Just that really. She's always been an outdoor cat since she was old enough, and has been spayed, had all her vaccinations and is tagged. She's very independent and quite skittish, not really keen on people in general, and will only let DH and I touch her, and then not for very long. She has never been a cuddler but would snuggle between us on 'her' blanket and knead and suckle it a bit when we were sitting on the sofa but she's stopped doing even that in the last couple of months.
She does not like being picked up, or even petted much, and only really comes to us for treats, not for petting. She used to jump on me at 5am most mornings, purring and playful, but doesn't do this anymore (which is good in a way, but I do miss the love), although she does sleep in our room, but rarely on the bed, when she used to quite often. I do try to play with her, but she's more interested in catching flies and chasing things outside - she has brought in the odd present but not too often, luckily!
We let her out when she wants - all day whilst we're at work, and/or all night - she rarely does both consecutively but is used to getting to spend at least a third of her time outdoors, often more. It'll be less as the weather gets worse. NDN's have a cat about the same age that she plays/fights with - they seem to be quite friendly in-between fighting, and have been seen to gang up on other visitors to the back garden!
She also seems to be very territorial, chasing all cats except NDN's out of the garden, and in the last month or so, we've heard some snarling going on, and then she shows up all bushy-tailed and hackles raised, as if she's just given someone a send-off.
DH said last night (after a snarling/bushy-tail incident) that we shouldn't let her out so much as she's getting feral. I'm not sure this will do anything other than frustrate her, and I'm loathe to keep her in as when the weather gets worse, she won't want to go out, so I think she should be allowed out as much as she likes whilst it's not cold and wet! The thing that worries/upsets me the most is that she rarely purrs anymore - possibly because she rarely sits anywhere near us!
So fellow cat-lovers - are we doing anything wrong? Is she just an antisocial cat, or is she going feral? Have we upset her (we used to threaten her with spray bottles when she scratched furniture, but rarely actually sprayed her, and haven't even had to threaten for several months - by threaten, I mean just show her the bottle, not anything more serious!)? How do we fix this? Is it just her age? I would love if she would just come to us for a pet or sit with us sometimes like she used to...
Last thing - I don't know if it makes any difference, but I am 9wks pregnant. Can she tell? Is this causing any of her behaviour?
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Clarabell33 · 04/09/2014 11:24
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