We got our two siamese cats almost 10 years ago, Aggie came first as she was already 14 weeks when we found her. Herbie was younger so there was a two month wait before he was ready to come 'home'. Aggie became really very sad indeed during those two months but blossomed when Herbie came, they became the best of friends and closest companions.
Last week we had to have Herbie PTS, he'd been ill for quite some time, Aggie was able to be there, sat with him at the very end and seems to understand what's happened. There's been none of the usual frantic searching that she'd usually display when Herbie was at the vet or just out and about for longer than she thought was appropriate. She's been a bit lost but seems to be settling a bit already, which amazes me TBH.
She's 9 but still very active and playful, she's used to (and seems to need) cat company. Ideally I'd prefer not to get another cat but I'm not prepared to leave Aggie lost and lonely in her old age either. Should we looking into rehoming a cat of a similar age? I'm really not sure if another siamese would be best if we go with an older cat, I suspect so. I'd rather not get a kitten although that probably would be the simplest option all round.
Any advice about the grieving process in cats, how to know if a friend is needed or how to introduce a new cat to the household would be massively appreciated.
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Siamese has lost her life partner - what now?
InterchangeableEmma · 22/09/2016 13:26
x post. That doesn;t sound best promising!
We'd been letting her upstairs all night since Herbie went, it was last friday so all very fresh.
Before, she'd sleep with DC1 from bedtime until about 11pm before coming down of her own accord to be be with Herbie who may or maynot have been in with DC1, or DC2, or on our bed or just downstairs.
The first few nights she moved quietly between beds throughout the night, seemingly at random. The night before last she spent all night bellowing each of us awake in turn and generally being a pest, bellowing in the garden and seemingly wanting to play
Last night I snuggled her amongst cushions on the sofa before I went to bed, expecting her to shout and want letting upstairs in the night but heard nothing from her whatsoever!
When I acquired my current lad, he was older even then - older than your girl - and had just lost his human person. It took him a month near enough to decide to re-bond with me and come back into the family again. And he knew us all more or less.
I'd maybe give her a bit longer - and leave the bedroom doors ajar! 
I'm having a pang of sympathy for your DC1 because we went to see some (non Siamese) kittens today, and there was also a gorgeous Siamese chap there- who totally freaked DS (6) out! "Why do you keep miaowing at me? Mum, he keeps poking me with his paw, why's he doing that?" 
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They were a bit distracted by their kazillion other pets (think they've probably made the right decision to rehome a couple). I told DS "He's just being a Siamese", although DS, never having met a Siamese before, has come away with the unshakable opinion that That Cat Was Weird .
Actually, it sounds as if he was just being a Siamese - but a Siamese that was trying to communicate with their Person. 
Even if he was only 6.
Never ever buy a Siamese for someone as a present. You just can't guarantee who they'll take to.
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