i'm reading post by post so starting with
3cutedarlings I didn't say I kicked either dog. i said i 'kicked out'. this involved me pushing my foot out towards the dogs. it was to give the impression to the dogs that i was going to kick them. i had contact with the first one to push it away from us but not with the second. i did not harm either dog, apologies this wasn't clear from my OP. i couldn't have held on to the second dog even if i'd wanted to, given how it was leaping and it was a strong looking animal. i was not going to risk it pushing/pulling me over whilst i was holding dc1, especially given how slowly the owner was coming towards me. i forgot to mention above that it pushed over the lad playing football. and i absolutely agree with you about the recall bit
ok, next
DooinMeCleanin are you serious? i should have taken the stray to the vets? exactly how would this have happened?? it had no collar, i certainly had no lead/string with me. perhaps i could have tucked it up in the pushchair with my dc2
another apology coming up for missing out details in my OP.. there is a known issue of people breeding dogs for fighting in my area and the first dog could definitely been one of them. despite its size, it was very intimidating
i've covered your second point above
who's next...
Ephiny
i agree, the owners are at fault here. I didn't actually kick either dog and i apologise for giving the impression i did
good grief, you're comparing my children to a stray dog now? assuming you're being serious i will answer your question. if either of my children ran up to someone in a threatening manner and proved to be a threat to them ie they were brandishing a knife for example then yes, i wouldn't be surprised if they were roared and kicked out at. but, given that my children don't run around with knives, and are therefore not a threat to complete strangers then no, i wouldn't expect anyone to roar at them. Perhaps i've been lucky so far, as i said, my eldest is only 2.5yrs, but if i tell him to stop,wait, come back etc, then he listens to me every single time
ok, some sensible advice, thank you! that's all i was looking for!
vjg13
i agree, we've lived here for 3 years and its the first time anything like this has happened
the park we were in has a fenced off play area but the owners ignore it and to get to it, you need to walk through the main park, which is exactly what we were doing today. dcs are both very used to dogs, they have regular contact with a family member's dog and as i said in my OP, if a dog seems friendly i check with the owner if dc1 can stroke it
DavesMummy
you're right, i've realised my choice of words could have been better!
thank you for your kind words in your second paragraph
i suspect the second dog would have responded to 'off',so that's good to know, thank you.i'm not sure about the first, its not a breed i know anything about so it was a very unknown situation for me. the second dog, with hindsight, did just want to play but i found it intimidating due to its size. who knows what the intentions of the first dog were. it may well have lost interest if i'd walked away but i was more conscious of getting in between it and my dcs, which meant i couldn't walk away.
It does seem that ignoring them seems to be the sensible thing to do and this will obviously be better for dcs to witness as well so i'll definitely try this if there's a next time.
And yes, your message did help so thank you
Vallhala
you're wrong, neither is a lie, i don't lie, i have no need to. perhaps i should clarify that i love dogs that don't threaten my children.
the owner of the second dog was lucky not to have been punched by the angry father of the boy who was knocked over. but that was their battle, not mine.
if it happens again i will obviously try ignoring the dog and saying 'off'. if that doesn't work and it is still being intimidating/threatening towards my dc then there is nothing that would stop me preventing my dcs from being hurt. call it a maternal instinct if you like but no dog is going to ever attack my dcs if i'm there to prevent it.
i was attacked by a dog as a child. its owner told me it was just trying to kiss me, i was pinned to the floor and absolutely terrified
i have also been witness to a dog attacking someone in the park. fortunately someone had a bottle of water with them and they knew to throw water on it to release the girl's arm from its jaws
dogs are animals. end of story
littleducks
a voice of reason! thank you! thank you! i agree with your every word!
Caz10
i'm not scared of dogs but i am very uncomfortable with dogs that approach me uninvited, especially if their owner isn't within grabbing distance
back turned, arms crossed i can do!
DooinMeCleanin
i will make sure i get the dog warden's number on my phone tonight. so yes, that is some more sensible advice, thank you but given that i haven't ever needed to call them before, its not a number i know
as for helping strays, in a different situation i have helped a stray dog. i was on my own, driving down a country lane and a dog ran out in front of me. i pulled over, checked its collar, found his address so bundled him into the boot of my car and took him home (5 miles out of my way). the owner had a fancy intercom thing and refused to believe me that i had her dog in my car, reckoned i was just trying to rob her because her dog was in the kitchen. i suggested she went and checked in her kitchen before she came down to the gate to apologise to me in person. she didn't, she sent her son down instead to get the dog!
in that situation that was the right thing to do but in my situation yesterday, no way!
AmazingBouncingFerret
so i'm stupid, thanks for that. my negative behaviour was because i was genuinely scared by the first dog and concerned we were all going to get knocked over by the second
i will add a 'no' to my mental list of future actions
beamur
thank you
chickchickchicken
i did feel the first one was a threat though
i was irrational from a genuine worry for the safety of my dcs
you think i should have helped the stray too? i'm amazed, i really am
i hope that i don't have anymore situations like today's or yesterday's but if i do, i will ignore and walk away from the dog in the first instance. say 'no' and 'off' in the second. if these actions don't work, i will do whatever i have to do to keep my children safe
thank you again to those who offered sensible advice