We sadly lost one of our 17 year old cats on Monday It's obviously been a really hard week for us all and our other cat (her brother) has benefited from lots of extra attention and love.
They were never particularly close - not the type to cuddle up together although he would have been more affectionate if she had let him. She had also been mainly upstairs in our bedroom for the last few weeks so he doesn't seem to be missing her too much doing the daytime although is a little clingy.
At night he has to be shut in the kitchen as had started being quite vocal and waking the children up (possibly a touch of dementia). We started to shut them both in there at night about 12 months ago (there is a sofa for him to sleep on and he has his food and tray - it's quite a big room) and this had seemed to suit him better and he was much more settled at night. However the last couple of nights he has started yowling really loudly in the early hours. I can only think that he is missing having her with him. I hate to think of him feeling lonely but can't let him upstairs as he would keep us all awake. Luckily I am the only one who sleeps lightly enough to hear him from the kitchen.
How can I help him? Am thinking of maybe leaving a radio on low? Have used feliway diffusers in the past so will try putting one of those in again. Is it just a case of taking time for him to get used to it? Am not sure if I am projecting my own grief onto him or if he really is sad. It's so hard
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Lost one of our cats. How to help the other?
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diskdrive · 06/11/2016 13:04
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