Struggling with dog... Still

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lainiekazan Tue 18-Jun-13 06:51:20

I posted about dog previously - but that was more about me than the dog so I've started a new thread.

golde retriever, 3 months old, is quite challenging. On sunday a dog trainer came to the house to observe him and said he is very dominant and gave us some training help. I also consulted local doggy woman who said he is strong-willed and independent.

Yesterday was a Bad Day. Lots of snarling and he flew at me when I said "Off!" when he was on the sofa. That was quite scary. He also bit through ds's top - not play biting - ds was practising the "leave" command and the dog snapped at ds's arm - not at the egg box he had.

He also doesn't seem to care for playing/human interaction. If I try to have a game he'll just wander off.

Any ideas?

happygardening Wed 19-Jun-13 08:08:03

Op Im no dog trainer although I have owned dogs all my life IMO sometimes it better not to set up confrontation in the first place especially at the moment. If you don't want your dog on your sofa don't let him in the sitting room. I don't want my dogs on the beds so we keep the bedroom door closed and or use a stair gate so they cant go up stairs I don't want them on the sofas either so we keep them out of the sitting room when we're not in it and take their beds in when we are and they sit on those. Don't allow unpleasant situations to arise you wouldn't let a toddler walk along a road unsupervised and then tell him off if he was hit by a car.
Dogs horses cows and indeed children (I've worked extensively with the last three) read us they know when someone is "in charge" and when not. I'm not talking about pack leader stuff some people have a natural air of authority, they make it clear even with out speaking and certainly not shouting whats expected and only those most hardened individuals challenge them. Dogs like children/cows/horses need clear consistent guide lines firmly but kindly given they need to know what is expected of them and what is not we also need to make sure our expectations are realistic and within the capabilities of dog/cow/horse/child. Training is not a 2 hour a day job, you need to be doing it all the time whilst your dog is awake but it doesn't need to comprise of learning to shake paws and rolling over, just learning to sit quietly in his bed whilst you cook a meal, or lay quietly in the garden whilst you weed is also training.
Farmers manage large numbers of life stock a key to their success is they expect something to happen e.g. cows to come into a parlour to be milked and and stand still they obviously harness the cows natural instinct to follow its fellow members of a herd but the structure is in place to enable it too happen their body language and way they handle them clearly say do this and stand still. Ditto horses (who make dogs look like a walk in the park) consistent realistic expectation from professional grooms pays off.
Finally OP have you gone back to the breeder for advise reputable breeders generally give life long support and back up.

mrsjay Wed 19-Jun-13 08:40:35

OP keepposting on here about your puppy I got great advice with jaydog we got him as a 7 month old tazmanian devil pup and posting and just reading threads has given us loads of tips and advice with him,

lainiekazan Wed 19-Jun-13 13:42:40

Dog training last night was a partial success. On the plus side he coped better in the car and didn't poo. He was, however, sitting up on the back seat looking out of the window. I shall get him a seatbelt/harness thing.

On the minus side he was by far the worst dog there. He was quite cheerful but barked very loudly. He over-indulged in liver cake (it's Positive Training) and was sick on my jeans. He pulled me around the hall on his lead. When he was supposed to be learning to swap toys he was staring out of the window and refused to participate.

And to make matters worse there was another golden retriever there whose behaviour was exemplary. Same age dog, but she was sitting there gazing at her master and performing every move in text book fashion.

Another plus point was that he was so tired afterwards he crawled into his crate the minute we got home and was snoring within ten seconds. Still up at 4.30am, though...

Its your first time, so dont worry about being the worst dog there. Its all new to him and to you so give yourself a break.

LittleDog was by far the worst dog at puppy classes for a long time

Whoknowswhocares Wed 19-Jun-13 14:03:37

Mine was the worst behaved by a country mile to start with. Barked her head off non stop for the whole hour and totally denied I even existed, never mind did as I told her!
She has got better every time though and now listens some most of the time!. Stick with it, it will get better

Mine was either a paragon of virtue or a little shit smile

You are getting up very very early and the sleep deprivation must be awful. I am only on our first puppy too so I don't have any answers but I wonder if anyone with expertise can pick up on how to get him to sleep a bit longer?

A covered crate perhaps? We moved our puppy to the utility room from the kitchen (he's out of his crate now), the kitchen is dual aspect and has double patio doors too, it's never really dark, the utility is still a decent sized but only has a small window.

Hang in there! smile

lainiekazan Wed 19-Jun-13 17:07:04

He sleeps in a crate draped in thick velvet curtains (not bought specifically for him! - they're old ones) and all light is blocked out in the room. He has an internal alarm clock...

I am suffering from sleep deprivation. I'm so groggy and doing random things - yesterday I found the butter in the bread bin.

Aetae Wed 19-Jun-13 18:43:09

4.30??? Our dog wouldn't live long if he tried that! I assume he gets bored and he's learned that if he barks you will come and reward him by letting him out. I suggest getting up (so he knows you can hear him) but completely ignoring him - don't let him out, don't look at him, don't talk to him. Just look busy doing something. Then go back to bed. He should (eventually) get the message that barking won't get him what he wants. This may take some repeating, depending on how pig headed he is!

LEMisdisappointed Wed 19-Jun-13 18:56:02

Can I make a suggestion re the getting off sofa etc. One of the things i was told by the dog trust trainer when we got our dog was this. Never grab a dog by the collar to pull off furniture, in fact, never lay your hands on your dog to do anything other than show affection. This way, they will never associate being touched with being threatened and manhandled. They sell great little "house" leads, that are very lightweight shortish leads that you just leave on the dog, that way you can gently tug them off the sofa with the "off" command.

As for leave - WHY is your DS taking stuff away from a dog? That is madness and quite frankly dangerous. The way to teach leave is to swap things, so dog has egg box, you swap for higher value toy/treat. That way leave becomes a positive thing to do. A lot of people fall into the trap of taking things away from the dog to show who's boss etc, but this causes dogs a great deal of anxiety as they think their stuff is going to be removed and causes lots of possession issues.

Why was the trainer talking about dominance? that theory is long been disregarded.

I think you are passing a lot of your anxieties over to the dog and possibly over training. The dog is not enjoying it and it is making it ANXIOUS not dominant.

Try and relax a little, invest in a house lead and enjoy your dog x

Whoknowswhocares Wed 19-Jun-13 19:03:34

So what do you do at night time exactly? If my pup wakes at that sort of time, I take her out for a quick wee if I think she needs it (based on how long since last one) Keeping very quiet, no play, limited eye contact etc then put her back in her crate.
Ok she will whine. She may bark. Howl even........
Ignore. Ignore. Ignore
I've found she gets bored and eventually falls back to sleep. The first few times it will probably take a while, cos he's trained you nicely to come when called so far wink but stick with it and you should see results. Do not go back while he is making a fuss, even if you have to wait outside the room for a few seconds of quiet between blasts! He needs to associate you coming with him being quiet, not noisy

mrsjay Wed 19-Jun-13 19:24:53

They sell great little "house" leads, that are very lightweight shortish leads that you just leave on the dog, that way you can gently tug them off the sofa with the "off" command.

yes we had 1 of those for jay dog well it was his free dogs trust one but it is lightweight and was really handy in the first few weeks days that he was a handful we still use it if he is getting a bit hyper and not listening

lainiekazan Thu 20-Jun-13 07:02:41

We are not taking things off him - he bites and obviously it hurts and difficult to do swaps in this instance. Swaps works fine if he has, as yesterday, a roll of bubble wrap. He surrendered that (almost) straightaway. But he jumped up and had his teeth in ds's arm and we really don't know what to do about that. Ds wasn't interacting at the time; he just jumped at him. He was biting a lot yesterday. Giving treats does get him off, but isn't that not teaching him that biting is unacceptable - it's just distracting him so he instantly starts off again.

Aetae Thu 20-Jun-13 07:19:43

What kind of biting? There is puppy play biting (mouthing), and there is genuine biting. The first is natural learning, the second is more of a problem.

The former you can deal with using whatever 'that's incorrect' noise you're teaching whenever teeth touch skin (we use "ow", said very clearly and crisply) and then a timeout for a few minutes - just ignore him totally with your back to him or in extreme cases of naughtiness actually remove him from the group - not in crate which you shouldn't use for punishment, but in a boring room with nothing chewable, like a loo.

The latter is more of a problem. You definitely shouldn't treat- aggressive biting is not a "leave it" situation. An adult dog dealing with a puppy doing this would show anger (growl) not fear - that's what I would do (not aggressive yelling, but more the tone of voice when you're show a toddler they've totally overstepped the line - it's not aggressive, it's controlled and very serious). It's not punishment as such, it's clear boundary setting. And again I would remove him from the group. Dogs are pack animals, they will try to avoid being ostracised.

idirdog Thu 20-Jun-13 08:05:43

Lainiekazan can you contact an APDT member. You do need educating on current training methods and everything will begin to fall into place.

No you are not rewarding for biting if your give a treat to get the dog to give your something.

However it does sound from your threads that you need to work on basic behaviour. EG I would be working on clam sits before I took the item then the dog could not be jumping up and down and biting as you swapped things it is holding.

There is a lot of foundation work that can be done that does not seem like training but will make official training easier.

The first thing to do is teach the dog how to take treats as mentioned in my previous post

He the next thing is to work on a reinforcement zone eg when the dog is near you reward, then the dog works out that pleasurable things happen around you, this means recall is easier and removing items from the dog is easier. (But work hard to make sure he does not get the items in the first place is much better)

Re biting, all interaction stops, no shouting, no yelling, nothing just walk away. Nothing happens at all when he is biting. If everyone is consistent he will get this in a few days.

Get a clicker and just say his name and then click and treat when he looks at you - do this several times a day and your dog will not be staring out of the window at training!

Get a tuugy toy and teach him how to give up toys, play tuggy then release the dog and the game ends, ask him to give hold smelly yummy treat on the end of his nose, give him this when he drops the tuggy immediately run away and let him chase you for the tuggy. This is teaching recall and give in a fun way. Your dog will luuuuurve you for it!

lainiekazan Thu 20-Jun-13 08:26:06

I really am trying and doing the positive methods. Dog is no fool, and when practising "swaps", he quickly lies or puts a paw on his object in the hope that he can get the treat and not have to swap!

It is hard to get the dcs (and me as well!) to not react if he is jumping and biting. Boisterous playing is fine - he's a puppy. But the snarling and hanging on for dear life is painful and dd bursts into tears when he starts doing this.

mistlethrush Thu 20-Jun-13 08:38:53

But he doesn't know that play fighting with you (which it sounds as though he's doing) is not acceptable! If he was with other older dogs he would soon find out what was acceptable as if he went too far he would be told off. I know that puppy teeth hurt - I was frightened of the puppy we got when I was 5 because of her razor sharp teeth - but she learned not to bite. As for hanging off arms - well that's what they do - they grab something and pull - its just that he's grabbing something that he needs to learn he can't grab. But you need to teach him that - dogs don't learn not to bite by being allowed to continue doing it.

And if he's putting his paw on 'his' item and having a treat, you are not teaching him to swap at all. You are teaching him that he can have both things.

tabulahrasa Thu 20-Jun-13 08:54:45

How can he get both? The treat is only given when you've got his object.

Whoknowswhocares Thu 20-Jun-13 09:24:29

So if DS wasn't interacting and puppy tried to initiate a game by jumping up and biting, what happened next?
If it was a load of attention (even bad attention, telling pup off is still rewarding for him) then in his eyes, jumping and biting gets you what you want ie. human interaction
With our pup, the SECOND she did that the person she'd bitten would let out a high pitched yelp. That's dog language for 'that hurt, please stop' Everyone would then turn their backs on her and totally ignore her. Leave the room and shut the door. Letting her realise that the cause of the removal of her favourite things (you!) is the biting
It doesn't stop overnight, but it quickly lessens. Very shortly they realise it gets them the opposite of what they wanted and give it up.

idirdog Thu 20-Jun-13 09:35:31

If he is putting his paw on the item just move the treat for the dog to follow so he leaves the item behind and cannot put his paw on it.

This is a puppy you have to be brighter than he is.....smile

If your dog is constantly jumping up at your son then have dog on a long line, the minute he jumps up you take the line and remove dog...happy son and dog will learn very quickly

Boisterous playing is fine - he's a puppy it is absolutely not fine he needs to learn to play gently do not let any boisterous play happen as it is this that will escalate into the biting etc. You need to give clear messages to your puppy, you play with all 4 feet on the ground and mouth closed or else the interaction stops.

We offered another toy when our puppy started the biting thing, when he nipped either our clothes or us, we gave him something it 'was' acceptable to bite. I think the biting is him playing, it's how they play as littermates, it teaches them bite inhibition, as, when they bite too hard, their sibling squeals and withdraws, a bit like us shouting 'ow' and stopping interaction.

Clicker training is great and easy, buy a few clickers (I lose mine, they are a couple of quid max), initially click and treat just for looking at you when saying his name. Kikopup on Youtube is worth a look, her videos are fab (my only caveat is that her dogs 'get' everything very quickly, I find it takes some more patience, maybe our dog is thick!).

I also treat behaviour that is good even if you are not specifically training, ie sitting quietly on his bed etc, being calm. Dogs seem to generally do what gets them love or food I have found!

Maybe limit the training your kids do too initially? If you feel unsure about it anyway.

mrsjay Thu 20-Jun-13 10:34:53

we were told to walk into the dogs space if he gets in yours they do have an instinct to back off so when he goes for you walk into his space and say off as dogs do understand personal space but he is a puppy and still learning the boundries , we used to have jay dog snarling and hanging off us but a few days of off and stepping in and then have a toy distraction really helped us and him, I also started saying no teeth when he did it and sometimes if he gets a bit nippy I will say it and he does stop , god puppies are l exhausting eh

mrsjay Thu 20-Jun-13 10:36:29

because we got out dog at 7/8 months he came with the biting thing previous owners had been hitting him with newspapers sad to get him to stop that just winds them up even more

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