I'm not coming back full-time - I think certain elements of this site are profoundly toxic and dangerous to childless women with the rising MumsNet as a lobby group (I live in utter terror of what the world would become if they got more of a political lobby foothold)... just thought I'd let you guys know what's what.
I saw scuttle had been on the warpath and I just need to ask for my username back - thank you, it touched me a lot (was stuck in the arse end of nowhere at the time having to be nice to the in-laws so couldn't do much else)... but I'm not going to go begging bowl in hand and be berated by the powers that be, and I fully expect this account to be nuked now I've fessed up to who it is (by the way MN - if you ban on Firefox... can still log in on a new ID on Internet Explorer - might want to look at that one). Me going off on one like I did was partially a reflection of the hurt and utter rage at the continual childless/free baiting and assumptions on here - and I guess I partly wanted to prove that they'd judge a childless woman bereaved by a series of miscarriages and infertility more harshly than one "in their club" so to speak. I was right on that front - sad that we don't have a voice for WOMEN as a whole anymore - places like Handbag I miss greatly because there, you weren't some kind of subhuman person if you had wonky plumbing (although I don't miss the fucking tickers). I don't think it's ever fair to judge people's capability to do their jobs on their reproductive status, I don't think it's fair to judge people's "worth" to society on their reproductive status - IN EITHER DIRECTION - yet it's perfectly OK on here.
Anyway - the update and small request... slobbery-dog is fine, houndy dog is a bossy pain in the arse and I got told off by the dog warden last week for her weight with the utter gem of a conversation of "have you wormed her"... "yep"... "are you feeding her"... well fuck no I KNEW there was something I'd forgotten! She's gaining and no longer looks like a toastrack on legs - but I'd rather she gained slowly than became a blimp overnight. She's even vaguely mastered obedience becoming the star pupil at doggy-asbo class last week - we did sits, we did downs, we did stays, we didn't eat the small yappy thing next to us!
OK the small request for fingers/paws/everything crossing... prayers if they're your sort of thing, good wishes if they're more your arena. After the last year of assuming the last miscarriage left me infertile I appear to be highly possibly up the duff again (don't quite trust that second line - it's faint and not flashing dayglo neon yet)... I need to ring the recurrent miscarriage lady and get in for an early scan, and there's a very very real possibility that I'll have to lose it again at the same point as all the others for them to be watching this time and see what's going wrong - so I'm not mentally picking out curtains for the nursery (I'd be thinking more "fuck, I'll have to actually tackle stripping the woodchip out of the room I've closed the door and decided to ignore it for a year" anyway).... I just figure getting a few more fingers crossed on our behalf may swing some force of cosmic karma in our direction so wanted you to know. I'm superficially quite calm and resigned about it all - worst case, it shows there's still some life in the wonky plumbing, slightly less worst case - we get a few answers and possible ways forward, best case - well, not even going there.
Dogs, and wonky mog, in whatever outcome are here to stay - would you really have expected anything else from me on that front?!
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Emptyshell update and a request for fingers/paws crossing
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DejaWho · 16/09/2011 08:00
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