Cats become violent.

(22 Posts)
Gingerbiscuit22 Wed 23-Mar-16 14:52:02

Hi all

We adopted a cat back in August, he is an older cat, will be 13 this year, when we got him we ensured that he was okay with children as I was pregnant at the time. We had our baby in January and the cat was okay up until a couple of weeks ago, now he has started to become violent, luckily not towards the baby, just towards me and my partner. Was just wondering if anyone has experienced this or if anyone has any advice on how I can get him to become less violent?

cozietoesie Wed 23-Mar-16 14:54:29

What has changed in that timeframe? And how/when does this 'violence' manifest?

Gingerbiscuit22 Wed 23-Mar-16 15:43:14

Nothing has changed at all, and the attacks are unprovoked and completely out of the blue. You could be sat near him and he will just go for you.

cozietoesie Wed 23-Mar-16 15:52:59

Well something is wrong with his life.

It could be the new baby even though matters seemed to be going fine at first. I'm assuming he's neutered but does he go outside? And when was his last vet check?

lavenderdoilly Wed 23-Mar-16 15:56:26

Google Jackson Galaxy a US cat behaviourist - from what I can remember, he'd suggest lots of playtime (flying frenzy ) and safe spots in the house where he can get out of the way and observe - like a shelf.

lavenderdoilly Wed 23-Mar-16 15:58:24

And cozie is right (as always ) he could be sore some where but, like all cats, that's for him to know and you to find out.

Gingerbiscuit22 Wed 23-Mar-16 16:16:31

He is neutered and does go outside. He was last at the vets in December as he was hit by a car and had some leg problems. He has plenty of safe places, and has free reign of the house during the day so he can escape from the baby. It's just started happening out of the blue. He seems well and doesn't seem to be hurt in any way.

lavenderdoilly Wed 23-Mar-16 16:20:06

Play to tire him out and channel aggression. Kicker toys are good as well as flying frenzy. Watching them go for it kicking with back legs is fab.

Fluffycloudland77 Wed 23-Mar-16 16:33:57

I'd suspect pain, it's the same in people. Big causes of challenging behaviour in humans are hunger, pain and tiredness.

Panadbois Wed 23-Mar-16 16:56:01

I had this problem. My cat was my baby. Until we had a foster child stay with us. The jealousy was awful and I couldn't trust the cat in the same room as the FC.
I asked for help from the vet and was advised to use Feliway. (Didn't work)
I tried to rehome but nobody would take the badly behaved cat.
I know that of the cat had been a dog, the vet would have insisted on pts.

Sorry, no help at all, just sharing my sympathy and experience.

(My cat was hit by a car and sadly died I cried buckets full regardless of behaviour)

cozietoesie Wed 23-Mar-16 17:20:21

I'd at least want to clear possible pain out of the way as a factor. Especially as he was hit by a car and had some leg problems pretty recently. (It might not be a single thing of course but if he's sore and grumpy with it, the added stress of a newcomer to the household might just get too much for him at times.)

I think I'd vet him in the first instance, telling the vet the various circumstances and behaviours.

cozietoesie Wed 23-Mar-16 17:23:43

PS - cats are past masters at covering up pain or distress. Oftentimes, the only way you can tell something is up with them is through changed behaviour.

lljkk Wed 23-Mar-16 17:34:54

What do you mean go for you, does he leap on you with claws out hissing?
We have one who used to swipe with claws if you just stopped to talk to him, or put a hand within reach. We have love-bombed him out of that, thank goodness. Still swipes a bit, though. No idea how he was abused previously, poor daft thing.

MadamDeathstare Wed 23-Mar-16 17:44:11

Definitely have the cat checked for causes of pain or illness. If he/she has arthritis tramadol might help although that caused DeathCat1 to become more grumpy. DeathCat3 took it with no problems. If he/she is coming down with kidney disease or an infection they may be feeling more vulnerable and lash out more.

DeathCat1 attacked DM and I the first day we brought my DC home from the hospital. She hated the noise of their crying and would go for them if she could. I used to sit in a fenced off area of the sitting room with the babies while DeathCat1 would sit on the other side of the fence glaring at us, or stuff her head through the bannisters like a gargoyle. She would occasionally chew on the fence bars or run around the ottoman on her side using her claws. Once the DC started walking she stopped hating them. In fact one day I took my eyes off DD2 and found she had started kicking DeathCat1 through the fence. DeathCat1 took her foot into her mouth and held it for a while. Nobody moved because I didn't want to trigger her into clamping down. Then she let go. There were two indentations in the foot and DD2 screamed with horror, but there were no scratches or blood. Another time DD2 kicked DeathCat1 and got her ears boxed as a response.

I didn't leave the cats alone with the DC until the DC were around five years old. DeathCat1 weighed in at about 16 lbs at one point and a lot of that was muscle, she also has very large claws. They are fine with each other now.

cozietoesie Wed 23-Mar-16 18:02:43


ChildlessAndOK Wed 23-Mar-16 18:23:42

My cat does this!!! And I've no kids no nothing. He'll come for a fuss. I'll pet him then he will have his teeth in me and only a flick of water will get him off me!!
Some nights he's woken me up biting me.
No clue why he does it, he only does it to me.
No help, just some empathy!!

cozietoesie Wed 23-Mar-16 18:28:25

Seniorboy used to bite my mother when he lived with her - I suspect it was mainly an attention thing but she was lousy at discipline anyway. No consistency of approach.

Fluffycloudland77 Wed 23-Mar-16 18:31:29

I bet she was with you though!.

Our cats had an option at dinner. I'd only known eat it or starve.

MadamDeathstare Wed 23-Mar-16 18:49:30


My father: Ahh steak, where are the chips?
My mother: That's for DCat
My father: What have we got then?
My Mother: Sardines on toast.

abbsismyhero Wed 23-Mar-16 18:57:19

i agree a vet check is the first place to go followed by feliway and catnip

fwiw i had two cats when i first had a child they loved my daughter hated when she was out of the house one would be in the hedge at the front of the house till she came home then he would come in! when she was ill dcat2 would be right next to her when she cried in the night dcat1 would land on me to wake me up dig me out of bed and escort me to her room grin

Fluffycloudland77 Wed 23-Mar-16 19:16:08

Just in case you were planning to ignore her? grin

DramaAlpaca Wed 23-Mar-16 19:21:32

I agree completely with what cozie and others have said & get him checked over by the vet. There could be some residual pain issues, especially after being hit by a car a few months ago, or given his age maybe a bit of arthritis setting in.

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