I am getting a bit fed up with the "if I had a dog, I'd get a REAL one" comments(56 Posts)
I know it doesn't matter, I know it's stupid, but I am going to snap at the next person who makes a degoratory comment about the size of my dogs.
We have a 7yo parson russell terrier and a week ago we got a 7month old rescue pup who is a border terrier cross. So yes, they are small dogs.
This weekend just seemed to be really bad for it. We were at a thing on Friday and someone was congratulating us on our new dog, asking what kind it was etc and immediately there comments of "oh if I got a dog I'd get a real one" and "nothing under my knee height counts as a dog" etc etc.
Then yesterday at a bbq my friend was talking about her old dog (passed away years ago) and made the same sort of comments, how if they got another one it'd have to be "proper" dog etc. Both mine were there, and were not being in any way anything unlike dogs, so I really don't understand it.
I get that people like different breeds and looks of dog, and some prefer large dogs, I really do understand that. But it is beginning to piss me off that anything under eg labrador size is not considered a "proper" dog! And even if you think it, WHY would you say it to someone who has TWO SMALL DOGS??
I am tempted to come back with "Oh I'm the same about husbands, I wouldn't want one under 6' 2", he's not really a proper man otherwise, imo"
I get this with my Yorkie. I've also seen it on here- people asking advice on getting a certain breed and people saying - no get a real dog.
Also for the person who said they prefer a big dog because they can take them out to play in a big garden- a small dog will just as happily go out to play in a big garden! Just because they are small doesn't mean everything has to be miniaturised
The dog with the biggest 'personality' was our long-haired Dachshund. But she was very stubborn and had an aggressive trait towards other dogs. She looked beautiful.
When I was out walking my terrier I met a couple walking a calm lab. The woman said to me "that's the sort of dog my husband would prefer we had". He went on to explain my terrier is a proper dog - because it's feisty, with a big personality and can still do a proper job (ratting) unlike their boring lab (his words, not mine).
I suppose some people have a mental picture of "dog" and if the breed doesn't fit in it's not right for them.
Personally I love terriers for their big dog in a small body personality.
If the dog has a sweet lovely nature that is what me makes me love them. I have loved my FIL's St Bernard, my niece's rescue lurcherX, my friend's 4 yorkie x pomeraniums, a neighbour's JR.
It really doesn't matter how big or small - it is their temperament.
My own, as I am older , is a quiet, laid back, non-hyper breed a Lhasa Apso, weighing 5 Kilos and 10" high. Not a sporting breed, but is just what I wanted at my age.
Nobody has said anything but "She is so sweet and serene", by men as well as women.
I like it when I see people with a mix of shapes and sizes - for instance a pair of gorgeous Leonburgers accompanied by a chihauhau puppy, or a couple of wolfhounds with a wire-haired dachshund (wire haired dachsies look like sawn off wolfies rather than dobies ).
And in such mixes, 9 times out of 10 it will be the little dog who's making all the noise and bossing the others around.
I'm personally find several breeds/type of dogs unappealing, but would I make a derogatory remarks to their owners? Of course not! Why? Because I have manners, I'm not a numpty and what's it got to do with me?
So why do people think it's ok to do this to the owner of small dogs???
As the owner of 1 small and 2 tiny dogs ( pic on profile ) I have to admit that I have only had a couple of remarks in real life, I think a lot of people think the Affenpinschers are my Schnauzer's pups and we live in London, but I got really fed up of the anti-small dog stuff on a dog forum I used to frequent.
Ironically, after being told my boy was too small to be a proper lurcher the other day, I walked past a woman this morning who stopped in her tracks, looked a bit worried and said 'Gosh - what a big dog!'.
You know how it goes though ...
You can please some of the people all of the time, you can please all of the people some of the time, but you cant please all of the people all of the time.
Timetonap - I have a giant breed too....different sort of mountain dog, and the comments about him eating smaller dogs drives me crazy......
Though he did chase a lapso the other day - he was off lead and I hadn't seen them....he just wanted to say hello...but I was mortified .I saw the same lady the next day, this time he was on lead, and her lapso was all Barky at him, and she suggested I let him off to teach it a lesson. She knew mine wouldn't hurt hers, but felt hers was being a little brazen because giant pup was on lead.
I wouldn't worry, MMM. I reckon the OP just knows some odd people .
I have two little dogs - one cavalier and a sheltie. We are town based and have never heard any derogatory comments about their size. Often stopped by people who say how beautiful they are. We are planning on moving somewhere rura next year so will be interesting to see if things change then
It may be the people who carry their chihuahuas and other small dogs in their arms or handbags that prompt these sort of comments. (I totally understand why people would pick their little dogs up in crowded places.) There's also many people who dress their little dogs in dresses and tutus etc. Very dodgy in my opinion (though I do have coats for my own big dogs to keep them warm/dry/cool).
Moosemama I hope you tell their owners that real ferrets only travel in plastic bags, not pink harnesses. [Grin]
The ferrets round here go for walks on little pink harnesses!
I prefer bigger dogs.
This is because the only bites I have had have been from effing JRT and smaller.
I saw a lad aged about 15 out with a lurcher-type the other day and a ventilated wooden box slung over his shoulder which I'm pretty sure would have had a ferret in it. Off to do a bit of rabbiting I think.
Last time I saw something similar, the ferrets were shockingly in (open) plastic bags rather than a proper box. I guess the notion of a "real dog" is as wide as the various odd things people want to get up to with their dogs.
I have to agree with Grimma. Where my family are from in Southern Ireland it's the farmers and other local men that have the terriers. Either JRTs or a distinct 'type' of Heinz 57 that have arisen from rather enthusiastic local roaming romeos!
All of them are really game and the other prolific local breed (Border Collies) give them a wide berth.
>terriers aren't really used for rodent control
no-one seems to have told various terriers I've met on farms that they are obsolete!
I'm in the countryside and apart from farms there's lots of other terriers - often as not belonging to big blokes or old men. Lots on country walks and up mountains. The difference between your JRT and a lab is that while the latter will carry a big stick the former may be seen carrying a ruddy great big stone as big as its head up the path... well 'ard
Well I have giant breed dogs, and also get stupid comments about them not being dogs but horses, bears, lions! Have always wondered what a proper dog is as small ones arent proper they are rats and big ones arent proper either? hmm
Apparently everyone knows someone with a bigger dog than mine (like i care, as if I own them for a size status and don't have a clue about dogs / breeds to not smell their bullshit). Labradors etc being bigger than a St. Bernard (must be a cross then) or the weight contest which makes me laugh because the dog they apparently explain should really go on a diet if true.
Also apparently my giant happily walking to heal, approaching another dog woth a wagging tail is highly vicious and they tell there small dog (snapping and snarling in this case) that its too big to play with and will eat it
We have a mini schnauzer and I've never had anyone say that to me, but then we're in the London commuter belt and there are lots of little dogs around here.
And DH (at 6'5) does look completely ridiculous walking a small fluffy dog so we're wide open to the comments should anyone choose to make them! Although I am going to steal your husband retort if anyone tries it
It must be a rural thing, I guess because you get more working dogs there and terriers aren't really used for rodent control as they were traditionally?
I don't care for dogs, but large ones gross me out.
Terrier, not a real dog? Clearly never seen a terrier working then.
Well ... obviously I know that now. Seems I have so much to learn about dogs.
We all judge, I think, to some extent, that's normal. But these sorts of comments are just rude!
moosemama Did you not know that this random person's friend's lurcher was the national standard against which all lurchers are measured? Pffff, call yourself a dog person!
Blimey, I always think of terriers as more of a proper dog than a lot of larger breeds.
If it helps, I have never measured my dog's height, but to give you some idea, I'm 5'7" and he comes up to my hip. This morning I was told by someone in the park that he can't be a 'proper lurcher' because he's too small. Apparently, her friend has a lurcher that's much bigger than Lurcherboy and that somehow means he possibly be a 'proper lurcher'.
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