Any advice on finding a new loving home

(57 Posts)
SpicyPear Mon 18-Mar-13 08:59:54

I have two dogs. They are mostly lovely, but the little one is seven months and still in training. His main issue is stealing food and begging.

I love him, but it's not working out. My DH is seemingly unable to follow simple rules about putting food out of reach and it can't go on any longer.

So I'm wondering if anyone can help me out with a suitable rescue place or loving new home for DH? He's mid-thirties, good job and partially house trained. Ideally a home with no dogs or children and someone with the time and patience to continue his training with regard to domestic tasks. I would hate my work to go to waste.

I could take him on a foster-care basis, for an assessment before rehoming? It might be he will behave better with a different combination of dogs/children in the household?

I'd like to rehome DH too. This morning our new rescue dog, who has not had one single accident in the house since getting him (3 weeks ago), shat in DS's bedroom (he was then seen in the garden straining and dribbling so clearly has a stomach upset). Cue DH ranting and raging at ME, blaming me for it, as if I had gone up there and done the poo myself! His parting shot as he left the house to go to work was the very constructive "The dog should live outside - don't let him in house during the daytime" (over my dead body). Anyway, he has since phoned to apologise but I would be interested in swapping him for a less reactive breed.

ijustwant8hours Mon 18-Mar-13 09:30:03

I need to find a home for a loving but unruly four year old. She shows signs of responding to basic training but seems incapable of following quite basic commands when distracted!

DeepRedBetty Mon 18-Mar-13 09:33:54

I've got a pair of fourteen year olds, female. Sadly they've both developed selective deafness, an obsession with MTV, are no longer completely housetrained (can't see floor in either bedroom) and door slamming tendencies. Otherwise they're lovely. Any offers?

digerd Mon 18-Mar-13 10:08:12

Is he good at DIY ? My whole house needs doing up?

SpicyPear Mon 18-Mar-13 11:13:02

I'm seeing a need here for a "Peoples Trust" to open centres to house all these challenging individuals.

Unfortunately he is worse than useless at DIY digerd so no good for your requirements. I am the DIY bod in our house.

This was prompted by him leaving a full bowl of very sugary cereal at the edge of the dining room table. Whilst DH has gone off to work, I am trying to work from home with a puppy bouncing off the walls on a sugar and theft high. I've actually had to crate him for his own safety while the little thing calms down.

MrsWolowitz Mon 18-Mar-13 11:39:05

I'll trade for my DH.

Not housetrained. Will urinate freely on the floor in the bathroom as he refuses to turn the light on in the night and misses the loo. Every. Single. Time. I will supply newspaper and disinfectant.

He is also a bit of a food stealer and in constantly scratching his balls and he will try and hump you if you let him sleep on your bed. Maybe an operation could fix this behaviour.

He is very loyal and loving but does shed hair into the sink every morning and will leave it there until you have to pick up his razor and wash the sink out.

miggy Mon 18-Mar-13 15:01:01

mrs wolowitz grin
I fear you may ned to reword your advert and try and emphasis his good points a little

Turniphead1 Mon 18-Mar-13 15:13:35

You see this is just typical of these women that think they want a cute loveable boyfriend - not thinking of the longterm consequences when they are fully grown - nor taking the time to fully train them when first taken home

Its all very well trying to rehome him on Mumsnet - but you know the cycle will continue with him being brought into new households with the best of intentions, and eventually, sadly, being PTS.

LadyTurmoil Mon 18-Mar-13 16:16:10

Laughing out loud Turniphead1 Brilliant and oh so true grin Why is it his socks always leave bits of black all over the carpet (I sensibly wear slippers, of course!) Would need a 1,500 word essay for all the other stuff...

idirdog Mon 18-Mar-13 16:48:47

I just can't believe this thread. Typical of people today things get a bit difficult and then they want to rehome and pass on the problem to someone else.

You need to man up to your responsibilities and start training this man. First show him who is the boss, without question he needs to be put in his place. Make him watch you eat your dinner, make sure you drink before him at all times. DO NOT ever let him sit next to you on the sofa, or sleep in your bed. If he is very dominant you may need to throw him on the floor and sit on him until he submits. If all else fails get him an shock collar and zap him everytime he leaves food out.

Turniphead1 Mon 18-Mar-13 17:35:27

spicypear have you considered rubbing your DHs nose in a day old bowl of sugary cereal? Or whacking him on the arse with a folded main section of the Mail on Sunday?

Clearly I would never advocate using these methods on a dog. But for an adult male with the inability to respond to any positive modern training methods - this might be your last resort.

Sarcasm is not what Spicy needs!

I see no reason why he wouldn't respond to clicker training with food rewards. Chips may be a quick and easy place to start as they smell tempting and can be gulped in one. Don't forget to reduce his daily food allowance on his plate though. Good luck!

TooYappy Mon 18-Mar-13 17:57:00

<childish snigger>

Abra1d Mon 18-Mar-13 17:59:51

Did you just fall for his appealing looks and forget what the reality would be like?

NotInMyDay Mon 18-Mar-13 18:01:48

Is there any chance of his breeder taking him back?

bergedorf Mon 18-Mar-13 18:04:47

This is going to be an unpopular point of view here on the Dogshouse, but I think everyone is being far too soft.

PTS is sometimes the only way to go I'm afraid in these situations. You have your Dear Dogs to think about after all, and even if your DH Does get rehomed, he may well be exposed to Dear Dogs in the future. It's just not worth the risk.

grin

In my experience Not, the breeder will run a mile before taking them back.

BrianCoxandTheTempleofDOOM Mon 18-Mar-13 18:06:54

Jeez, give me a house full of cat poo eating, brain-challenged, gloss-paint splattered, half-labs over living with a man every time grin

SpicyPear Mon 18-Mar-13 18:15:45

You guys are right, i should have done more research before setting up home with this man. I found him straying around uni campus, handsome but in need of a good groom and fattening up a little, and I went with heart over head sad

I just didn't realise how hard it would be and now the dogs have come along I don't have the time to deal with it anymore. In my defence, I did meet his mother but she didn't display any of these issues.

Thanks for the tips. I am going to try keeping back some of tonight's meal to use with the clicker and if that doesn't work I'll use the rolled up newspaper.

HugeSigh Mon 18-Mar-13 18:20:19

Can anyone recommend a good place to start looking for a rescue? Has to be cat and child friendly.

I'm feeling really broody now that my baby is almost 4 and I think a loveable soft furred breed to snuggle up with on the couch in the evenings would be a good idea.

What kind of upkeep costs would I be looking at btw? I would definitely get insurance too.

I'd probably spoil the poor thing rotten! I've seen some lovely leather collars and leads to start with smile

Hmm this has made me laugh and snort and wake up the baby I am breastfeeding to sleep!

I think outdoor kennels might be the best and kindest option. You could let him into the kitchen if his feet are dry once in a while...

DeepRedBetty Wed 20-Mar-13 08:29:59

Candidate for Classics?

wildfig Wed 20-Mar-13 10:47:50

The thing is, I'd love to rehome your DH but you just can't be sure how rescue cases will turn out. They might snap, or have some kind of emotional problem peeing on the seat that you'd have to deal with.

(I got mine from a recognised breeder, and she asked me loads of questions, and in fact still does ask me loads of questions about how he's getting on. Too many, in fact. I'm thinking about a rescue next time.)

tabulahrasa Wed 20-Mar-13 10:56:54

Has he been neutered? I find that neutering can be good for behavioural issues.

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