Please be gentle with me :(
My parents have a standard poodle who is around 3 yo. My dad is completely doolally over the dog - handcooks all her meals etc. She spends most of the day with him (he's retired) and can be quite jealous/possessive of him. She is not great with small children and tbf most of the time my parents are good at keeping them apart eg usually when I visit with DD the dog is kept upstairs.
A couple of times in the past the dog has nipped/snapped at DD's face, sometimes because DD has touched her in a way she doesn't like (eg on her back near her tail, though not her actual tail), at least once it has been completely unprovoked as far as I could tell - on this occasion my mum was holding DD and they were talking to/stroking the dog and I suddenly noticed the dog's body language had gone v odd, tucking her tail under her legs, then she suddenly snapped, but for no obvious reason that I could see. She has also gone for their neighbour's daughter's face a few times (neighbour's daughter aged between 4-6 at the time) but I don't know the circumstances.
On each of these occasions it has been very much a warning rather than an attack, though obviously traumatic for the child involved.
First incident seems to have been when my parents' great-niece was visiting. She was about four at the time and came over dressed as a dalmation puppy. Dog was very young at the time, maybe a year or younger. When great-niece saw the dog, she got down on all fours and barked at her and dog seems to have been convinced she was a puppy - first did the bowing down thing, then ended up playing with her very roughly as if she were a puppy and had to be hauled off. Confusing for the dog I appreciate. Not sure whether this is relevant or not but seems to be where it started.
Yesterday I visited my parents with DD, who is nearly 3. She loves the dog and is very gentle but maybe a little bit insistent with her. DD wanted to give the dog a biscuit and got one of her little meal biscuits out and tried to get the dog to take it. Dog not interested. I went and got a treat biscuit (Schmacko type thing) and DD gave it to the dog. So far so good. I then turned my back on DD and the dog. I realise that I shouldn't have done this, please don't flame me, I already feel terrible :( I have no idea what happened next but dog barked and I turned round to see dog going for DD's face again, lots of nibbling/nipping bites. I grabbed DD, who was understandably hysterical, dog was taken upstairs. Slightly annoyed by my mum who said "Oh, it feels like she's very close to your face, doesn't it?" - DD has a mark on her nose and a scratch on her cheek so dog was clearly touching her face
DD calmed down and said that she just wanted to give the little biscuit to the dog, so I'm assuming that she just kept trying to give it to the dog and dog felt cornered. DD doesn't seem to be scared of the dog now, thank goodness, though she will always ask me to pick her up if the dog comes near her (dog is as big as she is).
Sorry this is so long I just need some advice on where to go from here. I know I need to work harder at keeping an eye on DD around the dog and teaching her that she needs to leave the dog alone (as much as you can teach a 3 yo anything they don't want to learn). I haven't been too concerned until now as I feel that previous incidents have just been the dog's way of communicating "Oy, pack it in" rather than an actual attack, but not sure whether this is naive and dog is just a timebomb. Really I'd like DD never to go near the dog again but this is unrealistic as we visit there and parents sometimes look after DD, including taking her on walks with the dog.
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DitaVonCheese · 20/09/2011 10:53
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