Please help. My cat is attacking me - and viciously.

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anotetofollowso Mon 26-May-14 10:51:03

Some background. Sorry if this is long

I've posted before for advice from all you wise MNers about when to get my kitty neutered. Well I had the cat booked in to be neutered when, on Easter Sunday, a feral cat attacked him at my feet, while we were doing the easter egg hunt. It was awful as there was absolutely nothing I could do. Anyway, many vet visits later he still has some bumps on his body, and a raw spot, but we managed to avert an infection. I was still I should wait until he has healed before having him neutered.

But I think the fight had a big impact on him, poor little thing and he was much less affectionate and more aggressive for some time after. It has also meant that I have not been able to let him play in the garden as the vet advised that cats often come back to 'finish' a fight, and also that he should not go outside until he was properly healed.

So, I think the kitty is bored and frustrated stuck inside my first floor flat all day. I work mostly from home but still, there are periods when his by himself without me or DC.

But the cat is attacking me and DS - scratching and biting, more and more, and I am really fearful that this is going to end with the cat giving me or my DS a really nasty bite. My hands and arms look permanently like I have been dragged backwards through a thorn bush. But it's the bites I am really afraid of. I realize the cat isn't really biting with intent or of course he would do serious damage. But he is leaving indentations and occasional small even small puncture marks on me. Once he has grabbed my arm he doesnt let go, clings on with nails and with my hand/arm in his mouth, throwing in rabbit kicks with his legs for good measure. What prompted to post now is that he had my wrist in his teeth and I was so afraid he was going to bite down and seriously damage a vein or artery.

What do I do? I've tried shouting 'no!', tried shaking him off, and I do put him out of the room every time he does it (he's scratching at my door as I type). But I can't seem to train him out of it. I know I'm rubbish at training pets - this cat pretty much does what he likes - but this has gone way too for already, and I am so afraid of where it might end.

Would be really, really grateful for advice from those with experience of cats. I've tried looking on the internet, but have not found what I need.

TIA

LEMmingaround Mon 26-May-14 10:55:28

I think the answer is to give him space. I had a lovely cat that would turn into a crazed tiger if ever we tried to pick him up. Oh and never stroke a cat's stomach, they lull you into a false sense of security - sorry, not much help but being the proud owner of many cat related scars, you have my sympathy.

NatashaBee Mon 26-May-14 10:56:22

Is your tetanus up to date?

LEMmingaround Mon 26-May-14 10:56:50

oh, a possibly useful suggestion is some "feliway" which is a pheremone used to calm cats down, you can get sprays, collars and plug ins. I would try that - poor thing, must have been scared.

The grabbing your arm and the rabbit kicks is mating behaviour! This should all calm down within three weeks of having him neutered.

So yes, you need to get him done as soon as you possibly can. How old is he now?

anotetofollowso Mon 26-May-14 10:59:20

Thanks Lemming. It just feels so unkind to never stroke the cat but perhaps that's what I have to do.

No Natasha, my tetanus is not up to date. Good point - perhaps its time to take me and my DC for a booster.

Auntimatter Mon 26-May-14 10:59:31

Aw, poor pussy.

Has he got a place he can retreat to, where he can be safe?

What he's doing is normal pussycat behaviour: but the target isn't usually the human unless provoked.

Can you go back and talk to the vet again about neutering? This might help too and is only a little op for boy cats.

anotetofollowso Mon 26-May-14 11:02:11

I hadnt thought of trying a spray - thanks Lemming.

Catneuterer would be so thrilled if neutering solved this! I want my sweet cat back! I'm going to book him in now

QOD Mon 26-May-14 11:04:25

My cat is neutered and we love him beyond reason BUT he is a vicious bitey attacking rabbit kicking bastard

I was talking about feliway the other day . Does anyone know, does it have a long "range"? So if plugged in in kitchen is that enough to calm the house?

anotetofollowso Mon 26-May-14 11:05:30

Forgot to say he's now six and a-half months old (born 28 Oct). So well and truly due, I presume?

As I said - grabbing your wrist and rabbit kicks is mating behaviour. When cats mate the males grab the females by the skin on the back of their necks and hang on tightly so they can't get away (lovely ...). He is so frustrated he is trying to mate with you! The frustration can show itself in other aggressive behaviour too.

You haven't said how old he is. If he's more than 8 months now then he will really be feeling the hormones.

Cross post. Still at that age the hormones will be kicking in. We recommend neutering at 5 months.

Although as QOD says, some cats are just like this. I still have one who tries to mate with my arm, or my sweaters, despite being well and truly done. I like to imagine it's because he was neutered very late (just guessing, I have no idea) and so it's more habit and learned behaviour than anything else, but I'm only guessing.

Still, hopefully the neutering will sort it. Fingers crossed. Feliway is also a very good idea.

justtoomessy Mon 26-May-14 11:28:28

When I was on holiday in Canada staying with friends they had a cat whisperer programme on that dealt with cats that did this. Its because they are terrified I'm not sure if you will be able to watch the programme on youtube or not but try as it might be able to help.

He had a special toy that you played with them and gradually they got used to you again and learn to trust. He also made it so the cat had things to climb around on e.g. shelves etc.

justtoomessy Mon 26-May-14 11:29:41
haggisaggis Mon 26-May-14 11:54:47

Our current rescue did the hanging on and biting thing until about 2 weeks after he'd been neutered - then settled down. Will still do it very occasionally - but it is more playful really.
If you're still not letting him out has he things to play with during the day - cat tree etc. One of my cats was a nightmare if shut in - would really take it out on you when you came home(running at you and grabbing your leg etc) and would pee the bed too. As soon as he had access to outside he was fine.

RubbishMantra Mon 26-May-14 14:07:13

I too have a vicious bitey attacking rabbit kicking bastard. Some interactive toys have helped out. When they can mimic their natural hunting behaviour it tires them and helps channel the aggression onto something that isn't your arm. I bought this one, my cat LOVES it. He also loves chasing his laser pointer.

On the mating behaviour thing - my cat does that too, but it's very different to the rabbit kicks, where he is seemingly attempting to disembowel. When he's trying to shag something he bites down while making pudding with his front paws, with a faraway look in his eye hmm

WitchWay Mon 26-May-14 14:59:00

Rubbish one of my cats absolutely loved a feathery toy like that but whenever she played with it it would make her breathless & wheezy. It was her favourite thing - she'd drag it into corners & growl over it grin I had to bin it in the end - she sat by the dustbin for a couple of hours afterwards sad

Rubbish yes you're right. When my cat tries to mate with my arm/ blanket whatever it's less rabbit kicks and more padding the feet. I think I'd rather have rabbit kicks frankly ...

anotetofollowso Wed 28-May-14 11:28:16

messy that programme made fantastic viewing. DS and I watched it in fascination - and yes, recognized aspects of our own dear psycho-cat !

witch I've bought a toy similar to yours (they also used a similar one on the prog messy recommended).

And I've booked poor old kitty in to be neutered on the 9th of June.

Thanks in advance for all the good advice here. I love MN ! (most of the time. ..)

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