My dog was pts today :(

[RedRobinsays]

Yes I've nc for this just to get it out.

Best doggie in the world. Miss her so much already and haven't stopped crying all day. Had to pts after her having bloat. Wish I'd known earlier. Tried my best my getting her to the vets but it wasn't good enough, she was too far gone after getting it through the night and by the time I got up her stomach was huge. Keep expecting to hear her round the house and it feels so empty without her here. I feel so guilty for not knowing she got sick.

[soddinghormones]

so so sorry to hear this

do you want to tell us a bit about her?

try not to beat yourself up about it and give yourself some time and space to grieve

[MrsSquirrel]

So sorry for your loss

[calonwyn]

I'm so sorry. Bloat is an awful thing - if it came on during the night there really wasn't anything you could do other than get her to the vet's asap in the morning, and she would know you were trying to help her.

[Lally112]

So so sorry to hear Red and handholding/hugs for you.

[MitchellMummy]

So very sorry. There's nothing you could have done. Sometimes people get to the vet at the first signs and are still unlucky. Such a shock to lose a dog suddenly. The pain will subside in time but you'll never forget her. RIP. x

[RedRobinsays]

She was a lovely wee pup. Got her a three years old from a rescue but she was a huge cross black lab, hairiest doggy you could ever have rather than the usual hair of labs. Keep thinking of her dancing in the snow or before I had the kids how I used to let her sleep in my bed (bad I know) and cuddling her there one night with fireworks going which she hated and me pregnant with a lot of pregnancy difficulties just holding her, how her bad hip in older age never put her off running around like a puppy as soon as a ball was produced. God, the house is so quiet without her.

Vet told me she was near the end when we arrived, was just holding on. Glad I went to the closest vet rather than the bit away I would get free vet as by the time I would have arrived there I may have not have had a chance to say goodbye as she may have died on the way (sorry). Just can't believe yesterday she was right as rain trying to chase cats and snuggling through the rubbish. 13 years old but never expected it to happen so quickly and has left a huge hole in my heart. Keep looking at her bed and food and don't know if I want to clear it up or not.

[Toooldtobearsed]

Red, I am sitting in tears. I know just how you feel, but I promise, it will pass and you will be able to remember her with a smile rather than a tear.
I lost MY boy 5 years ago, he actually ran over the edge of a cliff and fell over 100ft. He survived the fall, walked about a mile to the car and was taken straight to vet for check up. He had broken just about every bone in his body and had to be pts.
I still cry about him, but now we can laugh about the funny things he did- they are the stuff of legends.
You will have your special empires, give it time, and take care.

[RedRobinsays]

Oh my goodness Tooold, that is awful to lose a dog through something like that. Glad you are ok now and thank you.

Sitting here with big swollen eyes and a little too much to drink just thinking big dog would be resting her head on me with 'wtf, stroke my head and you'll feel ok' eyes as she didn't like you crying or getting upset

[Toooldtobearsed]

I know, I know.
I have lost 4 dogs now and every time I have said never again.
I am now owned by a 7 month old labrador who is regularly told how naughty he is compared to all the others who have gone before(they have been elevated to Gods, misdemeanours forgotten)!
Nothing like a dog resting it's head, eyes full of love/compassion/greed(!)to make everything in the world right.

It will be a tough couple of days, so take care.

[EvenBetter]

I'm so sorry, I know how awful it is. There's no good way for them to go, really, our beloved darling died quickly, on our bed, surrounded by us, and it was still hell. I remember people saying about the pain easing and you'll remember her and smile and I thought 'no way will I ever feel better', but almost a year on I do.

They leave such a huge void, they make a house a home, and you won't know what to do with yourself. I'd say leave her stuff out for a wee while, once it's been put away, it's away IYSWIM. I cried every way possible, on the floor, on her pillow, in Tescos meat aisle, everywhere! You've lost a cherished family member, do whatever you need to do in your grief.

I lasted one month with no dog, then made a trip to a kill-pound and now have another darling, who helped massively.

You will feel a bit less shit in a week, then a bit more, then a bit more, I promise.

[Muttleysmum]

A horrible coincidence - but samething happened to Milo yesterday, a beautiful ten year old (ie very old man for big breed) Leonberger who I provided 'home stay services' for many weeks over last few years. I can honestly say I loved Milo as if he was my own & really looked forward to his visits. He was genuinely part of our family and he will be sadly missed - especially this Xmas, which he always spent with us.

The added trauma of having to contact his owner, relay events as they were happening , convey their decisions to the Vet, and knowing that I was ruining the last few days of her family holiday and cope with their grief over the phone.....has left me numb with shock.

Having lost my own dogs in the past, I know how bloody awful getting through it is. It's a true bereavement of a much loved family member and it's heart breaking. But it is also true that given time you will remember your best friend with a loving smile.

My best advice is don't be afraid to shed your tears and express your grief, accept that it will take time. But don't leave it to long before you go and find your next 'best friend' ( pls consider a rescue dog) who will make your life complete again.

[Toooldtobearsed]

If it should be

If it should be that I grow frail and weak,
And pain should wake me from my sleep,
Then you must do what must be done,
For this last battle can't be won.
You will be sad, I understand,
Don't let grief then stay your hand,
For this day more than all the rest
Your love and friendship stand the test.
We've had so many happy years,
What is to come will hold no fears,
You'll not want me to suffer,so,
When the time comes, please let me go.
I know in time you too will see,
It is a kindness you do to me,
Although my tail its last has waved,
From pain and suffering I've been saved.
Do not grieve that it should be you,
Who has to decide this thing to do,
We've been close, we two, these years,
Don't let your heart shed any tears.

From a card I had with my old girls ashes. Reduced me to floods of tears, but I just thought it was so lovely.