Had to have my dog PTS today - am beyond heartbroken - please hug me

(62 Posts)
lovemydogs Mon 25-Feb-13 14:49:56

my gorgeous girl, Foxy, a fawn greyhound, who literally changed my life 6 years ago, had a fall yesterday and after a terrible night spent lying on the floor next to her, I had to ring the vet at 4am who said that there was no hope as she had been trying unsuccessfully to get up for 12 hours. To be fair she was 13 - so a grand age - but I am not being dramatic when I say I do not know how I will live without her. I did speak to the vet yesterday when it happened and she said to see how Foxy went overnight.
She was my best friend and she adored me too. She was my first dog that I had in my own right as an adult.
I have a greyhound boy who is bereft. It was just me and the dogs. No OH or kids.
I cannot stop crying. Or rather wailing.
I have lost my mum and my dad - my dad a year ago. My dogs are my life. This feels like a bereavement of similar magnitude to me.
thanks for reading xxxx

fubbsy Mon 25-Feb-13 14:52:26

sad so sorry for your loss <hug>

Abra1d Mon 25-Feb-13 14:54:46

I am sorry. I know how much it hurts. And having lost your parents, your pain must be particularly hard.

I promise that you will be able to look back at Foxy and just feel happy to have had her in your life. The pain will fade.

Be gentle on yourself.

Melissakitkat Mon 25-Feb-13 14:55:37

So very sorry - remember the good times - at least she is not in pain and she had a lovely life with you - hugs xxx

Floralnomad Mon 25-Feb-13 14:55:39

Sorry to hear this , please take care of yourself and your boy . X

PurpleBlossom Mon 25-Feb-13 14:56:06

So sorry for your loss OP, she sounds like a lovely, brave girl.

It is totally understandable for you to feel so bereaved, be kind to yourself.

<Hugs> xxx

Twitterqueen Mon 25-Feb-13 14:57:11

Many, many hugs. How absolutely terrible for you. My lovely dog is my first ever and I can't image life without her. It will get better with time - I'm told.

JuliaScurr Mon 25-Feb-13 14:58:16

So sorry for your loss. It sounds like the loss of Foxy has triggered off memories of other losses; very painful.

Does it help to know that many vets regard it as one of the great privileges of their job to give animals a kind and gentle death? You have done something very loving as your last gift to your beautiful dog.

In time, you will have the good memories as well as this sadness. You will always know you did the very best you could for her.

I'm so sorry sad

I felt the same as you when my dog died. I couldn't see how I would carry on without her

But I did as will you. One day you will wake up and the pain will be just a little bit less but you won't see that now so you'll just have to believe me

Take care, cry loads, remember her x

Oh I am so so sorry.

AllOverIt Mon 25-Feb-13 15:00:36

So so sorry for your loss sad

lovemydogs Mon 25-Feb-13 15:00:51

I know I did the best thing in the circumstances - the only thing - I know that when you get a pet - it is part of the deal that you have to know when it is time but god the pain is terrible - the vet was lovely as was the nurse and I had never met them before as they were the out of hours service. She is at the pet crematorium and I will collect her ashes along with a paw print and fur clipping on Thursday.
Thanks so much. x

So very sorry for your loss x

TheChimpParadox Mon 25-Feb-13 15:07:04

So sorry to hear that.

Lots of hugs. x

mistlethrush Mon 25-Feb-13 15:07:13

I'm still sad about my lovely dog - we had to have her pts in October just 3 wks after going to the vet with a limp - it was bone cancer and it wasn't fair to leave her any longer. We rescued a lurcher 2 wks later. She will never replace our first dog - she will occupy a different place in our hearts in her own right.

It is the one down side of having dogs - they don't stay with us long enough.

Oh I am so sorry, please be kind to yourself. Take some time. Take care.

MadMumToThree Mon 25-Feb-13 15:11:19

I am so sorry x we had to have both our dogs pts in the last two years and it is heartbreak

MadMumToThree Mon 25-Feb-13 15:12:30

.... heartbreaking (wrong button on phone ) I still wonder where they are when I arrive home - take care x

noddyholder Mon 25-Feb-13 15:16:19

I am so sorry sad It is heartbreaking when you love an animal so much and it dies You really think people will think you are silly and not 'get' it but believe me there are lots of people like you,you aren't alone Thankfully you have the other dog who can be some sort of comfort to you and vice versa xx

So sorry for you and your boy. Mistle is right they do always take up space in our hearts, have a big hug x

TheEarlyBird Mon 25-Feb-13 15:28:59

Big hug from me and my best girl. xxx

SpicyPear Mon 25-Feb-13 16:16:47

I'm so so sorry for your loss <hugs>

She was very lucky to have such a kind and caring owner to spend those 6 years with. Grieve as much as you need to because she was part of your little family.

RedwingWinter Mon 25-Feb-13 16:18:16

I'm so sorry for your loss sad

AnameIcouldnotthinkof Mon 25-Feb-13 16:26:54

So sorry for your loss. I had my darling staffie cross pts a year ago and it was so hard. She will always have a special place in your heart and I promise it will get easier.
>big hugs<

pigsDOfly Mon 25-Feb-13 17:25:22

So sorry for your loss. You gave her a good life for 6 years. She was part of your small family and you need to grieve for her for as long as it takes.

Take comfort from the love of your other dog and take care of each other.

Wishing you well. Big hugs

gymmummy64 Mon 25-Feb-13 17:38:54

So very sorry for your loss. I remember thinking the same when my childhood dog was PTS when I was in my 20s. It does get better I promise and the way you feel now just shows what a wonderful life you gave her as her owner for her last 6 years.

Thinking of you, big hugs

Greydog Mon 25-Feb-13 17:41:34

oh, I am so, so sorry for you. A friend is a friend, and I have wept more over my animal pals than anyone else. Hold on to the thought that you gave her a really good life. Big hugs to you

So sorry for your loss. I know how heartbreaking it is to lose a beloved pet xx

So sorry for your loss. sad

cocolepew Mon 25-Feb-13 17:56:50

I'm so sorry for your loss sad

Grunzlewheek Mon 25-Feb-13 19:49:31

So sorry, hugs.

bassetfeet Mon 25-Feb-13 21:55:25

So sorry to read this lovemydogs Foxy had a lovely life with you bless her
Hug her dog greyhound companion to your heart tonight and cuddle in .

You have had a lot of grief to deal with recently so no wonder you feel so devastated .

Channel your heartache into finding some lovely plant or spring flower to celebrate her/his life . If you have no garden then plant something on a well trodded walk . my snowdrops are still blooming in the most unlikely place xx
take care and you did the right thing .

herladyship Mon 25-Feb-13 21:58:14

so sad to read this & hear of your loss hmm xx

You poor poor thing. Foxy sounds like she was an enormous part of your life , no wonder you are bereft. We lost our old collie cross in August last year and our lurcher didn't cope very well at all and we had to get a new puppy much sooner than we'd have liked.
He's not filled the Old Boy shaped hole in our life, that will always be there, but he has filled the generic dog shaped hole that we had.
I hope your grief is not too painful for longer than you can bear.

MrsDucklips Mon 25-Feb-13 22:16:18

This IS a bereavement - not like a bereavement. I am so sorry for your loss - cry as much as you need. Sending you big hugs.

I am so so sorry, big hugs and love to you and greyhound boy, it's a devastating time for you xxx

serin Mon 25-Feb-13 22:21:11

Your post made me cry, your love for her comes across so powerfully.

She was lucky to have you and you were lucky to have her for those six beautiful years.

So sorry x

CatelynStark Mon 25-Feb-13 22:25:11

Oh I'm so sorry. It's just heartbreaking. Please take care of yourself and your lovely boy.

ZombiesAreClammyDodgers Mon 25-Feb-13 22:27:25

I am so very sorry for your loss sad Big hugs.

tabulahrasa Mon 25-Feb-13 23:44:57

I was so devastated when my last dog died that it took me two years to consider getting another dog... You've lost a member of your family, just because it was furry - that doesn't make it any less painful.

lovemydogs Tue 26-Feb-13 05:11:43

thank you everyone - slept downstairs cuddled up with my boy and that was nice xxxx

1MitchellMum Tue 26-Feb-13 06:55:04

So very sorry. Yes she was a grand old age but it's hard to say goodbye at any age (I've done it with a nearly 13 year old and a 6 year old). Ignatia may help your boy (given it to my remaining dogs after they lost their companion) - they did get better, who knows whether it was time or the ignatia? You will feel better in time but it does take ages and you'll never forget her. I found it helps to write out a list of all the little quirks and events that will make you smile when you read it in years to come. x

fortheloveofahorse Tue 26-Feb-13 07:13:43

Hello "lovemydogs" i am so very sorry you have lost your beautiful girl Foxy -i have Greyhound girl and to imagine a life without her would truly break my heart,i am sending you a virtual hug xx So sorry for your boy who will be grieveing for the loss of his special friend too xx

poweredbytoast Tue 26-Feb-13 12:52:22

I had to have my beautiful GSD pts last spring; I wasn't ready for her to go and it took me a long time to get through the bereavement. But time does help. I can still put myself back to snuggling my face into her neck, and I will still cry at losing her, but the raw emotions have passed. Let yourself howl as much as you need to and in time the happy memories will outway the sad.

So sorry for your loss. <big hug>

lovemydogs Tue 26-Feb-13 13:17:28

My boy dog is very subdued and withdrawn - I got him second so he always had a pal - I will almost certainly get a second female greyhound asap for both of us - BF won't be happy although we do not live together - but he isn't into pets and sees them as a tie and I suspect he resents that I have to factor them in to my day and evening and weekend plans but they are part of my life - they are my therapy - I sometimes wonder if being with someone who feels like this is pointless.................
Thank you so much for all your kind comments xx

mistlethrush Tue 26-Feb-13 13:49:22

lovemydogs, just remember that you will never replace her - but getting another dog for you and your boy may help to fill some of the gap she has left (and it certainly could be a distraction from the void you currently feel). The new dog won't be a replacement, it will be a totally different dog and hopefully, in time will also be really important to you. You're not being remotely unfaithful to her memory or anything like that if you do get a dog soon. Just make sure its not a rushed decision and is the right dog to fit in with your and your boy.

(I'm not saying anyone that has struggled with getting another dog quickly is doing anything wrong either, just that this is one option)

(((Hugs))) to you, so sorry for your lossthanks xx

TrinityRhino Tue 26-Feb-13 13:58:42

<hugs> lovemydogs

it is a bereavement, take care of yourself

my dp is going to have to do this fairly soon to his right hand dog
he will be beside himself with grief and he only lost his mum last month

please be kind to yourself its an awful thing to go through

lovemydogs Tue 26-Feb-13 13:58:54

yes the greyhound trust let you take a dog to try it for a week or weekend before deciding whether to adopt and you can try a different one if the first one doesn't seem right - they are so flexible so by the time you adopt you are really certain xx

Ilovemydogandmydoglovesme Tue 26-Feb-13 14:02:48

Oh lovemydogs I feel for you. I had my Boy before I had human children and he is my adopted first child! Just because they're animal shaped doesn't mean they're not family members. Like others have said just be happy that you had her and she was loved and that she had a happy life with you. Nothing can ever take that away.

I also lost both my parents. Things like this do stir emotions up again and make it all seem worse. Go easy on yourself. You've lost a family member and you need time to grieve. Bollocks to the bf if he so much as suggests that he doesn't understand that.

doglover Tue 26-Feb-13 14:06:11

I am so, so sorry. I really feel for you and truly understand how you're feeling.

wildfig Tue 26-Feb-13 15:55:47

More sympathy from me. It's hard to explain to friends or partners who haven't had dogs what a part of your life they become - you get so used to interpreting the subtle language of their ears and tails and funny grunts that they become part of your own inner voice, even though they can't speak. You can only hear them with your heart, and you can never really tell them how much you care, and vice versa - so it's a relationship built entirely of trust and observation and little displays of affection. I wish some of my friends paid as much attention to my moods as my dogs do.

I hope you find another greyhound friend, for yourself and for your other boy. It sounds as if you gave Foxy everything a dog could wish for.

Avago Tue 26-Feb-13 16:01:10

So sorry for your loss sad

bassetfeet Tue 26-Feb-13 18:24:09

wildfig your post said it all for me about the love we have for our animals .
Thank you for that . It made me cry and my old gal died three years ago.
You defined the emotion we have for our furry companions so eloquently.

Sending a hug for lovemydogs tonight and agree with others that when you are ready ........seek another canine friend for you and the boy dog .

ReeBee Tue 26-Feb-13 18:35:42

So very sorry for your loss.

lovemydogs Tue 26-Feb-13 18:58:36

thank you all so much again it really helps. Took my boy - Robbie - out today for a ride in the car and to a new park where he met some other dogs and he was really excited and it cheered him up so that is positive. x

noddyholder Tue 26-Feb-13 20:55:23


Madondogs Tue 26-Feb-13 23:05:26

So very sorry for your loss. Big hugs for yiu and your lovely boy. Xx

Inthepotty Wed 27-Feb-13 08:48:49

I'm so sorry OP.

Please remember you gave your beloved girl the kindest final act we can do as dog owners- to ensure they are not in pain.

elliepupp Wed 27-Feb-13 16:53:57

Ellie was PTS last October after 10 years as my best friend. Didn't stop crying for weeks. I felt so stupid as anything would set me off and I kept thinking 'she was just a dog for goodness sake!'. I felt nothing could ever replace her so wouldn't even consider getting another. BUT, the house was so empty comming home at night and I missed her waggy tail and good morning smiley yawn. We went to LOOK at a litter in December and came home with TWO. I cried again for a week - demanding they be taken back.
Wouldn't be without them now, although I've not forgotten their 'big sister' these animals are not just dogs (for some of us anyway!). Lots of puppy hugs (you won't want the widdles though smile) x

lovemydogs Wed 27-Feb-13 16:58:54

ha ha elliepupp - would be getting another rescue greyhound so no puppies here and hopefully no widdles ( well maybe my pelvic floor but not the dogs ha ha)
thanks and glad your story has a happy ending xxxx

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