Thanks for the idea. We don't have a spare room to do that with plus the letting agent would cotton on then that our cat is ruining the flat and we'd be out in no time.
As it happens, we got a message today from the great cat rehabilitation lady that she now has a space for our cat and she will be going there this week. We didn't approach her saying "We want rid of the cat" , we asked her what to do about the pissing and she said that there was nothing else we could do and since it's taking over DH's life she offered to take her in. We're confident that cat lady will be able to help our pee cat. We'll just be setting up a standing order so her rescue doesn't have to pay out extra to keep her. We're not trying to run away from our responsibilities, we just can't cope anymore.
We're sad to see her go but at the same time it's an utter relieve. Honestly, there are areas where the piss has soaked into the underlayer of the carpet and even into the concrete. We had to paint it in as that was the only way to stop the smell and then put new underlay down. Imagine being a landlord and finding out about that....
i dont know what to suggest i have one who pees not because shes traumatised but cos shes a lazy moo but she always does it in the same place and smirks at me, and like you i rent so am paranoid about it could you maybe take the carpet up in the spare room and put lino down in there so if she does pee in there its easier to clean and put her in there at night, would that work turn the spare room into a cat room with her bed and tray in there
We feel bad about this btw, we are experienced cat adopters but we have tried to work at this for over a year now and it has reached a point where DH sleeps in the spare room to keep the cat company (she's less anxious then) and to take her to the toilet at night. He says he can't go on so I feel that I have to support him as he bears the brunt of the cat work.
She is purely indoor with a litter tray. The CPL claimed she was outdoor but she really isn't. I wouldn't be surprised if she had never been outdoors and the old owners dumped her claiming they found her. Or maybe she was indeed a stray as they say and something very traumatising happened outside.
Not tried Zylkene. Will find out about it.
We also live as quiet as you can imagine. Small town, cul-de-sac, the neighbours have one foot in the grave that's how old they are.
The issue is that we rent our home and it has carpets. There is only so much cat piss it can take before we get kicked out and our children are losing their home. Because once she has the bladder infection, she pees everywhere. If we find it immediately, good. we drench it in vinegar, we are pros now. But often we don't notice right away and then the smell makes her pee in those places more.
This is the rescue that DCat is hopefully going to. They really work wonders. If not, she can stay there or go to one of their fosterers that are more equipped to deal with the pee. We would stick with her for a lot longer, if we had our own home but we don't so the pee is a huge issue.
you say she is scared of even small noises outside, thats major as no home is totally silent outside, even where i live in a cul de sac with no houses only factories round it has cars going in and out and children playing outside , how would another home be any better for her, she would still have the same phobias, is there any way the vet could maybe give her a cat version of some sort of valium, so she wasnt so anxious, dont know what to suggest one of mine is nervous but not to that degree , is she an indoor/outdoor cat, because if she is maybe getting a litter tray and keeping her indoors will calm her down, shes obviously had a major trauma outside at some point before you adopted her
I don't trust the CPL, that's where we got her from. They had no clue. Think the kind of shelter I'm looking for is really rare so might have to keep hoping for our trusted one. We're apparently right at the top of the waiting list, but they specialise in abused cats and hand rearing kittens so there are always bigger emergencies of really ill and starving cats.
Thanks. We have been gassing the cat with Feliway for months! It seemed to help for a couple of weeks and then not anymore.
If I can't find a shelter I'm happy with, we'll keep her until we get a place in the good rescue we know.
She keeps giving herself urine infections because she gets scared by noises outside and then hides and holds in her pee. She is not scared of anything inside, just the outside. The smallest noise sets her off.
We have now resorted to take her to the toilet a few times a day and this way she goes and doesn't give herself infections...
if you go onto the website catchat.org a map comes up and you can get details and phone numbers of rescues near you, and by phoning them maybe find one that fulfils yours and the cats needs,
have you tried feliway plug ins they are supposed to be good for anxious cats, and specialised rehab centers are few and far between, as most rescues are totally overloaded so dont have the time and money to keep cats for maybe months while they sort out issues,
you will find that a cat with major problems will be a long way down a waiting list especially at this time of year as its full on kitten season with most rescues full to the brim at centers and foster homes will be at stretch too and they have to go back to centers at certain ages for kits then mums have to be rehomed aswell, people abandoning cats cos they off on hols,, this time of year is a nightmare time for all rescues
We have to re-home our cat. We adopted her about a year and a half ago but she has anxiety issues that have become too big for us to tackle. We don't know her background, the rescue we got her from said she was a stray but I'm not sure. They clearly didn't know the cat at all as we are a really bad match for her needs. We are on the waiting list of one rescue that is great and focuses on rehabilitation of cats with issues but we have been waiting for a long time now.
We are experienced cat adopters so are not taking this decision lightly but it is in both, ours and the cat's best interest to find a home that is better suited for her.
So, does anyone know of any reputable, no kill rescues that make sure their cats are well matched to the adopters?