going to come back. Why would she come back to be further upset, but if you do come back OP I hope the news is good for your cat.

Oh, poor kitty sad
Please OP, make a new thread in the Litter Tray where you're less likely to get insensitive responses. We care about what happens to your kitty, I hope he's okay flowers

I dread to think of this happening to GalaxyKitty one day. But she's not a natural housecat so keeping her in would be cruel.
I should also mention that there's a 3-legged cat that lives near my parents - she is lovely, and gets around fine. Though it's quite funny to watch as she bumps her bum along the floor when she goes at speed grin

PickledLiver Thu 02-May-13 12:21:57

Threads like this is why Mumsnet sometimes gets a bad press.

ParadiseChick Thu 02-May-13 14:33:20

My posts weren't sensitive, I'll acknowledge that. I have never claimed they were! Although I have mentioned several times I hope that the cat is ok.

Some people need a bit of perspective here. And a little less armchair psychology!

PickledLiver Thu 02-May-13 14:35:55

I think you've done your piece now, Paradise. We get it.

Some people need to know when to let it go.

toffeelolly Thu 02-May-13 15:26:57

Yes I agree!

I am bumping just to ask if OP is okay, and whether any news on her cat. I fear she may have not wanted to return to the thread for obvious reasons.

Anyway Zepherial, I really hope you are ok.

Latara Fri 03-May-13 12:50:32

One of my friends has a cat who needed his tail amputating after a car accident but luckily his bowel and bladder weren't damaged.
He is now fine and back to his happy lively self.

Hopefully Zep's cat will make a good recovery, would be nice to hear if it does.

Zepherial Fri 03-May-13 12:56:02

Sorry for the extra long delay first can I ask that this is moved to appropriate place please?

second before I update I missed loads of messages so just seen the deleted bits of conversation. yes you are entitled to your own opinion but if it is a nasty selfish opinion then keep it to your fucking self.


We brought Mr Mieaw home yesterday and I think unless someone can reassure me it will be home before he is PTS. He keeps falling to the left and cannot use his front leg the vet thinks brain damage. We let I'm out of the crate for a while and he could not jump on the sofa it was truly heart breaking to see him in that state. My youngest two think as he is home he will be fine but my oldest was in floods and keeps saying we are going to have to let him die....

I really don't want him PTS but unless it is something which will improve like nerve damage? Then I can't watch him like this. Also his eyes are unequal quite noticeable and it kind of looks like he has had a stroke, any thoughts, positive experience?

fdparis Fri 03-May-13 12:59:52

Oh no, I'm so sorry. We have two Burmese and I know exactly what incredibly endearing cats they are.
Poor baby. I hope someone who knows more than me (nearly anyone, I'd think) can give you good news.

Oh zeph I'm so sorry to hear sad it does t sound good at all does it sad I would say just spoil him. Give him all the love you can . thanks

cozietoesie Fri 03-May-13 13:03:10

Did the vet give you any prognosis, Zepherial?

To get the thread moved by MNHQ, just press the report link at the upper right on your opening post and ask them to move it - The Litter Tray would probably be best.

Hope to see you there.

Zepherial Fri 03-May-13 13:06:41

Thanks Cozie, I have asked for it to be moved.

To be honest the vet was very vague (cost a bloody fortune for vagueness) they said all we can do is wait or have specialist scans which coast thousands.

Latara Fri 03-May-13 13:07:11

Oh bless him; thinking of you.

Zepherial Fri 03-May-13 13:07:18

Cost even..

Fluffycloudland77 Fri 03-May-13 13:09:30

Well, I've heard of cats recovering from strokes in time. I suppose it's like humans though, you have to have the fighting spirit.

A kitten on here broke its pelvis and survived and is ok now.

cozietoesie Fri 03-May-13 13:10:02

Maybe a good idea to tag on to the (linking) thread that Sparkling started across there and let this one drift once it's moved?

I'd give it a few days and a few sleeps on his part. I've not had a brain damaged cat but I've how human brains can adapt to damage and it can sometimes be quite extraordinary. If he's not in pain or discomfort that is.

cozietoesie Fri 03-May-13 13:10:45

seen how.....

JerseySpud Fri 03-May-13 13:12:36

Im so sorry to hear that about your cat sad I really hope he does get better, sending love to your kids as well as you as they must be devastated.

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie Fri 03-May-13 13:13:22

OP my cat was kicked in the head by a weird and horrible neighbour...he has a droopy mouth ever since but the vet says's he is fine. After he was kicked, he hid for 48 hours in my office and I couldn't find him...we took him to the vet who looked at his droopy mouth and fount a top tooth (big fang) had been knocked out but the bottom lip droop cant be to do with that so some brain damage is possible.

He's fine. A year later and he is just fine...

Zepherial Fri 03-May-13 13:15:11

Moving to Sparkling's thread x

ItsYonliMe Fri 03-May-13 13:24:15

I really don't understand people who could drive off after injuring an animal - dreadful and heartbreaking.

Perhaps however there is a sad lesson for the cat owners who let their cats out for "10 minutes". I assume that is so the cats can have a shit in neighbours' gardens.

Just don't do it and this will not happen again.

flippinada Fri 03-May-13 14:50:04

Zeph so sorry to read your update, your poor cat. I hope he recovers.

iiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii Fri 03-May-13 15:00:43

Oh, that is a sad update. I will keep my fingers crossed.

LillyPickle Fri 03-May-13 16:36:50

A bit of a positive for you.

My boy got stuck down between a shed and a wall for about 8hrs in horrendous, torrential rain freezing cold conditions. Luckily we found him but he was in a bad way, very much like yours - he couldn't stand, kept falling over and his head was tilted to the left hand side. Our vet also feared brain damage.

It took about 10 days but he did get slowly better. He went through a phase of just sitting and staring at the wall which also worried me but 18mths on, he is almost back to how he was before the accident. He's just a bit softer now and and doesn't like going out in the rain!

I do hope yours gets better - we were worried at first as well as he didn't seem to be improving and I was forever on the phone to the vet but he got there.

cozietoesie Fri 03-May-13 19:51:20

Discussion of this has now moved to the 'Hugs' thread at the to of the board.


Susym1 Fri 04-Oct-13 17:07:08

Some bastard hit our cat on Tuesday morning. He died in my arms and now we have his ashes in a little wooden box. He was beautiful.

JulieMumsnet (MNHQ) Fri 04-Oct-13 19:29:49

Hi, Susym1.

We're so sorry to hear about your cat sad Maybe you could start a thread about it? You can do this on here//, where it says 'start a new thread' at the top.

Wishing you all the best. sad

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