I found my darling Barnaby dead this morning.

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PipkinsPal Sat 30-Nov-13 16:09:36

Barnaby didn't come home on Thursday night and it was totally out of character. I walked around his usual haunts. Up again at 7.45 on Friday to look for him and at 1.30pm when I came home from work - nothing. I later on went around the houses asking if anyone had seen him - nothing. This morning at 8 I had a telephone call from a lady who lives around the corner to say she could see him and he looked injured. I went to where he was and he was dead but he had been horribly mauled probably by a fox. It is tormenting me that he could have crawled away after being injured by a car and a fox killed him and I didn't get to him in time because his little body was still pliable. I buried him in the garden and when I came home an hour ago, someone has put a red rose on his grave. His brother Troy is missing him and I am crying as I write this.

PipkinsPal Mon 02-Dec-13 18:17:19

Harpy I am so sorry for your loss and that you could not bury your beloved Thomas. I did have that small comfort and he is buried in my garden. The message your friend sent you made me cry as did the message about the Rainbow Bridge my friend sent me.

There is a place in heaven called the "Rainbow Bridge".
When an animal that has been especially close to someone here dies, it goes to the Rainbow Bridge.
There are so many meadows and hills for all of our special friends, so that they can run and play together.
There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable .
They are happy and content, except for one small thing: they each feel the absence of someone very special, someone they had to leave behind ...
They all run and play together, but one day one of them suddenly stops and looks away. His bright eyes are intent, trembling with impatience; it suddenly breaks away from the group and starts to run faster and faster.
You have been spotted, and when you meet at last you cling together in a joyful embrace, never to be parted again.
Your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look back into its trusting eyes, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.
Then you together will cross the rainbow bridge...

HarpyFishwifeTwat Mon 02-Dec-13 17:47:32

So, so sorry about your lovely Barnaby. I had a similar experience with my gorgeous Thomas earlier this year. A neighbour saw him dead in her garden and by the time she got down he was being carried off by a fox - we never found him. I did ever so much reading at the time and it's almost certain that he was killed instantly by the car that hit him - most cats hit by cars are.

Foxes won't tend to go for an animal that is still alive, even injured. I'm certain that both your Barnaby and my Thomas died quickly and without pain and then were taken by the foxes. I know how much you are hurting, it's the hardest thing I've ever gone through but please try to be kind to yourself and hopefully you can find a bit of comfort in a message a friend sent me:

They're not 'just cats', they're the wee people we share our lives with. It helps to look at it the following way - there was not a day since you got him that he ever felt, hungry, or unloved and he had a warm welcoming house to come back to after his adventures. He was a wee adventurer, out doing what he enjoyed, living his wee life, knowing he had his own wee spots in the house to go back to, when he died. And it would have been sudden, no deterioration in health, no slow ebb of life, and no pain.

PipkinsPal Mon 02-Dec-13 16:34:16

Thanks for the kind messages. Troy is slowly getting there. I bought him a squeaky, mousey, feathery thing today and he perked up. Wasn't so bothered by the Dreamies but I suppose he could do with losing a good few pounds. Me, every so often I remember something about Barnaby that makes me cry, he would meow for me to blow bubbles for him, another meow for his laser pen. Another meow for a bowl of water in the bath. I had the kitchen window open last night and was waiting for him to scramble through it but of course it never happened and now never will. Troy is too fat to even jump on a chair. It made me cry this morning when I let Troy out and he ducked his head to look under my car to see if he could see his brother and playmate. I expect my tears will soon be replaced by smiles when I think of Barnaby. He was a special cat, full of character and I only had the pleasure of his company for 3 years. He will be missed and forever loved.

I'm so sorry xx

I'm so very sorry xx

gordyslovesheep Sun 01-Dec-13 16:47:27

oh how sad sad I'm sorry for your loss sad

NearTheWindmill Sun 01-Dec-13 14:13:09

>>>hugs<<< thanks

Petal02 Sun 01-Dec-13 14:06:30

I'm so sorry to read this. I agree with the posters who think he most likely died instantly, and knew absolutely nothing about it, and was then moved by the fox.

Big hugs.

Putitonthelist Sun 01-Dec-13 13:08:00

So sorry to hear about your loss OP, my heart goes out to you. ((Hugs)) x

timtam23 Sat 30-Nov-13 23:46:30

So very sorry to hear about Barnaby thanks

TheNunsOfGavarone Sat 30-Nov-13 21:56:29

I'm so sorry to hear about your lovely boy Barnaby. Losing them hurts so much and these circumstances sound particularly sad. Huge sympathy to you and your family.

MrsBradfield Sat 30-Nov-13 20:46:08

So so sorry for your loss. sad

bumbumsmummy Sat 30-Nov-13 18:38:22

Oh pipkins so sorry for your loss

I'm crying for you sad. Much love to you and Troy

ThistledownAndCobweb Sat 30-Nov-13 18:18:49

I'm so sorry.

TamzinGrey Sat 30-Nov-13 18:04:53

I am so sorry Pipkins. Please don't torment yourself about how he died. Cozie is right - the most likely scenario is that poor Barnaby was killed in the road instantly, and then dragged away by a fox.

fackinell Sat 30-Nov-13 17:54:25

So so sorry, Pipkins. It's terribly sad to lose our beloved pets. The foxes around my way were pretty scared of other animals and people. I doubt they would have gone for Barnaby if he had still been alive (even with an injury.) Give Troy and extra big hug and know you gave Barnaby a great life and cared enough to look for him at every opportunity. thanks

Brussel Sat 30-Nov-13 17:44:28

I'm so sorry to hear this, my thoughts are with you

Very sorry Pipkins. thanks

EustaciaVye Sat 30-Nov-13 17:39:53

sad please dont torment yourself any further. It sounds like Barnaby was very much loved and he would have had a very good life because of that.

Go and buy a plant in flower at the moment so each year it will flower and remind you what a lovely part of the family he was.

cozietoesie Sat 30-Nov-13 16:35:51

You did everything you could. And the fact that his body had been moved is neither here nor there - a fox could have dragged it there from the side of the road. Don't torment yourself.

What a lovely thing from one of your neighbours - he was obviously much loved.

SummerRain Sat 30-Nov-13 16:33:02

I'm so sorry flowers

Please don't torment yourself with 'what if's', you did everything you could have.

PipkinsPal Sat 30-Nov-13 16:31:00

Thanks for your kind messages. I don't think he was killed instantly by a car because where I found him he wasn't there when I looked for him earlier. sad That's why I am tormenting myself that I could have hunted for him in the undergrowth and found him and got him the care he needed. I don't know who left the rose. It was probably one of my neighbours, Sue or Rose a lovely gesture.

talulahbelle Sat 30-Nov-13 16:27:42

I'm so so sorry for you loss. Hugs and look after yourself.

BananaNotPeelingWell Sat 30-Nov-13 16:27:20

sad Im so so sorry. Your poor boy. Poor you and Troysad. He sounds an incredibly loved and special friend.

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