How to move on from losing the best dog ever ...(59 Posts)
After losing our darling boy in may (staffy who had cancer aged 12) We were so upset and didn, t think we would get over the heart break
After much deciding we got our new staffy boy puppy in august , he is s darling and we both love him lots but its just not helping how I thought it would .
dh seems to love him unconditionaly but I can, t help thinking about our old boy and how much smarter and better behaved he was as a pup .
I was looking at photos of old dog yesterday and said to dh "what happened to old boys kong"
Went to let new pup in from garden and he had old boys kong in his mouth , he must have found it in the garden
Did make me smile .
But how do you ever get over loosing a dog , I would give anything for just some time again with our special boy ...,, I love and miss him do much .
probably don, t help myself as have only pics of old boy on my phone and tablet .
dh seems content with our new pup but for me he could never reach the standard as extra special dog
Can fully understand how you feel Furbaby. My girl is 2 and half so hopefully has many years ahead of her, but I can never imagine getting another dog ever. I love her so much and she's so special to me. All her funny little ways, the things she does and the way she seems to read my mind, can't imagine another dog ever coming near her.
And that's the thing, you won't replace your old dog. He'll always be special to you and have a special place in your heart and memory and you're not doubt still mourning him. You're never going to stop loving him, in the same way you wouldn't stop loving a beloved human you'd lost.
It's still very early days with your new pup and you're still getting to know him. Remember it takes quite a while to bond with a dog and to feel like he's part of your family and your life. The first months, and even first year or so, are hard work. Give it time and I'm sure you'll love this one too. As I say, he won't replace your old lovely boy, but I'd bet you'll love him in time, just in a different way.
I lost my beloved old girl last December. We re homed a new dog just a few weeks later. I cared for her immediately but did not bond properly for a good 6 months or so. Now I love the new dog dearly. If pushed I would choose to swap her for the old dog still, but those feeling get less and I do feel bonded to her now.
I had a lovely photo canvas of the old dog done and a matching one of the new dog and that helps seeing them 'together' on the wall if that doesn't sound too crazy.
I had massive guilt swapping my wallpaper picture from old dog to new dog. Now I seem to flip between the 2. And sometimes dd too .
But you sound totally normal. Give it time and you'll learn to love new dog for him, but never forgetting or loving less your old boy
You don't get a replacement, but someone different. Take pleasure in the differences, because to be very similar would be more painful.
Thank you so much for your helpful replys ...
pigsDOfly yes it is early days and I forget that , I kind of expected to have the same bond straight away
bounty I am sorry to hear of your loss .
thats a nice idea to get a canvas of both of yours ,I did get a double frame so I could put a picture of both in there .
it makes me sad that they didn't ever meet .
lonecat your right I need to enjoy the differences , I tend to think how much better old boy was as a pup but when I think about it new pup is easier in some ways ,
he is less demanding and can entertain himself better
I once met a man who bred PRTs, he'd had dozens of dogs through his hands, and a series of dearly loved pet PRTs. But there was one dog he'd had that was just so special to him that he had dedicated his website to that dog. He spoke of him as being even cleverer, even more in tune with him than all the other clever PRTs he'd known. He was clearly still in love with this dog years after he had died. No other dog could match up to him.
It was very touching. I'm sure your new pup will continue to grow on you. You will build up a repetoire of memories, anecdotes, etc around the new dog and find ways in which he is unique, not a pale copy of the old dog. Then perhaps the two dogs will seem less in competition. You can keep on loving and missing the old dog without loving the new one any the less.
I know exactly how you feel.
Five years ago our beloved dog was PTS. He was fifteen and I loved him more than you can imagine.
We got a rescue dog of the same breed and after a few weeks I was sure we'd made a huge mistake.
The new dog was completely different to my old one (he'd had an awful start in life wnd had sone behaviour issues) and I almost resented him. I certainly didn't love him. I think part of it was the shock of going from an elderly dog to a young energetic one.
DH told me I was being selective in my memories of DogOne but I couldn't help it. I just wanted him back.
Then, after we'd had him three months we were out on a walk and we lost him. It was the middle of winter, freezing cold.
After three hours hunting for him in the dark and cold we found him and I have never been so relieved in my life. I realised that I did love him after all.
Five years on he is the perfect companion. Different to my first dog, but perfect in his own way.
But There again thats so nice that this guy dedicated his website to his loved dog
it does feel like my old boy and new boy are competing .... well its me judging new pup as he has alot to live up to .
omg Parker That must have been so scary when you lost him
I am happy that all went well and he one a place in your hearts .
I do love new boy ( hes snuggled on my lap now ) but I don't love him like I did old boy .
Even after all these months some times I feel all panicky and just need to give my old boy just one last kiss and cuddle .
Thought time would heal but as time goes by its been longer and longer since I have seen him
I felt the same about our old border collie - the best dog in the world, as I often told him.
When he died aged 15, I got a Springer x pup. What a culture shock! To go from the most intelligent, sensible, patient dog (who I swear could understand what we were spelling out in front of him) to a total dingbat loon of a puppy.
It took me a long, long time - probably the best part of a year to 18 months to realise that he is just the right dog for me now.
He is still a total dingbat, and probably always will be since he is a spaniel, but I feel I haven't replaced the collie, just moved on.
(I still chat to his ashes and ask his advice about the pup though!)
furbaby your comment about wanting to give your old boy one more kiss and cuddle made me cry, I lost my little JRT in September and to me she was my special dog and I know exactly how you feel and can remember vividly the day I came home and she had died while I was out.
When I got my little JRT, I had recently lost another dog a month before, and as much as I wanted another dog, at the beginning I found it really hard to bond with the little dog, she was totally different in looks and size from the dog before and I had serious thoughts about keeping her.
Now some 15 years and 5 months on I know now that she was the best little dog with a fantastic temperament and personality and I cant believe I ever thought of letting her go.
I have another old boy (who is also lovely, but in a completely different way) I desperately want another little terrier but am so worried that I will compare the new one to my old girl, so think its best to wait a while.
I think they are all different, and can see now that they help to heal the pain of losing a beloved pet, and I'm sure in time your new boy will be just as precious to you and will give you lots of joy
That did make me smile blackbird
Love the idea of asking old dogs ashes for advise .
we have old boys ashes on shelf in box so I may do the same and see if old boy has any advise for a naughty puppy .
If anyone interested I have photos of our darling old boy , new pup and our very old girl on my profile pictures .
Thanks daisy .
I am so sorry to hear of your loss
That must have been so hard that she died without you .now you have made me cry .
my only comfort was old boy was ready to leave us and was happy when the vet came to do the deed
At least he was on favourite spot on sofa with hubby and I either side holding a paw and sobbing .
I lost my childhood dog in 2006. He was 17.
There still isn't a day that goes by that I don't think of him. From the day he was put to sleep I'd have recurring dreams about being in the vet, the vet starting euthanising him and him fighting back, so we could take him home and he'd never leave us. I still get them now and feel an ache.
I have had other dogs since. I love them, but it's not that all encompassing devotion. They're not as funny, as clever, as well behaved or as naughty as he was.
Those dreams must of been hard Mimsy I feel for you .
Then you wake and realise he is gone
We both could hear old boy coming up to our bed after he had passed then both realising that never again would we hear his doggy footsteps on stairs .
The trouble with dreams is they seem so real then you wake up alone without them again .
Sorry about the sad dreams.
When I first bought a dog as an adult it triggered lots of dreams about the family dog that was killed by a car when I was 16. I kept dreaming that he had been trapped in a box all that time and just jumped out and carried on livving. I was torn between joy at his being back and awful sadness that I had let him be cruelly shut up for 15 years. It was really disorientating to realise I still had such depth of feeling about him.
I get this too! We lost our dog in a really horrible accident and got a new puppy 2 months later. In retrospect, it would have probably been easier to wait a while longer and also not get the same breed of dog, as I was constantly comparing them at first, always to the detriment of puppy.
But, as they say, time heals. And I would never be without puppy now. He is very different in temperament and looks and, tbh, is far cleverer than Dumb Dead Dog ever was!! But I will always, always have a place in my heart for Dumb, Dead Dog.
Why don't you foster for the meantime? It obviously wouldn't be the same but it would be helping out but without the commitment of a "forever dog" until you're sure you're ready.
ButThereAgain that must have been have been horrid to dream he had been shut away from you
new dog must have brought him back strongly to your mind .
Zee I am happy that things went well with your new pup sorry but "dumb dead dog " did make me laugh out loud
Thank you lady but we have new pup and I think that has brought back to me how special old boy was .
You never ever forget them - i remember both of my boys, i have pictures of them on the wall - i now have two more dogs who i love just as much, but they are all individuals and i will be devestated when they go. It is a privalige to share our lives with dogs, sadly, it is for far too short a time
Your so right LEM it is a privalige to share our lives with dogs .... but they grow old far too quickly .
Mind you I am not enjoying new pup too much at the moment as he is bouncing off the walls ,
he had his last puppy training class tonight and I think all the being good and quiet has left him with far too much energy .
I would walk him to get rid of his energy but hes scared of the dark and refuses to walk
Hey, just looking on here to seek similar advice. We had to put to sleep my beautiful 6 year jr - phoebe today. She was pure white with just a few spots on her ears and was deaf from birth due to her colouring.
She was so gorgeous and crazy and daft but she got non Hodgkin's lymphoma 2 months ago and has been on chemo. She was in full remission and then a week ago stopped eating and it has spread to her liver.
We had to have her put to sleep this afternoon. It's literally the hardest thing I've ever done. I can't believe she's gone.
We have our 9 year old dog left who is heartbroken and we definitely don't want to get another one. They aren't replaceable. I understand why people get a new pet to help them move on but they are all different.
On no thats terrible bub
My heart goes out to you .
6 years is no age at all you must be devastated.
Its sounds like you tried your hardest to keep phoebe with you longer with the chemo .
your poor 9 year old dog must be wondering where the hell she is .
huge hugs for you
Our darling mischievous Tibetan terrier ran into the road last night. He was only three yo. In his short life he had so many close shaves with death (cars, chocolate poisoning, scavenging) but ....this time his luck ran out. So sad. All happened so suddenly. Can't take in that all that exuberance and vitality has vanished in an instant. I'm too numb with shock to even cry yet........
Sorry to spill and not respond to your OP. Our previous tt was completely different in temperament to this one and for a time I resented his boisterous manner but over time that changed. Life will be so flat without him.
That is so shocking sheperd
to lose a dog with illness is bad enough as you at least can prepare yourself a bit and you have time to say goodbye .
you must be feeling so lost without . My thoughts are with you .
So sorry, furbaby and shepherd and, well, everyone on this thread.
I lost my girl in June. She was my world and she got osteosarcoma - bone cancer. It was the worst thing I think I've ever been through; over the space of 4 weeks she changed from being a happy, lively, wonderful dog, to being dosed up with pain killers and anti inflammatories, and losing the use of her leg, and just looking so sad and tired (and yes, some of that was my projecting my own feelings onto her.)
I got new pup exactly 1 month after losing old girl, although had picked him before I had to have her PTS. It was the only way I could cope with knowing that the end was coming.
Yes I compare him to her, and yes it's been hard, especially as he was so young, and I had the strain of house training, which I never had to do with my girl. But he is so different to her - different size, different temperament. And more than that - he needed me so much. He was 4 months old when he arrived (rescued from Romania and brought over by Action Aid for Animals) and he was so scared after the long journey, and so small, and even despite the lack of training or house training, he needed me so darn much from day one that I had to put my grief to one side for a little while and focus on him.
4 months later I can talk about my old girl without tearing up. I can make the comparisons/discuss the differences and it doesn't feel disloyal. I gave my girl everything I could, and it would be unfair not to do the same for my new boy.
(p.s. your dogs all look gorgeous, furbaby )
Like the gentleman who was mentioned, I too have loved & lost many dogs over the years. My mum was always involved in breeding, showing & judging & my dad trained working sheepdogs, so when my mum died in my teens I just took over her kennels & carried on with the breeding & showing.That was forty years ago so I've had lots of dogs,all of whom have been amazing & special.
I think the best explanation I ever got of how you deal with the loss was from an old lady I used to chat to round the show rings who'd bred dogs for over sixty years. She said when an old one dies the younger ones don't nudge them out of your heart. They snuggle down & make their own, new place in there amongst all the oldies.
Thank you Frettchen think I love the picture of my oldboy In his party hat best he was waiting for his birthday doughnut and he sat for ages while I was farting around witn the camera .
I am sorry that your grieving a special dog too , that must have been so hard to see her going downhill and to lose the use of her legs
How nice to get a dog from Action aid , he must think hes won the lottery living with you after such a crap start to his life .
Yes it took me about 4 months before I did, nt start blubbing every time his name was mentioned
What a lovely thought Aquelen
My favourite dogs snugged uo together in my heart
A lovely image , but now I'm picturing my fearsome dead JRT picking huge fights with my large and clumsy dead spinone about who gets to snuggle up where in my heart. I bet the spinone gets kicked out and has to sleep in my kidney or somewhere else that's not comfy.
Shepherd, I'm so very sorry to hear about your little dog's death. What a terrible shock for you. I still have a memory burnt into me of my mum carrying my poor dog from the roadside. Take care.
And sympathy to all of you on the thread who have lost dogs.
It takes a really long time to get over losing a dog, and the relationship took years to build, so a new puppy really won't fill the void for a while, and even when you are in your stride with newdog, you still miss olddog. I got my last dog only 3 weeks after losing my darling old boy, and for a year I was still really upset. This time it has been longer, 18m, and I am getting a new puppy after Christmas.
Our old girl is on her last legs. In just the last few months she has aged so much and it's just a matter of time.
It's breaking my heart.
They are so much a part of the family but they go from baby to geriatric in such a short time!
furbaby, of course you miss him. The new pup can't be a replacement - that would be unfair to both of them because they're individuals. You'll come to love the new guy in his own right. But you'll always love the old guy for the same reason.
Sorry for your loss. It does hurt. (Especially if he was your first dog - they are always the most special.)
Lol ButThereAgain yes was thinking similar .
my old boy would be sitting on new boy to shut him up .
helly how exciting to be getting new pup , have you chosen yet or waiting to see whats available .
do you know what breed yet ?
running yes he was first dog that I owned as an adult .
and he was so very special , I would have given my life for him . Like I said if only I could just have one last cuddle .
I am so sorry that your dog is slowing down
If its any comfort our old staffy whos 16 slowed down about 5 years ago and keeps giving us a fright with her health but each time we think this is the end she picks up and gets a new lease of life
I do love her but she was sort of dumped with us years ago and have never had the same connection as with darling old boy .
sheperd are you out there ?
Can, t stop thinking of you at this sad time .
life sucks sometimes .
OP, I'm so sorry to read your post.
Shepherd, I hate to think what you're going through right now, the same happened to my gorgeous Jimmy many years ago and I still shed a tear to think about it now. I can't say anything that will make it any better, but please be assured that I'm thinking of you.
OP, my mum's collie x (my childhood best pal) sadly passed away with cancer a few years ago. He had an amazing life, filled with laughter, long walks, and cuddles. He had also seen my mum through two marital splits, two kids leaving home, deaths of several other (human) family members, and remained her constant loyal buddy throughout.
A few weeks after he passed, my mum saw a notice on a newsletter from the rescue centre from where she'd re-homed him 12 years earlier, advertising a new home wanted for a (different breed, different age, different temperament) boy with the same name. She saw it as an omen (if you believe in that sort of thing). It was Grand National day and there was also a horse running with the same name as Dog1 and Dog2.
Fate was watching her, we went to visit the centre that day, and Dog2 came home with us (both of us were in floods of tears all the time we were there). You couldn't imagine a more different dog to Dog1, but Dog2 has certainly made his mark on her home and brought her much happiness. He wasn't a replacement for Dog1, but instead he filled a different place in her heart and is just as loving and loyal (although more daft and totally different personality-wise) as Dog1.
Like a PP mentioned, Dog1's ashes still live on a shelf in the living room, and it's still the done thing for all family members to say hello to Dog1 and pat the box as we walk in!
We also sponsored a kennel at the rescue centre in memory of Dog1 - it costs a couple of pounds a month, and we were able to choose the wording for a plaque in his memory on the wall next to the kennel. This really helped my mum make the transition, as she felt that Dog1s memory was able to live on by way of a good cause.
HTH and thinking of you x
we lost mistledog to osteosarcoma last October - she also went downhill so quickly... DS is 8 now - 7 then - and has never known life without a dog around. Mistledog was so good with him (and he was taught how to be good around dogs by her too). We didn't want a big gap because of that - and we found a new dog that we picked up 2 weeks later. She was also a rescue with a bit of a problematic background - but very keen to please people. we didn't choose her to be a replacement for mistledog - she couldn't be that and it wasn't fair to expect her to be. However, a year later, she occupies her own space in our lives and our hearts, another special dog in her own right.
Thats so nice crown that your mum has found another special dog
Even nicer that they pat darling dog 1,s ashes in recognition to the great dog he was .
I do hope he has a special life with your mum .
when I am out walking with new pup and find a feather (which is every walk) I always bring it home and place it on the rosemary plant in a pot by front door that my dd brought in memory of my old boy .
we do look like a pair of muppets new pup and I dressing a rosemary plant in feathers but hey ...
mistlethrush I am happy she has found a place in your hearts , and good for ds to grow up with mistledog 2 .
Dogs are so important in a childs life .
OP the feathers and rosemary bush are lovely your best pal lives on x
Nice to hear others in the same boat as me.
Our Best Dog Ever died in September aged 14 and we've had a wee pound puppy for 5 weeks now. I love her, and am protective of her but she's not her . I still miss our old lady and would do anything to have her back in our arms. But I can't. And this is our life now, without her.
I feel guilty for getting this puppy, our lady would have hated her, and us, for betraying her.
Someone sent me this link, it's a 'will' of a dog from the 20s and is funny and sweet. Basically saying 'get another dog. It'll honour my memory, but obviously he will never be as handsome or wonderful as me, but its not his fault'
I suppose what I meant to say was that you'll never manage to 'replace' that extra special dog - and getting a dog 'to replace' them is not fair on that new dog - and possibly yourselves and your memory of the old dog. However, there's absolutely nothing wrong with sharing your lives with a different dog - and in time, that different dog may well turn out to be special too - but almost certainly in a different way from Dear Dog 1.
(And in the early days of mistlehound I did wonder if we'd done the right thing - after clearing up yet another 'heap' or puddle - or when down the garden with my coat over my dressing gown at 4am in December to try to make sure that she did whatever she needed to do outside rather than inside, and on the walks where she bounced and bounced and we didn't know whether she'd ever have enough recall to be let off the lead. This was so different from mistledog who was so easy after her first couple of years... But it has all worked out in the end)
It will take time. Dad lost his JR over 2 years ago now and he still tears up at times. I have seen his attitude to our new dog which we got about 6 months after JR died, change from dubious standoffishness, to affection. Dogs do that to you.
When my cat died of cancer 5 years ago we bought an adorable little kitten after a few months and although I could see she was lovely I almost resented the fact that this silly little ball of fluff was attempting to replace my elegant, dignified old Jenny. But I ended up loving her just as much ( we lost her too after a year )
furbaby crown jewel and everyone else - thanks for your lovely thoughts and messages. I seem to be coping ok - maybe that is thanks to all the lovely support I have had. Anyone who has had a much loved pet pass away knows that sense of loss, and the massive hole that is left in your life when they go. People have been so kind and understanding and I have found that very comforting. thank you again MNers for your kindness.
I am so happy that you have lots of support sheperd more than welcome to pm me if you need any extra support .
it is just so bloody hard though , I feel so bad for you as your darling dog went early
At least our boy was 12 , mind you knowing it was his time and helping him pass to the other side was so dam hard .
we lost our boy in may and I don, t cry all the time now when I think about him but I do miss him so dreadfully .
I think now that I may own and love many dogs but there will always be specical place in my heart for the worlds best staffy x
Had to stop reading as couldn't see from the bloody tears ..... argh... you lot!!
Think this feeling is so common. I liken it to friends. Some you enjoy your time with and you wouldn't be without but a rare few, maybe even just once in a lifetime you find a true soulmate. A connection that just can't be put into words.
I have had dogs my whole life. I have loved them all dearly. I currently have a rescue labradoodle who i love more than i could have ever imagined but I still hold a special place in my heart for my old girl who i rescued when i was a student. She only passed away last year. Just something about her made her so special to me, and me to her.
The truth of it is, you do not 'get over' it, you learn to live with it, that same you would with a human. I lost my sister when she was 21 and I was 24, and I cannot compare that pain to that, but also I did not find it easy to get over the death of my dogs either (and don't) and I remember when i had counselling part of it was I felt so sad that I had lost my sister because I loved her so much and she loved me and really it's the same with dogs. I understand that people who haven't got dogs wont 'get that' but they spend every day with you and quite a lot of the time are better companions than your human friends and relatives and they love you unconditionally
and they are reason to get up every day
a reason to get out and about
a reason to talk to other people
a reason to be more empathetic and sympathetic
but above all they give you so much for you what you might feel is so little in return, a walk, a feed a love, a warm basket/crate
and of course you feel sad that your companion has gone because you you used to do this and that and in my last dogs case, you were the only dog brave enough to not be bothered by dora the rottweiler (who was as soft as shit) and loads of other small and big things that are 'just' your old dog
but your new dog just has a different personality and you will love them in a different way and appreciate their ways but it's okay to feel sad (and I felt guilty but there is no need to feel guilty for loving another dog!)
my sister would laugh at my post and me comparing her with a dog because she loved dogs too (my Mum inherited hers after her death)
Have made an appt to have the old jack Russell pts next wed. He's sixteen and on his way out and would be cruel to let him suffer. I'll still have fat jack who's eleven but she's not old jack and never will be he's a dog in a million,but then so is she in her own way.
minkersmum your so right about the friends bit , some you get on better with and have that special connection and others you like but not quite in the same way .... just the same with dogs , some you connect with better .
sorry we made you cry
owllady I am sorry to hear that you lost your sister and at such a young age
Yes I sure she would be having a giggle at being compared to a dog ,
but as you say they are always there much more than friends and relatives and need you as much as you need them .
Rowgtfc72 tomorrow or week wednesday ? That must be so tough if even if the time is right
I will be thinking of you .
I think its tougher in some ways for us than them .
Having to make the decision that its the right time and lifting the phone to vets is just so heartbreaking .
They just trust us to do the right thing by them .
We know that we haven't got our 16 old girl for long
She has had a couple of health problems and we thought this is the beginning of the end but she has bounced back and is ok at moment .
She has lots her marbles and gets lost in the house often but the puppy has taught her new trick of begging for food . She never had much interest in our food before pup .
who said you can't teach an old dog new tricks
In tears here. We lost our 11 month old Cairn a couple of days ago. Came downstairs to find him lying dead in his crate. I thought he was asleep. . We had no warning, other than he was a bit sick the evening before but nothing remarkable. It was just before DH and kids were due to leave house for work/school and I was to go to a meeting. None of that happened. Our lives stood still with grief. Can't understand how and why it could happen to such a gorgeous, fun-loving, friendly, cuddly and above all young pup!
We decided not to have a post mortem - nothing would bring him back. We have had him cremated and will scatter his ashes on one of his favourite walks in the summer.
We are going away at Christmas to the seaside and were so looking forward to him running up and down the beach. We thought about not going, but have decided against it. It is a place we as a family love, but we had not taken him there yet, so hopefully our thoughts will be happy ones and we won't be haunted by memories of him running on that beach, or playing catch on that hill, or whatever.
What is helping is that we have decided as a family we want another dog. He was our first dog and we have a huge dog-shaped hole in our lives. We are going to see some pups this weekend who won't be ready until January - same breed but girls not boys. We will never forget our little lad but I need to fill that hole. I think in a month or two we may be ready to welcome a new pup into our lives.
Big hugs to everyone who has been through this loss. I have lost cats before but have never felt like this.
Yes, we have chosen the puppy, although we haven't seen her yet (we met the mother before the mating). Pup is only two weeks old, we are off to see her soon and will get her in January. She's an Irish terrier. I feel very excited now, but also still sad about my old dog. I think it will be very emotional seeing a new puppy here, but we are ready for a new friend.
I'm so sorry to hear that Wordsmith. What a horrible shock.
Although it is less than 2 week since we lost our dog, we have already found the next dog to share our lives with. Dh particularly is finding the dog-shaped hole in his life unbearable.
We have found a rescue dog, approx 2 years old. She is very cute and has had some basic training already. Very excited that we can complete the formalities this Sunday.
I can well understand that some people may think it indecently quick to take on a new dog, but ........ we need a dog in the centre of our life!
shepherdsdelight I don't think it's too soon at all. I completely understand and feel the same. We have already started looking and are travelling tomorrow to see some baby cairns who are only 10 days old. They won't be ready till mid-Jan but that will be good timing for us I think. Plus they are all girls so I don't feel we are replacing our darling boy, the pup we choose will be another much loved member of our family.
I am still finding it so difficult but it has certainly helped the children knowing that another dog will be coming into our family soon.
shepherdsdelight I am so pleased you are able to find another dog so soon. I hope we will feel the same tomorrow. Thank you and to ButThereAgain for your kind words.
Best wishes to both of you for a very very happy future with the new dogs you are moving towards getting. I don't think it shows any lack of love/respect for the memory for the dogs you have so sadly lost.
sheperdgood for you in getting another dog to enjoy your life with . It must have all been so hard .
wordsmith was so shocked by what happened to your darling dog .
your poor family he was still a baby .life just bloody sucks sometimes .
Good luck with new girl and hope she fills the missing bit .
helly good luck with new dog , have not heard of irish terrier before ..,, I will google
sheperd good for you taking on a rescue . I am sure things will work out great .
I am happy that even though we have lost our babies we can move on and are filling that dog shaped hole in our hearts .
I am having a rubbish day and for no reason at all I am missing my old boy so very much , I just need one last kiss and cuddle .
you have all helped me so much in getting oveor my darling boy but I still get that panicky feeling that I just need to be with him
Pisses me off so much when people slag off staffys , they would, nt if they had met our darling sensitive boy .
Thank you so much everyone for your replys , you have helped me so much
Gosh wordsmith, what a shock. I am so sorry x
My dog -walking friend lost her special dog 5 years ago.
It took her 3 years after that to actually let her younger dog (now 9) in.
She was subconsciously shutting him out, and forever comparing him to her other dog. Even saying things like 'If I could send him away and have her back would do it in a second'
Each dog is an individual in its own right. Stop comparing.
Also you need to remember that you are comparing your 12 year old gentle lad with a toddler! That does not work.
Your new dog has the right to not to have to live up to old boy. How about looking at it like he was sent to you by old boy to help you recover?
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