Should I take my cat back?

(37 Posts)
CatDilemma Sat 26-Jan-13 19:37:14

Hi I've nc for this as I don't want to get flamed.
5 years ago before I got pregnant with dc1 I had 3 cats. One was a really gorgeous old persian girl and two were kitten moggies. The old girl used to wee everywhere but her litter trayso the place we lived in was pretty grim.
A few weeks after I had ds I got offered a lovely new house. Only problem was, I wasn't allowed my cats with me. So I managed to find them a home. I was upset but I managed to move on. I lost touch with the lady that had them uuntil very recently. The old girl and boy kitten have passed away but the girl kitten is still alive. She's 6 now.
My dilemma is the lady that had them is not coping with her cats at all. Shes managed to find a rescue that will take almost all of them off her. But I'm in a positionnow where I could have my cat back.
As far as I can tell since remeeting her she hasn't had a nice time of it recently and it is really important she gets out of there. The rescue are coming for her on Wednesday. I'm just so undecided as to whether I should have her back ornot.

Absolutely, I would take her back. She won't have a great time in the rescue either so if you are in a position to have her it's a no brainer.

lljkk Sat 26-Jan-13 19:46:10

I would take her back on trial. Your household may not be right for her now, but you can give it a try.

cozietoesie Sat 26-Jan-13 19:48:16

Take her back.

6 is nobbut a youngster these days - and there's a good chance she'll still remember you.

smile

And let us know how she gets on.

CatDilemma Sat 26-Jan-13 20:00:08

Ahhh I thought you might all say that.
Lljkk you're right about my household possibly not suiting her. She's never lived with children and I have two.
I could get her tomorrow. Is it lots of extra work having a cat? I can't really remember now.

bonzo77 Sat 26-Jan-13 20:07:36

My cat is no work at all. Feed 2x a day, never uses litter tray provided as she prefers the garden. Locked in at night so no vet bills. Lots of furry cuddles and ignores the baby and toddler.

cozietoesie Sat 26-Jan-13 20:11:04

It's some extra work but not a whole lot for a young cat. (Food, litter if needed and regular vet checks.) If she fits in, it could be good for your DCs to be brought up with a pet to care for as well.

smile

I have a variety of pets and the cat is the least trouble, the lazy persons pet. Ah, I wonder if she will recognise you?

frustratedworkingmum Sat 26-Jan-13 20:17:05

Have her back if you can - the lady will be so grateful too. If it doesn't work out then she will have to go to the rescue. One word - Feliway

CatDilemma Sat 26-Jan-13 20:24:54

What's feliway?

Solero Sat 26-Jan-13 20:29:42

Absolutely take her back, wouldn't be without my 2

frustratedworkingmum Sat 26-Jan-13 20:31:17

Its a cat pheremone that helps to calm and can help urinating in the house issues too. You can buy it from your vets, it may have changed it name recently but they will know what you mean, is not too expensive, buy a spray or plug in diffuser and have it there about a week before your cat comes home to help the transition, also spray it in the travel box. Good luck x

tribpot Sat 26-Jan-13 20:39:12

Yes, I think you've prejudiced the answers by posting in The Litter Tray - you must have known we'd all be total softies where cats are concerned and vote for taking her back.

Obviously I support that option, too. Ours is not much trouble (provided she gets her own way in absolutely everything, obviously) and ds loves her to bits. He was 5 when we got her from Cats Protection and she wasn't the most confident of animals. He's always been very patient with her and knows if he gets too huggy she's likely just to vanish off to the airing cupboard.

Give it a try. She's young enough to be adaptable.

fackinell Sat 26-Jan-13 20:48:21

Yes, get your girl back grin cats have a way of hiding themselves away if the HH too hectic. You've missed them and you loved them. Sorry about your boys but go get your girlie!!

lljkk Sun 27-Jan-13 09:22:28

Ah, we have recently taken on an old codger cat who never lived with children before. He regularly scratches even very gentle 4yo DS who just wants to gently pet and kiss him. Bit of an onery old git. Flea-ridden to boot (argh). I'd chuck him out in a heartbeat but he's a perfect Bachelor Man's cat, loves teenage DS and DH.

As far as I'm concerned he's still here on sufferance, too.

It's worth a try to see if you can give her a home before she goes to Cat Rescue, that was my take on things with Old Codger Cat (but looks like we're stuck with him anyway).

cozietoesie Sun 27-Jan-13 09:32:59

One thing to remember is that if the old lady wasn't coping, it's likely that your girl hasn't been to a vet for a bit - if ever. Check with the old lady if you can but if you take her back, I'd have her up to the vet ASAP anyway for the full check out including fleas, worms, teeth and whether or not she's been spayed. A microchip as well if you can afford it.

If you take her back, I'd just treat her as a new cat but I rather suspect that she'll remember you even though she may not show immediate signs of it. She may have changed in the intervening years but you (and your voice in particular) won't have changed much at all.

smile

lljkk - I detect definite signs of a doting owner there! wink (Despite your gruff comments.)

DeafLeopard Sun 27-Jan-13 09:59:34

Not that you need it but another vote to go get her grin

CatDilemma Sun 27-Jan-13 10:15:29

I know shes been spayed because I did that (well paid a vet to) when she was a kitten. She's been treated for fleas a couple of days ago. She will need worming because that hasn't been done.
I left the decision to dp and he said yes so looks like she really is coming back.

cozietoesie Sun 27-Jan-13 10:17:03

(I forgot vaccinations etc.)

Now that's good to know. smile

You'll have to be patient for a little of course. Let us know how it goes.

Floralnomad Sun 27-Jan-13 10:21:02

When you get her I'd keep her in one room at first ,preferably one without a carpet ,to check the flea situation . The last thing you want is to be fumigating your house next week !

cozietoesie Sun 27-Jan-13 10:28:50

Hopefully they'll all be gone or going but setting aside one room as a 'safety room' where she can run to hide and the DCs know not to go into is good in any case. Otherwise it's just setting up a feeding station and a litter station and you're away.

smile

Oh - and getting a carrying box if you haven't got one. (You can likely make do with a cardboard box immediately but a proper box will be needed in the medium term.)

CatDilemma Sun 27-Jan-13 10:47:52

I think she'll be coming tonight once the dc are in bed. Will be going cat stuff shopping today I think.
We've got an airing cupboard right next to the bathroom that dd can't get to. Ds can get everywhere but is old enough to knowto leave her alone.
So I'll need bed, litter tray and litter, carry box, food and bowls, worming tablets, feliway if I can find some and some toys. Anything else?

Floralnomad Sun 27-Jan-13 10:51:26

Personally I wouldn't buy a shop wormer ,I'd go to the vet tomorrow and get one from them ,same for flea stuff . The pet shop stuff does not necessarily have the same ingredients and vets usually have the best stuff. ( way too many uses of stuff there)

tribpot Sun 27-Jan-13 10:53:30

I wouldn't bother with a bed, unless she has one already? My cat has slept in her bed precisely one time.

cozietoesie Sun 27-Jan-13 11:13:02

I wouldn't bother with a bed, either. An old blanket/throw/similar (preferably washable) will be fine if you want a soft place for her.

Bowls - well you should be able to find something in the cupboard for food and water bowls - and if you don't have any, beg some old newspapers from neighbours to use to put them and the litter tray on.

As for toys? I would get some old scrunched up bits of paper, inner toilet tubes, old cardboard boxes to start off with. They don't usually need much in the way of elaborate/expensive playthings. Some old little kids' toys (teddies/bunnies) from the local charity shop next week and put 'em through the machine in a soft wash. That should do her if you're desperate.

I'd also get wormer etc from the vet and not from the shop. You can register her at the same time! smile

fackinell Sun 27-Jan-13 13:19:20

Felliway is ridiculously expensive and I'm not convinced it did ours any good. So happy you're getting her home!! grin

CatDilemma Sun 27-Jan-13 14:03:03

Yes I did mean wormer from a vet. Theres a few around here that treat Sundays as a normal business day. What about scratching posts. Are they any good? I remember when she was a kitten she liked to sit on the top of the 8ft one we had but will she be likely to use one as a grown up?

cozietoesie Sun 27-Jan-13 14:05:43

You might be lucky. Some will use them and and some won't! (Myself, I'd wait and see how she settles first.)

smile

CatDilemma Sun 27-Jan-13 17:00:13

Well I've got the basic stuff for her and shes coming home tonight. So excited.

cozietoesie Sun 27-Jan-13 17:25:35

Best of luck, then!

(As I said - treat her like a new cat for a little so don't be surprised or hurt if she runs for the hills (or the nearest dark spot) as soon as she arrives back.)

Let us know how it goes.

smile

CatDilemma Sun 27-Jan-13 21:50:15

Well she's here. She's very scared I managed a quick cuddle before she ran off to hide behind the sofa.

tribpot Sun 27-Jan-13 21:58:00

Good good. She will find the change of scene scary and the best thing you can do is leave her in peace. My cat slept in some mad places - under shelves, certainly behind the sofa - for a while until she came to trust us. Now I am looking at her sleeping right in the middle of my king sized bed whilst I teeter on one side because I don't want to wake her up grin

Let her come to you in her own time.

CatDilemma Sun 27-Jan-13 22:32:27

We managed to persuade her out, there's a pic on my profile.

cozietoesie Sun 27-Jan-13 22:40:11

She looks a bit tense but ...getting there. Slow and easy will do it. (And protecting her from the excitement of the DCs for a few days.)

smile

cozietoesie Sun 27-Jan-13 22:41:53

You must be thrilled to have her back.

CatDilemma Mon 28-Jan-13 08:27:33

She came out and played last night it was lovely.
She pooed on the floor in the night though but hopefully she'll get used to her new things. We couldn't bring anything from her old home with her because it smelt so bad.

cozietoesie Mon 28-Jan-13 08:39:42

If the older lady who had her wasn't coping she may not have been cleaning up and the cats may have become confused about where they were supposed to poo etc - so used anywhere. (You implied she used her tray fine as a kitten?) She'll be all at sixes and sevens anyway.

Clean up the spot really thoroughly to allow her mind to focus next time - and someone else recommended (I seem to remember) that you put some of the poo in her clean tray for 10 minutes to give it a faint aroma of 'poo place'. (Next time - if she does it again - because you may have dumped the offending offering.) Then the usual. Lots of praise if you see her using it and no blame if she doesn't.

smile

Has she peed in her tray yet?

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