So, Rufus had a great time in the cattery, but now he's home it's all back to square one.
We introduced him (now 15 weeks old, got him at 8 wks) very slowly to Jasper (4 years, a bit wary) and Maud (14 yrs, grumpy but seen it all before). Rufus & Jasper had a few stand offs, but all carefully monitored, and it had got to the point that he & Jasper would sleep on the same bed and wrestle playfully. (Believe me, I was watching and distracting as necessary, whilst letting them work if out ifyswim)
1.5weeks away on holiday - Rufus in cattery as so small. Maud & Jasper at home with cat sitter. Jasper is v outdoors cat, but had to be kept in for the duration for minor medical reasons.
Back now and Jasper is furious - he can go out again, but weather is rubbish. It's like he's forgotten Rufus (who hasn't forgotten him) and he's even growling at us (unusual). he's eating & drinking fine, and no obvious sign of medical issues.
Is he just pissed off that his life was relatively horrid for a bit, and he's forgotten Ru? Or could he have a low level infection, due to the very minor foot problem he had pre-holiday (despite no symptoms other than being out of sorts)? Is it a dwindling response to stress, as Mr RL thinks, or is unusual behaviour normally physiological?
(I'll book a follow up appt tomorrow, just hoping I haven't set back cat integration irrevocably).
Thanks cosietosie - we're going to separate them tonight, so Jasper has free reign + bedroom for maximum attention and Rufus has spare room + me. He is highly strung, and the holiday injury was rubbish timing. I'm home til school goes back, so can try to broker peace. Wasn't sure if cats got cross & stayed cross as other cats have been placid.
We had an old cat who was a total softie and had always lived happily with our other cats- who died of old age. We waited a couple of months and got two kittens and tried to introduce them slowly. He turned into a growling, hissing monster who would go and sit at the bottom of the garden in the huff rather than be in the house with them. I was beside myself. A friend recommended this thing- a plug in called Feliway. We had 3 downstairs. It is pheremones that soothe cat stress. I was very sceptical but over the space of 3 weeks everything just calmed down and one afternoon he let on of the kittens cuddle up to him and from then on they were all best friends. It was amazing. I would definitely recommend it.