I think my cat is missing.

(74 Posts)

I could cry.

We've been staying at my mum in laws for a few weeks while some work is done on out house. We took our 3 cats with us. They had been totally fine until yesterday when my mils friend came round...with her 3 lurchers. Who escaped and chased the poor cats. Two of them are fine, but one has not been seen since. We have searched the house repeatedly, but nothing. And she is a big Maine coon so not that easy to miss.

I think she must have got outside. It's been pouring with rain all night, and she has never been outside.

To make matters worse, we had to move back home today. So we aren't even in the house to keep searching.

SecretSantaFix Sun 23-Dec-12 14:50:09

What the hell was she doing bringing 3 big dogs around, especially lurchers which are bred to chase small furries?

How far away are you from your inlaws?

Oh dear, can you print off some MISSING leaflets and put them through the doors?

Notify the Vets, an announcement on MIL Facebook if she has one, call the local vets and cat homes just in case someone hands her in.

Mine used to hide in bushes, no idea why but they did, I am assuming you have rattled food tine and bowl outside?

So sorry I have been though this and it is heartbreaking! I hope you find her.

DozyDuck Sun 23-Dec-12 14:57:10

Oh no! Are they chipped?? Can you contact cats protection down there? They will put a picture on their website

NotSpartacus Sun 23-Dec-12 15:12:26

She probably has not gone far.
Cats get scared and hunker down for a few days.

I'd suggest you put posters and leaflets through doors for a few minutes walk in each direction. Ask people to check their sheds etc. Speak to local vets and the council.
Leave something that smells of you outside the house where you were staying to guide her back, or alternatively some of their dirty litter (the smell will be familiar). Go out and call her in the evening when it is quiet around the area where she was lost.

I realise you've moved back home, but you need to keep actively looking for a while (at least 5 days), as they can stay hidden or a long time. We had a kitten vanish and we found him again 4 days later after he took to howling in someone's garden. He hadn't even crossed a road but got disorientated in all the back gardens. We think he was trying to come home but was going the wrong way.
People will spot a maine coon they have not seen before when she stops hiding. You just need to make sure they have your phone number when they do.

RosemaryandThyme Sun 23-Dec-12 15:17:59

There is a national lost/found pets website.

Google and pop all your details on and a pic of cat if you have one.

We founf a lost cat and have put its details on in addition to contacting the localvet, paper,and putting up posters - no one has yet claimed cat so meanwhile we are looking after her.

Thanks all.

I am currently avoiding mil as I just dont have a clue what to say to her- apparently the dogs just took off after our 3 cats and got pretty close to catching them. We have been back- mils is relatively close- to search outside and the back door has been left open with food out for her. We have been round all the neighbours and are getting posters printed tomorrow- cant find ours! Facebook, gumtree, email to vets and some local rescues done, will phone the others tomorrow. She is chipped, thankfully. But mil lives in a strange spot, lots of busy roads but also a huge population of foxes who are always in her garden.

jchocchip Sun 23-Dec-12 20:58:30

Our cat went missing for 3 days last year and I was beside myself. It was raining heavily when he disappeared and was found having got locked in a garage so do ask neighbours to check their sheds and outbuildings. He was fine. I hope your cat comes home soon.

Thanks jchocchip. Have made up a flyer which I will put through the doors in all the neighbouring streets/houses tomorrow. I just know she will have no road sense whatsoever.

The others are very confused, they were searching mils house last night and now seem to be looking for her here too.

cozietoesie Mon 24-Dec-12 04:58:17

So sorry StatisticallyChallenged. Not knowing is just about the worst thing. I'll be thinking of you.

It's torture- been here once before even I was much younger and it's part of the reason they are indoor cats. Going out to flyer the neighbourhood this morning.

Fluffycloudland77 Mon 24-Dec-12 09:36:48

I think I'd have a hard time to forgive mil for something like this.

Keep calling her, are there any conifers she might have scooted up? our cats could be quite well hidden in a conifer.

The area although in the middle of Edinburgh, is right in a valley full of trees leading to a river. Wellies on today, leaflets and posters printed. Going to try again.

I really cant even look at mil, I feel so hurt and angry. She now says she isnt sure if the cat was around before the dogs came in- but we definitely saw her that morning so either way she let her out. We have a little girl too, dont know how to tell her. She adores her cats

Fluffycloudland77 Mon 24-Dec-12 09:48:07

They can survive up a tree for a few days from what I've seen on tv in the past.

Have you got any binoculars?

No binoculars but have been out and searched again.

Very sweet moment actually - we put flyers around the street MIL lives in and the two neighbouring ones, stuck posters up and as we came back to the car saw a child with a flyer in hand - I originally thought they had ripped a poster down. Then I realised it was actually a dad and his two children, and they had got all wrapped up and come out with the flyer to search for her. So kind.

We managed to speak to a few people - the gardens around there are absolutely huge so she could stay hidden in one of them for ages. But the next door neighbour mentioned that he heard the foxes going absolutely crazy this morning and that there were 3 of them in his garden.

cozietoesie Mon 24-Dec-12 13:05:38

I know where she went missing from what you've said. Very difficult. I don't really know what to say apart from sending you thoughts.


Here's hoping she turns up.

Thanks Cosietoesie - I guess you are fairly local? She went missing from EH4 - near the Dean Gallery area. There are literally 5 houses on a private lane, a few trees, a little tiny stream, a car park and sports club, and then the Water of Leith. The gardens all go up a huge steep hill and have loads of big bushes and trees.

She could wander in circles without ever actually emerging and being seen. I don't feel very hopeful.

cozietoesie Mon 24-Dec-12 14:37:24

I was fairly local once , many years ago - not any more, but I just recognized what you said.

I really do not reckon lurchers. I had a glorious male border collie who was the dream of every female dog he came across (he was an utter gentleman and they all fell apart when they met him - even the ones who were antsy with other dogs) - until he met a female lurcher who attacked him. Badly. He didn't maul her of course. Just limped back.

I see you're not hopeful. I'll be thinking of you and her.

Apparently MIL has been out searching too. I've tried to contact her microchip company (closed for the festive period grrr) so emailed them. Contacted all the local rescues. Not much to do but sit and wait.

I am actually finding this harder to cope with, mentally, than when my previous cats have passed away. I swing between thinking/feeling that she is gone and kind of grieving for her, and then feeling bad for giving up on her and thinking she is a big strong healthy cat in a nice area with lots of eyes looking.

Fluffycloudland77 Mon 24-Dec-12 22:25:19

You can't do anymore than you have done please don't feel guilty.

cozietoesie Mon 24-Dec-12 22:42:04

As you said.

She is a big strong healthy cat in a nice area with lots of eyes looking...

Go to bed now.

Trizelda Mon 24-Dec-12 22:54:11

My MIL's cat turned up 7 weeks after being scared out of their new house by a fire alarm. We put flyers through lots of doors and posters in doctors, chip shop etc. It was a poster that got him home in the end as someone remembered seeing one when they heard about a stray cat hanging around. He had wandered a few roads further than expected so maybe more posters would have got him home sooner.

Good luck!

Just been down to search again and stuck posters up a street further away.

But, when I went round past MILs, despite it being broad daylight there were two of the biggest foxes I have ever seen running around like they owned the place. They were blinking huge!

NotSpartacus Tue 25-Dec-12 16:52:49

Don't worry too much about the foxes.
I was sure one had got our (really rather dim) kitten. We're in London and I see foxes really often. But dim kitten was fine.

catsrus Tue 25-Dec-12 17:24:48

I've actually seen a video of cats meeting foxes in a street - the foxes knew that the cats were dangerous and gave them a wide berth.

I would be horrified and angry too - fingers crossed that you get her back sson.

Fingers crossed you are right. These buggers are pretty bollshy - it turns it their den is in the next door neighbours garden so it's very much their territory.

Just had MIL round for a visit. I think my tongue may be bleeding...

cozietoesie Thu 27-Dec-12 09:45:31

Any news StatisticallyChallenged ?

Nothing at all sad

I have breeder friend but sadly not close enough to that area...(we all gang up and search) I am racking my brain trying to think of what else you could do.

It really does not help matters that her microchip has been passed from pillar to post. It seems to have been transferred between databases at least 3 times and nobody is admitting to having the details. I finally managed to get a couple of them to add her manually using the chip number but I just about burst in to tears on the phone before that!

Seriously, WTF is the point in microchips if they lose the details

(apologies for ranting...PMT plus lost cat is not a good combination!)

Rant away, I am glad they have added her details, I was devastated when one my Ragdolls went missing, he came back, I found him in the neighbours garden hiding inside a box, I was scared too look, he was lying down and very quiet, he was just traumatised, poor boy, he was gone for 6 days...sadly he got out again, my DC think they seen him locally on the window sill of a house, we went wandering then they forgot which house it was. I left it at that, I would prefer he was living somewhere else than the other option.

cozietoesie Sat 29-Dec-12 09:05:54

No news, I guess?

sad nothing at all.

She's been gone a week now.

happystory Sat 29-Dec-12 09:38:08

So sorry you are going thru this.Don't stress about foxes tho. We are plagued with them and our quite small cat has staring competitions with them and they back off. hope you have good news soon.

TheIronLady Sat 29-Dec-12 10:15:20

Just a thought; have you checked any nearby trees near MIL's in case she is stuck up one? is she very vocal ie is she likely to be heard?

She is VERY vocal - a typical Maine Coon with a massive meow! I think if she was close we would have heard her by now.

I have checked every under and looked up every tree I can get to near MIL's. Unfortunately she lives in an area that is pretty wild and between the river, stream, steep hills and high walls it's not an easy search.

Trying not to fret about the foxes but when I was younger a neighbour had a couple of cats killed by one. At this stage my biggest hope is that someone has at least taken her in so she is safe - and either she has traveled further than our flyers or they have just taken a shine to her.

Still avoiding my MIL too - I know she didn't do it intentionally but the polite Christmas Day chit chat was tough! I am supposed to be round there on New Years Day for dinner. The other guests are the lurcher owner and family. I feel a tummy bug coming on I think...

cozietoesie Sat 29-Dec-12 10:41:41

There should be plenty of small mammals to hunt around there, SC - so don't panic if she's gone walkabout. Maybe if we get some snow (not usually a good thing but.......) you'll see her. The weather is actually quite clement at the moment despite the rain. (She could, of course, have found a cozy berth with a fire and chicken-providing person in the neighbourhood.)

My Mum had a cat that came back of his own accord after 2 months. I'll keep hoping for you.

cozietoesie Sat 29-Dec-12 10:42:32

Crossed post. I wouldn't go on NYD. It would be too tough for you.

Oh if she can work out how to hunt she will have her pick of squirrels (every time I go out I keep thinking I have seen the tip of her tail then realizing it's a bloody grey squirrel!), mice etc.

Knowing the area you will know what I mean about it being a bugger to search - odd shaped giant gardens going up a hillside and 12ft tall walls- give me a row of terraces any day! smile

I agree re NYD. I'm still far too bloody angry!

One of our other cats is a bit out of sorts as well, the two of them used to cuddle up together and play all the time and I think he's missing the company. I keep finding him sitting behind the front door during the night, meowing quietly.

cozietoesie Sat 29-Dec-12 11:50:38

Do you open the front door when you find him meowing quietly there? (Just in case she's there?)

I do - we live about a mile away in the city centre but I check anyway. DH thinks I am bonkers!

cozietoesie Sat 29-Dec-12 12:01:10

No, you're not. Cats can travel long distances and it's better for you that at least you know if she isn't there.

StuffezLaBouche Sat 29-Dec-12 14:04:36

Read this thread with a sick feeling. I hope so, so much you find her. I don't think NYD is a good idea either, whatever problems may be caused by dodging. it. Sometimes people don't understand how much an animal can mean to you and one "it's only a cat" comment might really upset you.
Fingers crossed and best wishes for you.

That's exactly it - I think one comment like that, or a "get over it" and I would actually ruin family relations for ever more!

DH is now trying to deflect me by saying he can't be sure he didn't accidentally let her out. Except I left with him that morning and I know we waited for the door to close. I think he doesn't like me being angry at his mum. Men huh!

StuffezLaBouche Sat 29-Dec-12 14:39:16

He's probably trying to be helpful, but failing miserably.
Incidentally, I looked up Maine Coon on gumtree (eyeing up kittens I will never be able to buy!) and I think I saw your missing ad. She really is beautiful. A cat like that can't roam around for too long without some kind soul taking her in an tracing its owners. The micro chipping sounds like a real farce though, did you get that sorted?

She is a very beautiful cat actually, so hopefully she will be noticed if she is ok and pops out of the trees. The microchip companies are a farce but I think her details should now be showing on one of the biggest ones. When I burst in to tears the girl took pity and created a new record with her chip number - which thankfully my vet had been able to provide.

I will add a photo of her to my profile

BTW, if you want pretty kitten photos look up Rockoon Maine Coons - she bred one of our cats and takes lovely photos

StuffezLaBouche Sat 29-Dec-12 14:49:58

Thanks, I will have a look!
This is not very relevant but I love your nails in your picture!

Haha thank you - they're currently covered in emulsion so not so glamorous! I've added a couple of photos of my motley crew.

StuffezLaBouche Sat 29-Dec-12 15:05:48

Wow! They are amazing cats! I adore their tails. I'm going to have a nosey at that breeder's website now..
On my profile there are 2 pics of my little boy - not exactly a pedigree but he is just gorgeous anyway and full of character.

He's a cutie pie!

Fluffycloudland77 Sat 29-Dec-12 20:00:27

Luckily she looks pedigree, anyone looking at her would realise she isn't a feral.

I'm cross with his mum and I don't know her. angry

Thank you to everyone who offered support. Sadly, I don't have good news. I have just returned from burying Sedona. My MIL found her body in the garden last night. The foxes got to her.

She hadn't been there before, it was a spot we had often searched. It looks like she was trying to find her way home sad

cozietoesie Mon 31-Dec-12 16:00:19

So very sorry, SC.


Mrsrudolphduvall Mon 31-Dec-12 16:02:36

Sorry to hear that.
She was a beautiful cat.

aJumpedUpPantryBoy Mon 31-Dec-12 16:20:54

So sorry to read this

Horsemad Mon 31-Dec-12 17:06:56

I'm so sorry to hear about your beautiful cat sad
What a shame.

Fluffycloudland77 Mon 31-Dec-12 17:19:40

I'm so sorry. What a bloody waste of life. Poor you.

SecretSantaFix Mon 31-Dec-12 17:33:26

I'm so sorry.

knittedslippersx3 Mon 31-Dec-12 17:36:42

So sorry xx

Thanks everyone. Absolutely gutted, she was just the most wonderful pet. She used to sleep cuddled in to the crook of my arm, occasionally grooming my hair. The house feels weirdly empty without her.

I had a horrible feeling those bastarding foxes would get her. She was so close too, and the back door was open. As Fluffy says, what a fucking waste of a life.

catsrus Mon 31-Dec-12 21:30:45

oh shit - that's awful, I'm so sorry - they wriggle their way into your heart and take a bit of it with them when they go.

ozymandiusking Mon 31-Dec-12 21:49:44

So so sorry to hear that you beautiful cat has gone.I'm crying for you x.

StuffezLaBouche Tue 01-Jan-13 14:53:53

I am so very sorry to hear this. Absolutely gutted for you. sad

NotSpartacus Tue 01-Jan-13 19:26:32

Oh no, I am sorry to read this. Was hoping for a happier result for you.

glitch Tue 01-Jan-13 19:41:48

How sad. Really sorry to hear she has died. sad

Thanks all. I really miss her - and needless to say I did NOT go to lunch today, although DH did. I think I would have been rather too blunt for everyone.

QOD Tue 01-Jan-13 20:37:26

Oh damn, I jumped to the end hoping for good news.

I'm so sorry, love my little boy so much, he's like my second child

happystory Wed 02-Jan-13 10:28:00

Oh no, so very sorry

cozietoesie Wed 02-Jan-13 10:42:33

I'm not surprised you didn't go. Indeed - if I had been your MIL, I'd have called the whole thing off.

StuffezLaBouche Wed 02-Jan-13 12:20:41

Know what you mean, cozie, I would have too, but I genuinely don't think a lot of people realise how cat owners feel about their pets. "It's only a cat." I've only had my little boy for a few months and would be devastated to lose him, so I can only imagine how the OP is feeling.

She apparently understood why I didn't go - she had a lovely dog who died a couple of months ago. MIL has never been much of a cat person but Sedona had wormed her way in to her heart while we were staying there.

The lurcher owner gave DH a sympathy card for me - which didn't have even a hint of apology for her part in it. GRRRR. I'm not bitter, not at all!

(I may have been having fantasies about the best way to deal with the damn foxes - they have been allowed to get totally out of control)

cozietoesie Wed 02-Jan-13 13:16:30

Difficult one. Urban fox control is not effective but you might, sometime when you're cooler, have a word with your local councillor about measures which could be campaigned for - to do with rubbish, garden and countryside maintenance etc etc. (The area in question is just one big territory for them with loads of potential dens and plenty of food.)

They have got very out of hand - DH's parents are divorced now, but his dad was totally shocked when he heard that they were at the stage of sauntering across the garden in broad daylight and attacking cats. He lived in that house for 20ish years and although they saw signs of them, he very rarely actually saw a fox. They had a cat while DH was growing up - it went out, and was never touched. And was probably about half the size of my poor girl too.

I did read something about them getting more aggressive since people started using wheelie bins, which they got down there a couple of years ago. I think I read somewhere that Inverleith and the surrounding area has one of the biggest urban fox populations in the country.

I know they are only doing what comes naturally - it's just hard not to be angry when she managed to survive for 8 days and get within feet of safety before being killed.

Fluffycloudland77 Wed 02-Jan-13 15:29:47

It's human rubbish that they usually want, if we weren't such messy so and so's it would be better for fox and rat control.

In the country they get shot, even cubs get shot. Some farmers have proper firearms licences and so have rifles not just shotguns. I've known foxes be killed on arable land by farmers with no livestock at all.

We never saw any foxes when we lived in the countryside but I saw a big cat!

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