Devastated

[boba82]

My wee baby Max died yesterday. My husband accidentally ran him over on way to work and he died pretty much instantly although in DH's arms. The grief is overwhelming and I'm finding it hard to cope with, it is no different to the pain of losing my mum two years ago.

He was only 3 and has left a gaping hole in our wee family. We got him when we were struggling to conceive and he helped me through so many bad times during that period. We now also have a DS who is 2 and Max was his best friend. The pain of having to explain to him several times today that Max has gone away is breaking my heart.

I have been trying to keep a lot of emotion in as DH is already distraught and I do not want to add to his guilt. It was a complete accident and I don not blame him at all, just want my cat back home with us!

Felt the only place I could vent was here as people think we're stupid for being so upset over a cat but he was so much more than that to us

[cozietoesie]

Of course he was - he was one of your family.

Poor Max and poor everybody.

[29chapel]

So sorry to hear that. Horrible when you lose a pet. Thinking of you and your family x

[out2lunch]

I understand completely poor max so sad xx

[roseblanche]

Knowing your pain...sending hugs. He had a lovely life and that is much more than lots of poor little pussies get. xx

[SecretNutellaFix]

You loved him. It's as simple as that.

Sorry for all of you.

[Fluffycloudland77]

That's possibly the worst way to lose a cat. You poor woman.

I'm so sorry.

[theboutiquemummy]

Oh boba no words so sorry

[issey6cats]

a big hug for you xx

[timtam23]

Oh how awful for you all. Your poor DH must be feeling terrible. So so sorry.

[Putitonthelist]

So sorry My heart goes out to you all (((hugs)))

[firstpost]

So heartbreaking for you all :(

It's okay to grieve, he was part of your family

So sorry

[Pancakeflipper]

Oh Boba. Hugs to you all.

[NettoSuperstar]

So sorry for you xxx

[TamzinGrey]

Oh you poor poor thing. I'm so sorry for you, also your DS and your poor DH, who must be feeling terrible. Many years ago, long before we met, my DH had a similarly awful experience when he killed his family kitten, who had sneaked up under the wheel arch of his car. He still feels bad about it.

[marriedinwhiteisback]

So sorry to hear about your loss. Crikey - how's your DH feeling

[boba82]

Thank you everyone for your kind words. It is a comfort to know others feel the same about their cats. Just such a lonely home without him even with a toddler about! x x x

[Italiangreyhound]

So sorry. Cats do seem to get everywhere and it is so sad.

[Wolfiefan]

I used to work with someone who did exactly the same thing. Dreadful accident. We lost a boy cat after a hit and run. So so sad. They really worm their way into your family and your hearts.
I don't care if this is MN. HUGS!!

[bootsycollins]

Oh bo I'm so sorry, how awful. Big hugs to you, dh and ds xxx

[CanucksoontobeinLondon]

Oh, you poor thing! That is indeed devastating. Poor Max, and poor you and your DH and DS. I am so sorry.

And anybody who says you shouldn't be so upset because it's "just" a cat can just fuck right off. Max was part of your family, of course you're grieving.

[Megbeth]

So sorry to hear that. Thinking of you. It's been nearly a year since I lost my 15 yr old cat & I still miss her so much.

[Flumpf]

So sorry about your little cat. My mum accidently ran over one of our cats years ago. It can happen so easily but it is so sad. Sending gentle hugs for you and your family.

[Petal02]

Our cat is a much-loved family member, and I too would be devastated in your position. Hugs x

[Theresadogonyourballs]

I'm so sorry, you poor thing, and your poor DH.
Ignore anyone who says 'it's just a cat', how heartless, you don't need people like that in your life. They're our babies. Big hugs to all of you .

[DidoTheDodo]

I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your Max.
They aren't pets are they? They're family.