Need help with rehoming a dog

(63 Posts)
ProtegeMoi Fri 14-Feb-14 17:11:54

I have been desperately trying to rehome my lovely, well behaved dog for the last 2 months with no luck and things are getting worse so I'm really struggling.

I don't want to rehome him privately so have contacted every rescue centre in my area, offered to make a donation to cover his care and understood they will not be able to help immediately but I'm getting nowhere. So many don't even answer the phone, or return messages. One asked me to email and have never responded to the email, or the subsequent messages left.

I'm starting to feel like privately rehoming him is the only option but I wanted to guarantee him a good home and I don't know how I can do that this way.

Does anyone have any other suggestions? It's breaking my heart to have to let him go so I just want what is best for him.

nuttymutty1 Fri 14-Feb-14 17:30:21

What type of dog and why are you rehoming?

Doodledumdums Fri 14-Feb-14 17:42:18

Slightly different situation, but we rehomed our cat because sadly our dog developed allergies to her and as they adored each other, cuddling up together was making him poorly. We rehomed her privately, and were really specific about who could have her and we asked for £100 which we donated to an animal charity of their choice. We even refused to allow two people to have her as we weren't sure they were right for her. We got regular updates and photos for the first year and are totally happy that she is absolutely doted on and has another feline friend. So I think that private rehoming can work, you just have to trust who you are rehoming them to. We advertised her at work and at our local vets to (hopefully) ensure that nice people saw our advert!

What makes you need to rehome him?

StoorieHoose Fri 14-Feb-14 17:43:29

Have you contacted breed specific rescues?

ProtegeMoi Fri 14-Feb-14 17:52:25

Sorry I should have added that information in. He's a rottie , small for his breed but absolutely stunning. Coming up to 4 years old and is a lovely dog. We are rehoming him as my son, who is autistic, has begun to worsen as he ages (and the hormones kick in) and a result of that is he is attacking the dog.

We initially dealt with it by installing safety gates around the home, which whilst it sadly meant the dog was restricted it kept him safe. This is no longer working as my son has learnt to open them and whiles I would love to say I can keep them separate at all times (and do my absolute best to) having other children means it isn't always physically possible.

Even when my son dosn't get to the dog the screaming we regularly have from him and throwing things etc. scares the dog and he often cowers in his bed.

I feel like I'm making my son out to be a monster here, which he isn't. He's a loving little boy but sadly his disabilities mean he has uncontrolled fits of rage and it's got to the point where the poor dog is terrified and on edge all the time. He has even stated cowering when my son simply walks past.

It's breaking my heart because I feel like I've failed him, he's such a lovely dog and is part of the family but when I can't guarantee his safety, and it's clearly having a negative effect on him it seems the fairest thing to do is rehome him.

Also to the poster who asked yes I have tried breed specific rescues, the one that said they could help and asked me to email is one of them, they have since ignored all contact from me however. I sent them photos of him cuddled up with kids, cats, dogs etc. to show what a lovely temperament he has and how he gets along with all animals as well as giving them his full history and offering to make a payment to cover his care within the rescue but it seems to have made no difference.

Whoknowswhocares Fri 14-Feb-14 18:45:43

Where did he come from originally?
If a breeder, have you contacted them? Reputable ones will take a dog back or help with rehoming

ProtegeMoi Sat 15-Feb-14 07:25:53

No it wasn't a breeder, we rehomed him privately when he was 6 months old.

I've rang round every single rescue again in the last few days and no one is willing to help us. We have tried to do the right thing and there is simply no support. My partner now wants to take him to the local pound, I don't as I know they rehome to anyone who happens to turn up but I can't see. Something has to be done and fast though, I can see the dog growing more nervous by the day around my son and my experience tells me it's all red flags for a bite risk. If he bites he will be put to sleep, I don't want to allow him to be put in that situation but the rescues who are supposed to care about dogs don't seem to care.

LtEveDallas Sat 15-Feb-14 07:38:58

Have you tried Many Tears in Camarthenshire? What area are you in, could local MNers help find Rescues etc?

What about asking at the vets? My friend has homed a couple of dogs that her vet told her about. Your vet would probably know the most 'doggie' people that use them.

You are right to be worried about the pound. Likelihood is that the dog would go to the 'wrong' home or be PTS.

Rescues DO care, but most are run entirely by volunteers, on a shoestring and at this time of the year (post- Christmas) are inundated with dogs. You need to keep trying. Most rescues prioritise (rightly) dogs that are in imminent danger of PTS in pounds or high risk relinquishments.

Try Iron Mountain rescue - they specialise in large breeds.
Rottweiler Rescue Trust - here
Rottweiler Welfare www.rottweilerwelfare.co.uk/

Try Hope Rescue - they are all breed but quite large and very reputable.

Depending on where you are you may have a good all breed rescue near you - may be worht a try, though I'd keep working with breed rescues in preference.

Things that will help her to be rehomed quickly. Mention that she is spayed, chipped and has an up to date vaccination/worming record, and is in good physical health.
Describe any regular training she has done, how she walks on the lead, if she can be left, how she travels, behaviour with other dogs and other people.

Be willing to transport the dog yourself to either a rescue's kennel or to a foster home. Make this clear, and also make it clear you will be making a donation to help with their expenses.

dawnpreview Sat 15-Feb-14 09:57:42

Try www.zepthedep.co.uk
Tel: 01246 580311/07867 680538
This is a Rottweiler rescue that we used when we had to rehome our rottie a few years back.
Very good, and very helpful.

ProtegeMoi Sat 15-Feb-14 10:30:24

I am in the north west, will try some of links I have been given.

Zepthedep are the ones that are now ignoring me. They told me they could help but there was a waiting list which is fine, asked me to email all his details and photos and they will call me back. Never heard from them since, have sent emails and left voicemails but no response.

LadyTurmoil Sat 15-Feb-14 10:50:46

There is also a group on FB https://www.facebook.com/groups/MASTIFFGD/ dealing with large breed dogs in rescues needing homes.

Join the group, post your situation there with a picture and see what happens. Can't guarantee reputation of people on there but it may help.

Owllady Sat 15-Feb-14 15:12:42

Have you had a home visit/assessment off camhs regarding this issue?

ProtegeMoi Sat 15-Feb-14 18:19:15

Regarding the dog? We have regular CAHMS visits to help with controlling my sons behaviour but not relating to the dog, just the anger he displays in general.

noddingoff Sat 15-Feb-14 22:01:52

Yes it's worth asking your vet - they might be able to ring a couple of their really good Rottie owners to get the word out. Explain the situation with your son - that's as genuine a reason for rehoming as anyone could have.
Pound is really last last resort- sadly big black and tan dogs aren't often rehomed and most get euthanased after their 5 days or 7 days or whatever it is.
If you really have to get him out of the house and can afford it, you could put him in boarding kennels for some respite. You might be lucky and find one that runs alongside a behaviourist who runs obedience classes or something like that who might have contacts to help rehoming.
Good luck, really hope you get sorted.

miserablemoo Sat 15-Feb-14 22:14:07

Pendle Dogs in Need.

dayshiftdoris Sat 15-Feb-14 22:35:19

I just wanted to say OP that I absolutely know where you are coming from.

My beautiful JRT has developed a noise phobia since living with us and she is petrified when she senses that my son is on one and will hide... It's the reason she has a crate as she hides in there. She has been in the cross fire more than once.

However, she will still cuddle up to him and wants to play with him. Today he walked in with my friend who she loves and she chose to follow my son before saying hello to my friend... If I wasn't seeing that I would be seriously thinking about re homing her hmm

I hope you find someone. Do it privately - I have seen a number of successful private rehoming and you can check the people out, though charge a fee so you don't attract the wrong sort

Owllady Sun 16-Feb-14 12:45:41

I don't know how useful camhs are in your area, but would it be worth discussing it with your ld nurse, I know it won't help short term but generally they have come across everything before
I am sorry if you felt I was blunt, I have intermittent connection because if the bloody weather. But I do sympathise, it's a very difficult situation to find yourself in.

LadyTurmoil Sun 16-Feb-14 13:30:16

There is a lady on FB looking for a rottie for a friend. Her name is Wendy Botto. She's a fosterer for Many Tears Dog Rescue. Her friend might have found one already but her post is on "I can give a Dog a Home" FB group here.

Might be worth posting your details there anyway for other interested parties.

Noodles123 Sun 16-Feb-14 14:27:05

Hi OP - is the dog good with cats/other dogs and is he reliable off lead? I do know someone who might know who could help - long way from you and usually fosters bigger mastiff types but worth asking, however he does have cats and other small animals/hens/horses etc running around!

ProtegeMoi Sun 16-Feb-14 18:46:59

Lady thanks will check her now.

Noodles he is brilliant with cats, we have one and they snuggle up in bed together. Plus we used to foster cats so he's used to star he ones coming in and out the house etc. same with dogs, gets along both males and females of all sizes. Small critters he ignores and has no interest in. I couldn't say about horses though as he's never actually met one.

In terms of being off lead, he can be a bit hit or miss. We often walk him with another dog who has amazing recall and so when the other dog is called back he copies and comes back as well. If he's being walked alone he isn't quite as reliable, he will come back but tends to have a quick potter round before slowly making his way back to you sniffing everything he finds on the way. In an enclosed space, garden etc. he always comes back. Plus he will do anything for a treat so we always carry them.

ProtegeMoi Sun 16-Feb-14 18:51:59

Wendy thinks her friend has found one now, but looking for a female anyway and Zeus is male sad

Advertised him on another site as well and just checked messages to find they all want to know if he is a good guard dog or unneutered sad

So hard to find him a good home with people like that around.

Noodles123 Sun 16-Feb-14 19:31:57

Ah he sounds exactly like my beloved Rottie we lost at Christmas - he did exactly the same re recall - he would always come... In his own time!! Sadly we have a 5 week old baby and a one year old dog so just couldn't cope with another but I will ask the chap I know who fosters mastiff types from a few local pounds.
Hope you find someone for him sad

nuttymutty1 Sun 16-Feb-14 19:41:42

Please please do not rehome privately. Dog fighters, dog baiters all get dogs from private rehoming, they will lie and set up fack homes for you to visit etc.

It may be harder but do keep contacting the rescues. Rescues do not have receptionists waiting to take the calls, the staff will be out with the dogs and answer calls when they can, keep calling your dog deserves a safe home.

Also the situation you find yourself in because you rehomed privately could happen again to the poor dog but if you rehome to a rescue they will look after him for live.

Queen0fFeckingEverything Sun 16-Feb-14 19:50:03

How is he with small children and sheep (serious question! )

ProtegeMoi Mon 17-Feb-14 00:38:10

I know this nutty but I've spent 2 months contacting rescues and getting nowhere, the situation gets worse day by day so I have no choice! What else can i do?

If things continue must longer he WILL bite, the fact he hasn't so far is amazing and shows his good temperament because I would have certainly defended myself by now.

ProtegeMoi Mon 17-Feb-14 00:40:37

Queen - small children amazing! I have an 18 month old and he lies on the floor so she can reach to stroke him, passes her toys when she chucks them and licks yoghurt off her fingers to make her laugh. Sheep I have no idea, he's never met one.

excitedmummytobe Mon 17-Feb-14 16:29:49

It must be a difficult situation to be in. If you have to go down the private sell route then perhaps sell to someone whos home you could visit to vet them first? could provide reassurance after all iv never understood how people just let someone come and pick up their dog. how do you know they even have a suitable home?!

ProtegeMoi Tue 18-Feb-14 01:10:13

This is what I'm so scared of, and why I have spent months trying to find him a rescue place.

I've contacted so many now, told them I'm happy to wait for a space, offered to make a donation to cover all his costs while finding him a home, offered to keep him with me while they find him a home. Everything I can think of and none have been willing to help. It seems like they only help the people threatening to throw dogs onto the street to put them asleep rather than people who genuinely want the best for their dogs, it's very sad.

Spoke to yet another breed specific rescue today who told me he is too old for them to take, he's not even 4 yet, how can that be too old?

Dirtybadger Tue 18-Feb-14 01:25:53

Try joining dogpages (.org.uk) and posting a private rehoming "ad". Firstly people from rescue may see it and offer to help, secondly more genuine folk than on other sites use it and thirdly you can find advice on the safest private rehoming possible.

Eastpoint Tue 18-Feb-14 08:21:13

Black retrieverX might be able to help you, they specialise in black dogs as they are often hard to rehome. This is their website http://www.blackretrieverx.co.uk/Black_Retriever_X_Rescue/Home.html

They are also on facebook

minkersmum Tue 18-Feb-14 09:06:29

Apologies if someone has suggested ig already but what about Dogstrust? Have you tried them?

whatwoulddexterdo Tue 18-Feb-14 09:42:40

Are you in the south?
All sorts dog rescue are brilliant

ProtegeMoi Wed 19-Feb-14 16:26:12

Dogs trust? Aren't they a pound not a rescue? Or is it Cheshire dogs home I'm thinking off.

MothershipG Wed 19-Feb-14 16:45:45

NO! Dogs Trust are a big no kill rescue organisation, definitely worth a call.

Dogstrust are huge! Massive charity. And will not put a healthy dog down. I would definitely contact them.

HenriettaPie Wed 19-Feb-14 17:06:51

Hope you get a home sorted

Good luck. flowers

ilovedogsandcats Sat 22-Feb-14 17:02:41

Have you tried Homeless Hounds in Preston?

chocaholic73 Sun 23-Feb-14 13:23:56

Try here http://www.k9interventions.co.uk/index.html - they take dogs from all over so don't be put off by them not being near to you. DH takes our dog training with them and they really care. May be able to advise you if nothing else.

ProtegeMoi Thu 27-Feb-14 00:08:23

I seem to have exhausted every option and getting nowhere sad

It's soul destroying to realise there is no help out there. So called rescues have advised me he is too old at 4, they can't rehome males, to dump him somewhere as then they will have to take him as abandoned and even to put him to sleep!

It's looking like the pound is the only option left but that will destroy me to have to do that, him suffering eventually biting my son and losing his life as a result will destroy me more however. I just don't know what to do anymore. This is hard enough already.

nuttymutty1 Thu 27-Feb-14 08:36:39

Ok

Have you registered on dog rescue pages?
Log onto all the facebook pages you can agilitynet, obedience UK, dog training tips, Rottweilers loers, rottweilers UK, Rottweilers Life line etc.

Plaster your dog everywhere.

Make all dogs owners see his face on at least a couple of pages. Don't put him in a pound he will have a week of captivity and then be PTS.

Did you try Dogstrust?

It doesn't sound like your dog will bite, he sounds lovely enough to give a warning snap, and you sound lovely enough to be vigilant and be aware of his warning communications.

Agilitynet often have adverts on for rehomes, put as much information on as you can, some pictures, explain the situation.

If you keep posting, I am sure folk will come up with ideas.

sebsmummy1 Thu 27-Feb-14 09:20:01

Ok, if it were me and I had exhausted all avenues I would approach your local newspaper(s).

You have a very genuine and sad reason for rehoming what sounds like a gorgeous dog with a fabulous temperament. I also think it highlights the situation with so many animal charities and rehoming centres at the moment. Donations dropping, demand rising. I wonder if off the back of a newspaper article you may be inundated with offers for help.

Certainly worth a try. I'm sure your local paper would have a website. I would ring the articles section.

Good luck xx

minkersmum Thu 27-Feb-14 09:21:05

I also agree that these pages like nuttymutty1 suggests are worth a try.

I am on one for bc's and they often have rescues and they are rehomed/fostered fairly quickly.

There has to be someone out there.

Why would a rescue tell you to dump him somewhere? Thats really helpful hmm

Owllady Thu 27-Feb-14 09:26:40

Bizarrely I thought of yesterday when I saw an advertisement poster for ARAS, Bedford. Have you tried them?

Owllady Thu 27-Feb-14 09:30:30
kilmuir Thu 27-Feb-14 09:34:49

? Large breed dog rescue

misdee Thu 27-Feb-14 09:52:09

Try heathlands in Royston. They are slow at replying, but please keep calling.

Driveway Thu 27-Feb-14 09:54:33

What about getting a trainer in to help him deal with your son for now, if it's getting worse by the day?

Hi Op, I've spoken to a friend I have (who's not on mn), and will pm you her advice. She does emphasise to not touch touch Cheshire Dogs Home with a barge pole, as they are a pound, and your lovely boy deserves so much better.

ProtegeMoi - I heartily recommend the Dogs' Trust - we got our second dog from them. She was over 4 at the time we got her, and she was by no means the oldest dog in Glasgow Dogs' Trust at the time.

They were amazing - they couldn't have done more to make sure we were the best fit for her, and vice versa.

The problem for the rescues is that they are overwhelmed with dogs needing rehoming. On one of our visits to our local Dogs' Trust, we met a chap in the car park - he had two huskies, that he had rehomed for a friend, but it hadn't worked out, and he needed to surrender them for rehoming. Dogs' Trust Glasgow was full up at the time, and had a waiting list, as had every other rehoming charity or rescue he had tried.

ProtegeMoi Thu 27-Feb-14 20:28:11

Thank you for the advice, few more options there for me to try and a huge thanks to the poster who has messaged me some contacts, will keep trying!

I'm not going to put him in a pound don't worry, I know all too well what his fate will be.

To the poster who suggested a trainer, he is a very well behaved dog, has been through training and has no behavioural issues. I don't believe any trainer can teach a dog to deal with abuse and why should they, no dog should have to deal with that but I am physically powerless to stop it.

When I say it is getting worse, I mean the dog withdrawing. He cowers when people shout, when people approach too quickly. I am working with him a lot and spending huge amounts of time with him when my son is in bed to ensure he knows he can still trust people and of course I am keeping them seperated as much as humanly possible.

Is it possible that a trainer could help improve the relationship between your son and the dog?

Whoknowswhocares Thu 27-Feb-14 21:53:43

SDT
The OP's son is autistic and physically attacking the dog as his condition worsens! It's not a fault of either of them but to suggest a trainer could help their relationship makes me wonder if you've actually read the thread?

OP. I have no advice but want to wish you every success in rehoming your dog

Yes, I have actually read the thread - there's no need to be unpleasant.

ProtegeMoi Fri 14-Mar-14 19:34:20

Well still no success sad

Lost all faith that any rescue will help now, it seems I'm just watching things get worse and waiting until Zeus reacts and loses his life.

Feeling very defeated right now

I've offered £100 to the rescues, I've offered to keep him here while they find him a home, I've offered to drive him to virtually anywhere in the UK and nothing is good enough.

Floralnomad Fri 14-Mar-14 20:41:46

Have you no family that would take him if you paid them keep ?

OP, I'm sorry you are still struggling. However, it's difficult to know what else to suggest without knowing which rescues you've already tried. Three more suggestions for you. Hope Rescue, Lizzie's Barn and you could also try Iron Mountain who specialise in large breeds.

Also have you tried Poplar Farm or Many Tears?

ProtegeMoi Sat 15-Mar-14 00:14:19

Not tried lizzies barn, will call them in the morning. The rest have all said no.

nuttymutty1 Sat 15-Mar-14 08:40:59

Link to your posting on dog rescue pages and I can bump/promtote that for you

miserablemoo Sat 15-Mar-14 11:43:37

Hi
Did you try pendle dogs in need? They do fantastic work but they are very busy. They rehomed a rottie girl a few weeks ago and have a list of pre checked homes waiting for the right dog. They are on facebook and have their own website. Please do try them if you haven't already. They all have full time jobs and families though whilst saving these dogs (they have had a couple of dogs they have found in very bad conditions due to being used as bait dogs. Heart breaking to see but they work tirelessly with them and find new homes)

Good luck.

LadyTurmoil Sat 15-Mar-14 11:46:32

have you got FB? You could try posting on https://www.facebook.com/groups/MASTIFFGD/ They are not a rescue but a group who try to find homes for larger breeds. Good luck

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