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Just been told my cat is dying...

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jeanswithatwist · 28/02/2015 16:15

of renal failure by our vet, too far gone for any help so i have to take her in to (more than likely) be pts tomorrow. Dreading it on many levels, i don't think i can bare the thought of her dying in my arms, i will make a fool of myself by sobbing so i think i will have to get dh to do it as he is more detached although he is very fond of her. This has come from nowhere, only been showing signs of ill health (that wasn't really obvious, only now is) for the last few weeks. I will really miss her, the house will seem very empty, bye bye Litek, love you, thank you for being my friend Flowers xx

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GertrudePerkins · 28/02/2015 16:19

oh how horrible. i hope you have a peaceful evening cuddling up with her. am sending love x x

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XLIX · 28/02/2015 16:25

((Hugs)) My heart goes out to you Flowers I wish all cats could be loved as much as your sweet old girl. I'm thinking of you and Litek..xx

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cozietoesie · 28/02/2015 16:39

Oh No. I'm so very sorry.

My own darling Twoago died of renal failure at about 13 and, with hindsight, I wish that I'd let him go earlier than he eventually went. It will be very hard tomorrow but it truly is a kind and loving thing to do for her.

Take care.

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Lonecatwithkitten · 28/02/2015 16:40

Jeans I am a vet and when I lost my old lady to renal failure after I had done the deed. I held her and sobbed, we understand you don't need to be brave and detached.

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jeanswithatwist · 28/02/2015 17:08

thank you lonecat x

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RubbishMantra · 28/02/2015 17:53

How sad, you poor love.

I've been reading your other thread as well as this one.

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PinkSparklyPussyCat · 28/02/2015 21:16

You poor thing. You're doing the kindest thing for her but it's so hard. We lost William last year and, although he'd only been with us a short while, I sobbed and sobbed. As Lonecat says, vets understand how hard it is.

Thinking of you tomorrow Thanks

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jeanswithatwist · 01/03/2015 15:28

we got back an hour ago. i have been busy washing up/putting away her litter box, food bowls etc. i held her head in my hand when she passed away, heartbreaking moment for all three of us tbh inc dh who also cried, even infront of the vet! which is saying something for him (in public). we all loved her, the house is very empty and almost unbearable. what has stayed with me is the last look of love she gave me across the room when i glimpsed her in reception when i was talking to one of the nurses (she was with dd/dh in her carry case), the sun was shining too, it was a special moment. i intend to get another cat when the dust has settled but want to be thinking of her for now instead of deliberately distracting myself by thinking of a replacement as it won't be really, just a different cat...Flowers

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sanquhar · 01/03/2015 15:34

so sorryFlowers

im glad you decided to be with her. i was with mine when i had to have her pts and it helped me afterwards knowing that she had me with her and i was the last thing she saw and heard and hopefully she had comfort from that.

mil decided not to be there with her cat and she bitterly regretted it.

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theliverpoolone · 01/03/2015 15:46

Oh Jeans I took my cat to be pts this morning too, and held his head while he purred as the vet injected him. I sobbed too. This time last week we just thought he was a bit under the weather, but it turns out he had a mass by his heart that meant he deteriorated really quickly. Really struggling to manage dd's grief as well as my own. I've had him since he was a rescue kitten 16 years ago, and dd has only ever known life with him and our other cat, who died 2 yrs ago. I know I've done the right thing for him, but when dd keeps sobbing that she wishes she could see him one more time, it's heartbreaking.

Thinking of you and your lovely cat too Flowers

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cozietoesie · 01/03/2015 15:47

I was thinking of you earlier, jeans, but thought to wait until you came back before saying anything on your thread. I agree with immediate cleaning etc of her bowls, tray and so on - the task doesn't go away and I think it's best to get it out of the way fast.

The last animal I let go was one of my dogs and I didn't actually stay with him, mainly to spare the vet and her assistant who knew him 'socially' and who were crying so hard that I almost worried that the vet wouldn't be able to hold the syringe. He was so far out of it that I doubt he knew who was there anyway - but I knew he was with people who cared very much. I think the vet had hoped badly to be able to save him but she just couldn't.

Take care.

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cozietoesie · 01/03/2015 15:48

I'm so sorry, theliverpoolone. It's very hard.

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SirVixofVixHall · 01/03/2015 15:54

Very sorry op. I have been catless for just over ten years, I still miss them.

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jeanswithatwist · 01/03/2015 17:21

thanks for your kind words everyone. as a distraction i have been on the internet enquiring about getting another cat.....i don't expect to straight away but will for sure. I have been in the garden digging up her buried poo....it's been really upsetting, made me miss her more which is a bit odd when doing something so grim but i never had a problem doing it. she was such a sweet natured cat (most of the time...). just miss her. sorry about your dog cozie. I didn't think i would be able to handle being with her when they injected her. i thought he would ask me to hold her but instead he put her on the table but i cupped her head in my hands, she always loved that. seeing her tongue pop out sideways was really upsetting. i have never seen a dead cat up close, with her eyes wide open, just so odd sinking in that she has actually gone, i only had her for three years, most people seem to have cats that are much older although as a rescue i never knew just how old she was. she was terribly frail in the end, broke my heart to watch her try and move, just glad she had three years of love and being spoilt rotten instead of living rough in a builders yard in east london :0) so sorry liver, that sounds awful and your poor dd. oddly my dd seems normal and tbh not that affected by it although she did love the cat but she was always my cat, dd did sob however when the cat was pts. i guess it is better that she is more detached. neighbours cat snuck in to steal food from liteks bowl, which if course has now gone, he looked most perturbed :0) litek never liked him and used to swipe at him/smack to his cheek, i don't think he will miss her...

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XLIX · 01/03/2015 17:52

Thinking about you. Such a difficult thing to say goodbye to beloved pets..xx

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