4 weeks ago tomorrow, my most precious and once in in a lifetime cat George passed away at the age of 6 - with absolutely no reason. I can't put into words just how much he meant to me.
My husband suffers with Rapid cycling bipolar disorder. While he is actually fairly managed, my George was pretty much my coping mechanism. He just knew me, he could read me so well. If I was having a stressful day, or just needed some calm time, he would find me, and insist on having a cuddle. He was a massive lump of love, being 6,5kg and 110cm. He just knew that I needed him. Stupid as it sounds, sometimes I would talk to him. I think more than anything my tone of voice meant he would react in whatever way I needed.
We live pretty much in the sticks, and he has done incredibly well at reducing a mouse problem in our garden that was ruining the garden. I have also come to learn where all the moles where coming from he brought back. We now have a rather large mole problem in the garden.
We have 9 other cats, and he has left a huge great big power void. I have 4 boys all trying to be dominant, and 2 girls giving it a go too. I have one sensitive soul (our first) who has just completely withdrawn from everything. She has been in a bathroom drawer (that I can't top her getting in) and refuses to come out of. She has lost an incredible amount of weight. We have had to set her up in my bedroom to just get her eating.
I feel so hopeless, he has left so many voids all over the place. I'm struggling to get through a day without crying. I know should look after myself, but I don't know when enough is enough and to sit down and chill out - George just knew.
I don't know what to do.
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I don't feel like I can cope without my boy.
sugarplumfairy28 · 11/11/2016 19:40
Hi! I haven't got much advice to offer, but do want to offer my sympathies. Be kind to yourself - you're grieving and it sounds like you have a lot on at the best of times. Allow yourself to be sad - there is nothing wrong with crying everyday (unless it is making you more upset of course). Do you want to share stories/ memories or even photos about George here? I love the name btw! 
Oh sugar what a lovely story and what a beautiful boy. I'm so sorry for your loss. The other cats will sort themselves out.
You can cry. You can sob. But one day you will think of him and smile. You will remember something that makes you happy and not sad. Not yet. But you will. That day maybe he will be patting you on the head and calling you George.
Oh sugar, those pictures are beautiful. He looks exactly like my cat, even the same expression and the way they sit - especially the diving pose. I imagine he was a huge character.
I love the story of how he got his name, that's lovely.
It sounds as though you have lost a very dear friend, he just happened to be feline. I hope you don't mind but I looked up this for you www.supportline.org.uk/problems/bereavement_pets.php
If you're struggling, maybe it's worth ringing one of the support lines? Apologies if you're not interested.
for you. It's OK to be upset but please seek help if it's feeling too much.
So sorry. Take time to cry and grieve, this is a sad loss.
Ot took me three months to save another fluffy bundle after my loss, but she helped me. When it's right for you, I think you have love for another puss without feeling bad for George, whom you clearly loved.
I'm so sorry on the passing of your beautiful boy George
I think cozietosie has offered very good advice wrt drawercat.
Good. An afternoon cuddle-snooze with a cat and a hot cup of tea in bed at the end may not be a cure for absolutely everything but it does pretty well for most things nonetheless.
Lots of luck. 
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