Adopting older cat

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Hello all

As some of you know we lost our lovely elderly tom last weekend. We were planning to adopt eventually, but a friend has asked us to take her beautiful 12-year-old. He's an absolute darling, but is very stressed due to a new baby and the utterly vile neighbours bastards who have been bullying him.

He's been very well looked after and my friend is gutted to be losing him - he's her furbaby sad

Can anyone give me advice about adopting? All my cats have been from kittens.

eggyhead Tue 15-Oct-13 22:11:01

I'm pleased to hear you took him.

Our chap spent 10 months in the rescue centre before we found each other. He was 7 with a few medical problems and not many teeth. He's 10 now and very settled. No medical problems since. He'll probably live until he's 20. It's a very stress free life here!

I've set up a FB group for my friend so am giving her updates. I think he's on our bed, he's subdued a vicious plate of chicken and has had some chicken.

I have a photo of him that was taken a while ago (he's been so stressed he looks a bit like a plucked chicken) that I'll post smile

cozietoesie Tue 15-Oct-13 22:58:50

Shall you let him sleep on/in the bed tonight?

smile

PS - has he used his tray yet? (Always anxiety-making that, even with a grown cat.)

Hi cozie I'd love for him to sleep with us tonight. But he hasn't used the tray yet...

There's a picture on my profile in the 'Roberto' gallery. He was enjoying his new sheepskin bed - which he now hates because he's a cat. You can't really see from the pic but he's a big lad, weighs about 5kg but very fit. And purry, despite being a bit scared.

cozietoesie Tue 15-Oct-13 23:06:24

Ah well. Maybe when the lights go low. Did you get a wee bit of his former (clean) litter to sprinkle on top to guide his keen nose?

He hasn't used litter recently, so sadly not. I'm expecting there may be an accident or two but he does know how to use a tray so...

He's come down for fuss earlier but run upstairs because the dishwasher scared him. He's under our bed with his second bowl of chicken. smile

cozietoesie Tue 15-Oct-13 23:24:32

Hopefully he'll remember - they usually do. (But some of them can be quite sensitive about using it in private without being watched.)

I'd normally be thinking about lifting him into it and holding his paws to do a gentle paw scratch or two but that might be counter productive if he's still a scared boy at the moment. (Huge amounts of chicken notwithstanding.)

Good luck - I hope not too many accidents to face tomorrow morning.

Litter tray has been used smile and he's on the bed. I hope he'll stay there for a bit of tonight at least.

cozietoesie Wed 16-Oct-13 01:49:00

Yay! Good lad. I reckon he'll stay there for a bit at least. Looking forward to your news in the morning.

smile

Fluffycloudland77 Wed 16-Oct-13 07:28:46

I can't open your profile to see the pictures.

SuperiorCat Wed 16-Oct-13 08:06:36

Well done SunshineSuperNova cat!

I can't see your profile

cozietoesie Wed 16-Oct-13 08:08:18

Me neither. I thought last night that it might have been site lag but still no go this morning.

Sunshine - did you save the changes, make photos public and all those good things?

smile

Hello all, I've just changed the privacy settings so you should be able to see it now. The black cat is Roberto (who's currently on the bed after having a good breakfast) and the tabby is my late Oscar.

cozietoesie Wed 16-Oct-13 11:44:11

Saw the pic. (There's just one.) He looks like a happy boy.

Where did he sleep last night?

He slept on the bed for a while smile I think he was spooked by a noise as when we woke up he was under the bed.

He's just scoffed a second bowl of tinned food and is grooming (appropriately, not stress related). We've had a chat and some cuddles.

cozietoesie Wed 16-Oct-13 12:28:20

smile

He seems happy enough then?

Fluffycloudland77 Wed 16-Oct-13 13:01:05

Lovely looking cat, he looks very relaxed there.

The pic is from his original home before the bullying started. He's been so stressed he's been over-grooming so looks a bit naked in patches and is a shadow of his former self. Poor lovely boy.

cozietoesie Wed 16-Oct-13 13:23:54

You've got quite a difficult one ahead of you, I'm afraid. Your friend will likely be pretty conflicted in that she'll want her baby to be well and happy - but maybe not to become too bonded to you etc.

How good a friend is she?

ZebraOwl Wed 16-Oct-13 13:34:09

He looks gorgeous in that pic & it sounds like he's settling in well, yay!

She's a very old friend cozie and we're very close. I was in two minds about saying yes because of that possible issue. We'll have to see how it goes.

I've put his old bedding under our bed and he's been fast asleep for 3 hours - I think it's the first proper sleep he's had since he got here, he's looked a bit tense before.

cozietoesie Wed 16-Oct-13 16:07:07

Aww - a good sleep will make a lot of difference to him. It may be the first proper sleep he's had for a long time let alone since he came to you.

I guess you'll just have to remember to lard your conversations with your friend (and FB posts) with occasional - 'He's happy although I think he's missing his real Mum'. (Without explanation of why you think he's missing her.) That should hopefully help.

He asked me for a tummy rub earlier smile

He seems to be settling in okay which is great. I've just spent hours crying about my old boy (having him here is lovely, but sad too) and my friend does not seem to be speaking to me at the moment.

cozietoesie Sat 19-Oct-13 13:36:22

Is she 'not speaking to you' or simply hasn't been in contact? (If you know.)

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