What started off a lovely morning has gone horribly wrong.
Daughters at nursery and Boyfriend came to pick me and the dog up, to take us park near his house, get a coffee from McDonalds and then back to his for a bit of lunch.
He's got a job interview this afternoon - I didn't mind waiting at his for a bit as he was going to take me nursery later and then onto hospital for a my physio appointment. Happy Days - I thought . . . . .
But when we arrived at his house - his cat was there and was scratching like mad. "Oh no". . . I gasped "has she got fleas?"
He said he had just put a new flea collar on her. So I asked why not frontline her because flea collars are not great? He told me that in the past - she's frothed at the mouth and he's tried about 4x different flea treatments but all made her do the same, so his mum told him not to use them anymore!
His cat is his baby and he lets her roam his house freely and rest her body where ever she wants i.e on his bed.
I told him that I was concerned about picking them up and taking them back home with us and then my cat would get them too and would cost me a fortune in frontline doing both a large dog and cat plus doing the house to get rid of em!
Am I in the wrong here? please advice?
Because I just asked if he cant flea his cat because of her allerys - if mine were to catch them - would he go half's on the frontline treatment? But with that he grabed the dog lead and bundled her and me back into car saying "I better take you both home then" ???
My cat is a house cat that never goes outside and my dog is a shorthaired. I can quite happily say that over the past 7 years - I have only ever had two flea issues and each time I only saw one flea, but I know the old saying "where's there's 1x there's usally a load more" so I would treat them both for a couple of months and then stop because its very rare they ever get them. Also its a pain keeping them away from daughter and vice versa. When I put it on them and I know they haven't got anything. Its simply not worth me wasting my money every month.
But now I have been put into this predicament. . . .
On the journey home, I was very upset as it had ruined the day and said "that means we can never visit or stay over at your house then anymore?" His response was "well that's what you get when you have animals". He also said in that case "he better not come/stay over at my house anymore" because "he likes the cat on his lap - but that he could trek fleas into my house - so will just pick us up from outside the house from now on" ???
He also complained to me that he wouldn't have time to revise and practice for his job interview - and now may not get it. All because he had had to drive us home back. I said please don't put that on me - its unfair, but he just gave me the silent treatment :(
So he dropped us off home and shot back off in his car. He's left me really frustrated and confused :(
Am I the one at fault??
Fleas are non issue in my household - But am I expected to pay for frontline flea treatment's for my cat and dog really?? - just so boyfriend can stay over at my house and vice versa because he wont flea his cat???
If anything I think - he should take his cat to the vet for advice.
And/or since he's the one bringing this problem in the first place - simply offer to pay for my pets flea treatment.
I think I was more than fair offering to go half's on a problem that he's made.
What do you think - please advice?
I just feel sometime that he don't treat me right. He knows that I'm quite a vunerable person because I don't have any friends and little family. I feel that I am easy for him and may take rubbish from him that other women wouldnt because I am lonely. He also gets round me because my daughter thinks he's great and the dog love him to death too.
I feel like I am in the wrong and being selfish. Even at one point on the drive home I said I was sorry. But there a little voice inside me telling me I'm in the right.
Any thoughts or advice on this situation would be very helpful please?
Thank you
Donna
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Donnaslayer · 07/08/2013 12:57
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